Exposed : 5 Further Tips To Flush Out The Narcissist

EXPOSED - 5 FURTHERWAYS TO FLUSH OUT THE NARCISSIST

 

Here are five further opportunities to flush out whether the person you are interacting with is potentially one of our kind.

  1. Ask which parent we liked the best

The Lesser will launch into an uncontrolled tirade about the one he hates because that is the one that has made his life a misery since childhood. He despises that person and will relish the opportunity to share his vitriol with you.

The Mid-Range will not opt for fury but rather will speak in melancholic terms for the purposes drawing some kind of sympathy about how he misses a particular parent (one will be preferred over the other and this will be the one who he wanted to love him but did not) and he will describe how he does so much for this parent but is underappreciated. He will not actually choose one parent over the other but instead he will use the question as an opportunity to convey his woes.

The Greater will tell you that his parents died in a car crash, or left the country, or that he was abandoned as child purely for the purposes of gathering fuel from you and making him appear to be a troubled soul, whilst every time you look in the other direction he will be smirking. When you eventually meet his parents he will use your bewilderment at their appearance to make a joke and display how he loves his parents immensely. This is all show. He actually wishes they were dead.

The Normal will not pick one over the other usually, but if he does, this will be done after emphasising the good points of both parents so that one only just shades it.

  1. Ask what our favourite toy was during childhood

The Lesser will recount a tale about how his favourite toy was broken by a parent, a sibling or stolen by a supposed friend. The rant he will engage in will seem like this toy was hugely expensive and that the event happened yesterday.

The Mid-Range will most likely point to a board game and remark about how he won every game that he ever played and may even admit to cheating at the game. He will answer this question quickly, as if it is something that is often at the forefront of his mind.

The Greater will dismiss having played with toys and will explain how he was too busy studying, playing sport or chasing girls. Indeed, there is every chance that he will explain he was doing all three. He does not want too many reminders of childhood because the memories remain painful and all too clear, not that he will admit that to you. He will instead ask you about your favourite toy.

The Normal will smile and identify something which will be straight-forward and simple but he will speak about it with fond enthusiasm.

  1. Ask when did we last cry

The Lesser will relate it to some personal slight that he has suffered. It will not be because he was upset about someone else, but rather that he was upset for himself. He will not be able to provide a precise time.

The Mid-Range will profess it was as a consequence of a sad film or on seeing some campaign to help blind gay whales find their parents. He wants you to think he cares and is compassionate so will align his supposed crying with such an event. The reality is he cried when he thought his last supply was leaving because he felt bad for himself and he knew that turning on the water works is a sure fire way of stopping the departure and garnering sympathy.

The Greater will say that he does not cry. He will be proud of that fact and not wish to mask it. He will then ask you what makes you cry and make a careful note of what your answers are.

The Normal will explain it was when his grandmother passed away, when his dog died or when Bambi’s mother was killed by the hunter in the film. It may also be when his team last won the championship or when he was re-united with a long lost friend.

  1. Apply a gentle criticism to us

The Lesser will reject the assertion and argue that you are wrong. He will initially keep a lid on his ignited fury because this has been done during the seduction but if you press the point he will erupt.

The Mid-Range will fall silent as he tries to prevent the criticism from igniting his fury. He cannot respond because he is exerting his control to keep his ignited fury under control. Once he feels it abating he will either change topic pretending that he never heard it or he will depart from your company for a few minutes as he regains his composure. Say hello to your first, short silent treatment.

The Greater will smile and laugh. The smile will be false and the laugh hollow. He has plenty of control during this seduction to prevent his ignited fury from manifesting. Expect however a back-handed compliment later in the interaction and he has filed away your comment which will be revisited on you during devaluation.

“Remember when you said you did not like this tie? I certainly do. Well, Louise loves this tie and thinks it suits me. Who is Louise? Wouldn’t you like to know?”

The Normal will smile and laugh it off, asking you “Do you think so, why do you say that?” interested to know why you have said what you have said. He may reject it but will do so pleasantly or he may take the comment on board with good grace.

  1. Observe our interactions with a minion

The Lesser will go out of his way to be haughty and demonstrate that he is the boss in order to try to impress you.

The Mid-Range will be charming and pleasant in order to draw fuel from both you and the minion. His obsequiousness will be noticeable and he will spend more time than he ought to deal with the minion.

The Greater will be flirtatious and point out that “They love me in here because of how much I spend, I always get a great table and great service.” It will be all about how great he is and how the minion is there to serve him.

The Normal will be polite and have minimal interaction with the minion because he will be concentrating on you.

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20 thoughts on “Exposed : 5 Further Tips To Flush Out The Narcissist”

  1. HG, to make sure I understand correctly: the parent spoken about most favorably is the narcissistic abusive parent? That is the opposite of what one would think. Can you elaborate on why this would be? Also, does it appear to have more impact on the development of NPD if the mother is the narcissist vs it being the father? Thank you in advance Sir.

  2. Say hello to your first, short silent treatment.

    Ha, this is why my midrangers do not respond to me when I disagree with them. They go completely silent. Every fucking time.

    1. Hi K,

      Yep, my hub does the same thing when I’ve confronted him. It’s crazy how predictable this behavior can be! In the past, he used to rage when challenged (or was perfectly calm when he was trying to win me back). However, now he goes quiet. Every time he’s uncomfortable. He even went quiet when I told him I knew he’d been hording pics of my mother’s feet. To this day, he STILL hasn’t addressed it and is acting like there’s nothing fucked up about it. He’s resorted to actually having sex with me, as a band-aid so I don’t bring it up again. And so much other shit that he will never ever address.

  3. The ‘blind gay whales’ reference makes me laugh every time. HG, you like that one, don’t you?

    I remember saving blind gay whales was one of the ‘Three Little Empaths’ favourite activities.

  4. Shawn, I think you misunderstood me– it was simply a fun poke at HG– not meant as an injury– just funnin’ with him! He has helped me immensely and I highly recommend a personal – even email consult with him!!!

    1. Hi Empress1

      He (HG) has helped us all in one way or another. I understand your fun poke. They (narcs) do have fun with us, usually at our expense.

      Its wonderful that HG has helped you and I sincerely do wish you well.

    1. Hi Pam,

      Well Damn! What kind of foolishness is that? Narcs are real special (in the head that is) and I don’t mean special as in a compliment.

  5. Can a lesser or mid – ranger make up family members so he can relate with you too? First year contact he had lil sister he would babysit and this year all off sudden it was a little brother . just like with the greater lying but eventually reality can proof its otherwise.

    ~~This is all show. He actually wishes they were dead. Anyway this is a pretty disturbing part

    My last question I always ask so many !!

    1. Absolutely. We will make-up family members if necessary, lie about our relationship with them (make the good when it is bad and vice versa) and do whatever is necessary to gain what we require.

      1. Ohh wow thats so wild! , I always exaggerate my accomplishment or switch future plans like i’m doing it right now so at least the facade somehow stays spotless either way both are wrong to do I guess..

        Thank you so much for the explaintion again very helpfull .

  6. Oh boy! Do you have them figured out…..now for us to use this information so we can stay safe! Thank you again, kind sir…… with a lowercase ‘s’……. You have enough ego, and fuel – I need not add anymore!

      1. HG,

        I’ll give you some more fuel. After all you are helping us, whether you like it or not.Thanks for the post.

        I can ask questions like this to weed out future prospects, and to my current mid range narc “friend.” Although we haven’t spoken to one another for about a week now I’m in the devaluation stage or is it the black stage? Meh, who cares!

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