No Contact. This is the go to response once you realise what you are dealing with. A fundamental part of your defensive armoury and we hate no contact – it wounds us and starves us of fuel – and it has a host of other benefits for the victim.
No contact is often challenging owing to our determination to hoover, the misleading effect of your emotional thinking and the practical considerations which arise and are seized on by this emotional thinking as reasons no to impose a solid no contact.
There are certain instances where your resolve to maintain no contact is sorely tested. It might be that you find yourself angry about the parlous financial state the narcissist has left you in so you want to raise this with the narcissist, lambast him or her and demand they correct the situation. It could be that you are reminded of an anniversary from your relationship with the narcissist and it prompts a burst of golden-tinged nostalgia that has you wanting to speak to or spend time with the narcissist. Perhaps you have heard the narcissist is with someone new and you want to find out why this has happened or you want to contact the narcissist to learn more about what is happening in that relationship. There are many instances which test your desire to maintain no contact. Which of the list resonate with you? You may choose up to three and as ever do expand with your observations in the comments.
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