Poll : What Is Your View About Warning Others About Narcissists?


You have become educated about our kind or you are in the process of establishing your education and with this knowledge it is often the case that you wish to do more with it as you see more and more of our kind around you, around your family, your friends and generally. How do you proceed?

Do you have the desire to warn and inform others but think there is no point because people just do not get it if they have not experienced it? Perhaps you are evangelical about spreading the word but are concerned that you will come across as obsessed because of people’s lack of understanding and/or the impact of smearing that has taken place?

Maybe you want to warn people but you will only do so when the narcissist has engaged with a person and if so, would that be the next victim who you may not personally know or just in terms of your friends and family?

Perhaps you would like to want people but you realise that you need to look to your own defences and conserve your time and energy, rather than spread it thin trying to ride to the rescue of other people? Maybe you have successfully warned people that you know or possibly even people you do not know about a specific narcissist who has targeted them? You might be busy spreading the word far and wide, looking to forewarn people before it happens, pushing the information to all that you can as essential knowledge to ensure people do not suffer in the way you have.

Whatever it might be, do select as many answers as are applicable to your situation before casting your vote and do expand on your experiences and thoughts in the comments section.

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What is your view about warning other people about narcissism?

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154 thoughts on “Poll : What Is Your View About Warning Others About Narcissists?

  1. Quitting says:

    So far, I have warned 4 different women and that made no sense. It seems to me those women are even more into him than before, continuing their online adoration. I guess people evenyually have to find out for themselves, before they understand the confusion and pain. And the narc, he is so evil, I watch all his online manipulation, the suck up, the love bombing, the mindf*ck, etc.. and I feel l want to kill him. How many victims can one narc make? It’s horrible. From now on I’ll stop following him, because watching his actions make me feel complicit.

  2. 19.19 says:

    I had the good favor of almost all of my extensive friend group warning me about him whenever I talked about things he was doing. Even friends who hadn’t met him. Consequently, when I left only a few people were disappointed, but they were so only because they knew I had been hopeful, and not because I was leaving behind something potentially good.

  3. Lisa says:

    I wouldn’t bother warning anyone it’s pointless, I think people have to read about this stuff over a long period of time for themselves for it to sink in . The handful of people I’ve spoke to about it , just don’t get it and neither did I , for a very long time and even when I did start to get it , I still didn’t fully grasp all of it . Took me 2 years to be able to now say I am reasonably knowledgeable about the subject , or maybe I’m just a bit slow !!!!
    There’s also so many around that people think your nuts when you point out how many there are ……

  4. Carol M says:

    “Funny” story: I made my exit from NPD Facebook groups, but I am still on a couple of dating sites. A few days ago, a couple of ladies started noticing a man who would write to some of them with the same narrative, playing the victim, doing obvious triangulation with them and basicly manipulating them to gather simpathy. One of them exposed her concern to the admin and a discussion was set up as to whether the guy was abusive or not. I made a small presentation of the traits he had shown which pointed to him being a narcissist and I even could tell already which kind of empath those ladies were (one of them was soooooooo the Geyser, ther one was a Carrier, etc.) when suddenly one “Leigh Tenant” comes out of the blue in defense of said guy with the phrase “Well, at least we are strong enough to allow love to reach us!” Well, after that, I give in, if they sorely want to be abused, be my guests.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Well spotted Carol M.

  5. Yolo says:

    I have warned family and friends about specific narcissist and narcissism in general. Some think I am over exaggerating but keeps complaining about the persons behaviors.

    I do warn people generally in order to educate them about this problem to hopefully save them from the experience or to provide resources to get out.

    I dont do social media but i do have accounts with high traffic sites where I’ve dedicated one of my listings for narcissism. Recently, without H.G. consent i posted the blog site in place of my information after reading a few letters. I am 100% committed to bringing awareness to as many people as I can reach.

    Its hard to sit in DBT group and hear a few people speak of trying to use the tools with these types. Tears flowing, nothing seems to work in their attempts to get the other person to change. I am happy to see 1 of the participants come around and realize its not her. I gave her one of H.G. books a few months back.

    I was warned not to label or judge. 😉

  6. Betrayed says:

    I have not yet, but fully intend to warn the husbands/boyfriends of the women my ex finance has slept with and continues to hover. I cannot live with the fact that he continues to destroy families. My Narc loves married and taken women best. Loves getting REALLY close to the husbands too. It thrills him to fool ppl. Being exposed is his worst fear. He has no idea of my knowledge, and the proof I have would stand up in a court of law. I will expose him. My life has never been more peaceful and I am happy he is gone. He isn off the hook yet though.

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