Infatuation
I have never known anybody like you. You are amazing. You are so loving, so kind and so gentle. Everything you do makes me happy. I didn’t think that was possible, not after the last person I was involved with. I don’t want to go on about that person for too long, why spoil this wonderful moment eh? Suffice to say they were not what I thought they were, a con-artist and a charlatan who made me think that they were something else and they took advantage of my good nature. I know you will not do that. I know you are too good a person. It is written all over you. I cannot believe how lucky I am to have found you. I wasn’t really looking but I am sure glad that I have found you. You are amazing. Have I told you that already? I can see you nodding. Sorry, I am just so excited to have finally found you and I am just so excited about all the adventures and fun we are going to have together. You really are everything that I have ever wanted in a person. There are not enough wonderful adjectives available to describe, there really aren’t.
My friends think I am nuts, but in a good way, because all I do is go on about you. I tell them the places we go to, the marvellous days we spend together and just hat a special, precious and loving person that you are. It restores your faith in human nature after all of the terrible things that have happened, sorry I am mentioning them again, I must stop doing that. I am all over the place, in the good way, this is what you do to me. Anyway, I tell my friends all about you, all of the time and I know that they are delighted to see me so deliriously happy because they have not seen me like this for some time. I have such plans for you and I. Wonderful, momentous and special plans. I want to tell you all about them now because they are that good, but I am not going to. I don’t want to spoil the surprises. This feels like my birthday, Christmas, a promotion and a wedding day all rolled into one. I know you might think I am going over the top but this is how happy you make me feel. I feel like I am on fire, fizzing with anticipation and joy. It is truly sensational and it is all down to you. You have brought this out in me. If it wasn’t for you I don’t know what I would have done. You rescued me and made me smile. You are my world. I mean that. I want to be with you all of the time and forever because you are so giving, so warm, so loving, so considerate, so funny, so attractive and well, just the very, very best. I have told my family about you, naturally and they cannot wait to meet you. I think they are nearly as excited as me. I think of you as soon as I wake up and you are in my thoughts all through the day and as I lie down at night I think of you again and wonder what you are doing and wish I was with you right at that moment.
You move me to the extent that I want to do great things for you and I and everyone else. You inspire me, you drive me and you motivate me. I feel completed now I have you, like nothing can ever hurt me and I know I will never let anything hurt you. That can never happen. I need you and I hope that you need me, we are a partnership and cannot be torn asunder, no matter what the world throws at us.
You will probably have seen my Facebook page littered with all those comments about you. I just feel them welling up inside of me and I have to let them out, give birth to them if you will and let them be shared with the world. It is the right thing to do, to allow such joy and happiness to be shared all around. Why shouldn’t other people be happy as well because we are? I want you. I want you more than anything I have ever wanted before I will do anything with you. I want us to be together, I want us to be one. I want us to grow old together and still be in love in sixty years as we are now. I know what we have is so special that we can achieve that.
I know I am babbling on but it is all good isn’t it? It is right to be this enthusiastic and excited and I know this is always going to be the case. That gives me so much comfort but again it is all because I know that we can rely on one another, trust one another and support one another. We are made for one another. Your hands fit mine perfectly, we coil together at night, fitting perfectly around one another. You finished my sentences and I know what you are going to say right before you say it. It is as if we have been forged from the same thing all those years ago, then separated and finally we have been put back together again in order to be happy and why not, we deserve to be happy. You make me happy and I will do the same for you. I want to tell the world how wonderful you make me feel. I want to take out advertisements in newspapers, on YouTube and on television. I want to shout if from the highest mountain and from the rooftops that I love you.
Am I infatuated? Of course you are. Who wouldn’t be so infatuated when being with someone as gloriously brilliant as me. Now, say that all again to me.
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Hi HG
Excellent as usual. I have a question what does it mean when my lesser greater says he would die without me, or that I am his heart and soul…I heard reference to this in one of your videos but I am unable to find it again.
Flamboyance in order to extract fuel from you by way of admiration and approval.
Thank you HG, that makes sense. So if my ex mid-ranger is still declaring his love for the girl who escaped him before he started dating me (he declares it on social media as benign hoovers, eg. linking to love songs and so on), it’s not because he still thinks she is the one but because 1. he triangulates her with me and other targets 2. he would like to hoover her back to punish her for the escape and to discard her properly?
1. Yes.
2. Possibly – he may wish to hoover he back into the Formal relationship as he sees her as the one again. He may not wish to do that and it is being done with a medium term stance of drawing her back in to punish her.
So is this dynamic possible:
1. Narcissist has a new shiny IPPS and thinks “she is the one”
2. She lets him down so he no longer think she is the one and starts devaluing her.
3. Because of savage devaluation she escapes him.
4. He starts to see her as “the one” once again?? How come?
There will have been an intervening appliance between 3 and 4.
why am I in a panic if I do not see for a day?
Id take genuine love anyday over lovebombing infatuation. The kind of love that it doesnt matter if you look like hell your partner loves and accepts you. The kind where youre a unit thru thick and thin bc you care about each other…thats real love. This infatuation thing is fake and cheap. It never lasts bc it was never real love.
A friend of mine who was into modelling married and her hubby adored her. From the outside it looked like a fairytale marriage fast forward 5 years and she has a terminal cancer. He dropped her so fast. He couldnt handle real love and real life. He was infatuated with her til reality hit that she wasnt his perfect image. Infatuation is fake.
Ditto, narc affair…real love doesn’t abandon you, ever.
So, does the mid-ranger consciously believe this one is “the one” despite a history of failed relationships?
This also reminded me of Tom Cruise jumping for joy on Oprah’s couch after meeting Katie Holmes. How odd I thought that was, all those years ago.
Correct.
When the IPPS escapes, do you still think she is the one?
If yes – how can you think so if she escaped probably because you were devaluing her? I thougt that narcissist starts devaluation because he already knows she is not the one?
If the IPPS escapes during seduction – they still are, but this has never happened and would be highly unusual.
If during devaluation – then no, because they are being devalued and they have already let us down.
Like the last piece to a puzzle 😏
HG, why the victims escape the narcisst? I suppose it’s because the golden period has ended, it was abusive devaluation phase and the victim said: enough, I am no longer happy, this relationship is not healthy, I want to get free.
So if there was devaluation going why the narcissists get hurt so much because of the escape? They would discard this victim if she stayed. So why all that begging, pleading if you already know it wasn’t “the one” (because I asume victims don’t escape during the golden period when you hope she is the one and when the golden perdiod comes to an end it’s because you already know she is not the one). So I don’t get it. If I were you I would tell to myself “well, she was a trash after all and I was devaluing her, I would discard her anyway, so bye bye useless toy, f.ck you”. But as I can see narcissists (esp mid-range) cry after the victim’s escape like if the world suddenly came to an end.
Victims escape (although it is far less common that us disengaging from you) when they no longer wish to tolerate the abusive behaviour. This may not be the first “go around” with the narcissist but possibly after having been hoovered back into the formal relationship again.
HG, you’re good. Too damn good.
I agree.
Of course you would agree.