The Narcissistic Icicles – No. 6


20 thoughts on “The Narcissistic Icicles – No. 6

  1. SN says:

    Sarabella, this is in reply to your comment about your wishes for my attitude towards HG.

    I may or may not let it sink in, Sarabella.

    However, I beg to differ a bit, and this is not only my wishful thinking. It is the truth as I lived it and I saw it.

    Malignant/ narcissists are people who may or may not show the good part in them. To me it depends mostly on what I bring into the interaction (as I don’t intend to control anybody else) – and if my part is played on the good side (minus naive) then HG is a talented man, whose perspective I value.

    I hope you understand.

  2. Tim says:

    Ran into my ex narcissist at a bar last night. She was with her new fuel source and her daughter. I should’ve left. I didn’t. I didn’t look at her, didn’t speak to her, didn’t make any gestures, just did my own thing. This woman stalked me for 13 months. Hacked emails, Facebook and put spyware on my phone. I am complete no contact. Haven’t seen her since Dec. She is a greater. What did my presence do to her?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      It was a hoover trigger if she saw you. She did not hoover you however as you do not say that she tried to talk to you therefore the HEC were not made out to support a direct approach. You may find an alternative hoover occurs (assuming she can do so) otherwise the moment has passed.

      1. Tim says:

        Oh, she saw me. She was with her new supply and daughter and she has no way of contacting me. Complete no contact. Thx for replying.

  3. MB says:

    Written by my fave song writer, Taylor Swift. Made popular by Little Big Town. Clearly about a narcissist.

    1. narc affair says:

      Hi MB…great song!

  4. Suzanne says:

    Got to agree with others. I listened to the professionals, I listened to the injured, however listening to you directly from the mouth of a narcissist was the end of my delusional thinking. Listening to you was the enertia for me to permanently say goodbye. I am left with a hole in my heart, memories of priceless sexual encounters, and began my road of recovery. I haven’t stopped crying or hurting and have yet to forgive myself for falling prey to a inhumane, non empathetic beast. However it is a beginning. For this I thank you. I find it so sad that you and others live your lives like this and the countless people that get hurt along the way. I truly hope your writing gives you peace and you are able to maybe fix what is broken for you!

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Thank you and you are welcome.

  5. SN says:

    What gives?!

  6. Priya says:

    I am so happy I am not there anymore. Thank you for your priceless instructions. Without your guidance, I will never succeed. I think, I managed to cast out him. It is a long way, but at the end of the road there is again light and joy 🙂 The site is a great idea. I don’t know what are your motives for that, but you are doing big job!

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Thank you

  7. anm says:

    this one is the worst. as victims of an abuser. people often say to call the police if you are in danger or your child is in danger. some narcissist will be so calculated, that the will convince authorities that you are crazy and making false claims. then the authorities willl tell you to work it out on your own, as both parties are guilty. then the narcissist has a field day for abuse

  8. Lori says:

    This is the hardest part for me. They didn’t ask to be a narcissist but it is who they are and they can. I more quit being who they are anymore than we can.

    I once read that with other mental illness it’s like a blanket that comes down over the victim but Narcissism isn’t like that it’s woven into them it’s who they are every fiber interwoven into to who they are. It’s not like they can take some medications and the blanket or cloak lifts it’s not an illness overlaying their personality. It IS their personality. Without it, the they cease to exist

    1. nikitalondon says:

      yes very hard to accept that there are bad people that will never become good. Whomeever is capable of saying sooo hurtful things like those icecles is a heartless person that yes, most probable uncapable of loving or doing something good. Its even hurtful to read.

      1. SN says:

        And yet, Nikita of London, read on to find out more that this is how a narcissist’s mind works.

        I had a thought today – they have a hard time accepting charitylable gestures and fuel – they insist on having to pay for it. Hence the icicles. At least HG stays on his device and doesn’t have time to hurt people around him so often.

        1. HG Tudor says:

          So you like to think.

      2. MB says:

        This is just his “HG” device. He has at least a couple more “John Doe” (or whoever he is) devices with plates spinning. Don’t underestimate the Ultra.

      3. sarabella says:

        Yeah, SN. Sadly HG is doing to others right now, what has been done to us all. And, despite his “therapy”, he will never stop. To think otherwise is because of what he writes about: your hope, your faith, your belief in goodwill, change and love. Remove that from yourself and consider HG and you will see he will always remain a malignant narcisssit. Never believe otherwise.

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  9. Lori says:

    What a way to live. Day after day just wanting to punish. Looking for the next fix knowing that if you don’t get it you will be consumed and can’t exist. The irony how someone who clearly fears dependence on anyone is so very dependent.

    The Narcissists life always seems like one big irony.

    Its easy to detest these people but the sad thing is they weren’t born this way. They were created by shitty parents who hurt them so badly that they killed off their true selves and formed a new false self because they were in so much pain.

    Very sad.

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