The Narcissist’s Social Media Laws – No. 3
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I personally found this particular abhorrent slap in the face one of the most insulting and humiliating things that she did. I was invisible for the most part as IPPS, on any Social Media and it wasn’t an issue. When she found her new IPPS, and I was dis-engaged to IPSS, I was blocked from all her social media. Almost immediately there it is was on Instagram, the new shiny couple in loving poses, with loving tag lines!!
I was furious; she was furious I found out!!! and immediately down played, deflected, and ignored me. There was no question she knew what she had done, and the effect it would have on me. I fell right into it!
I know better now.
Beware its a real thing!
I haven’t looked. Not even once and it’s been over a year. Proud of myself but realize that I would be in danger of a hoover if it ever happened. I left the tiniest crack open, hard to find but I’m curious to see if he will find it. I love putting your theories to the test HG! They always prove to be true.
Thanks again Fearless Leader!
You are welcome.
I know that narcs frequently try to seduce our friends but how would a narc react if we started pursuing or at least talking, to one of their friends?
In what context? Are you a friend of the narcissist or an intimate partner of the narcissist? Are you just speaking to the friend or flirting?
An IPPS flirting with the friend on an online dating site
We would not like that. It would wound but the response depends on when it takes place in the dynamic. If this takes place during the embedded golden period the Lesser would erupt about it, The Mid-Range would want to learn more and would dole out a pity play and ask that you refrain from continuing, the Greater would laugh it off but mention something derogatory about the friend to lessen your interest and then warn the friend off without you knowing. If this took place during devaluation, you would be punished for the behaviour as a consequence of the wounding causing ignited fury.
All of you wouldn’t believe how naive i have been
all these 10 years ( we live in different towns, and he always came over, i occasionally went there)
he knew all my friends and interacted with them, but he never told me who his friends are
can you believe it?
HG
i know you have written a lot about it, but how can it be that he never told me about his friends or introduced me to anyone? .. i’ ve met only his parents and grandparents occasionally.
He saw no need for you to know them and possibly also felt that allowing you to meet them could be counter productive.
Absolutely not!!! In fact i avoid my narcs social media bc it would be used as a tool. If we broke up id never look up what he was up to bc itd cause so much pain. Id rather not know.
You are a smart gal! <3
Most people on social media don’t post the bad stuff either. All they show is smiles and good times and positive comments. Even when you know their life is a fraud and in shambles. Mother of all Fakers! If good they post it if bad Its covered up. Narcissists go over the top.
Imagine what the real updates would be from a victim perspective? ‘Just been reading old texts and emails from my love-bombing period. He’s been giving me the silent treatment all evening, making me anxiety ridden over what possibly could be wrong. Oh there was a cold stare just now. Must be going to cater and serve. Hugs xx’
That’s why I miss Live Journal…where people always posted the bad stuff. lol
Not necessarily. They may post fake bad stuff or actual bad stuff made up to look worse to gather simpathy, therefore, fuel. Covert narcissists do this a lot – their facebook page looks like a Turkish soap opera: drama, drama and more drama…
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Why, Your Majesty is entitled to the best captions always.
Fucking A!
Oh my!!! 😳
In my case, narc was no adept of social networking, only online meeting sites where he could choose his “pray” (he is somehow “old schooled”, 40+ y.o).
ALL of his family and friends believe him a saint. His facade is far more important than exposing/parading his new victim in front of his discarded/escaped one. Plus, that’s why he fooled me, he seemed the nicest man I’ve met. He fooled me twice, because, as friends (I was single then), after our first break-up, I asked for his help and received it in a moment notice; if I knew he had someone else, I wouldn’t have kept in contact, not wanting to hurt the other woman. He gave me the impression of a lonely and sad…”wolf”, that was why I so wanted to help him and me, both, and make it work for us (he “implanted” in my brain that “we’ll always have each other” BS). But…that was only my imagination (his “construction” during years apart and some months together). One thing is for sure and I told him in our last conversations: I let you fool me, so much I wanted you to be The One, that I closed my brain to my logic, intuition and evident proves.
But…only The Truth sets us free.
HG, do you have any advice or maybe another blog post regarding warning the new victim?
I am not sure If i should even try. But I feel like i see a person going on the road of destruction and am not doing anything…Even if she will not believe me I will know I have done my part. I do not want anyone to go through the same mental torment I have been through.
aha- I got it!!!
test on my new name only
HG have any of your friends, family, coworkers ever mentioned HG Tudor to you? Have you ever seen someone reading one of your books out in public?
No.
No, although I am relishing the day that does happen.
Oohh!! This reminds me – is there a way to obtain an autographed copy of your books?
Yes – email me.
Oh how the fuel will be flooding in….😃
remember the Harry Enfield character loadsamoney?
Seeing the book will give loadsafuel!
Whop your wad, whop your wad, whop your wad on the counter!
ha touche!
I just looked up the scousers on youtube the other day and it’s stil funny.
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Sounds great, doesn’t it?
My suggestion to ALL. BLOCK THEM on ALL social media platforms. Why do you need to see them, so it can hurt you? As a person finding my strength, I blocked him on everything. I also suggest turning to God in all of this. HG may not believe in God…but as a victim of abuse, rape and other horrid things; the only thing that has kept me going is my children and my faith. To my ex narc, I love you but I need to be away from you. It’s for me. Not you.
I’m with you Elyse – may the Lord give us the comfort and strenght we need, because from narcs we will only receive the opposite. (Except Hurt God – HG -, evidently).