Cold fury is the manifestation of ignited fury. All schools of narcissist will utilise cold fury, however it is used most of all by the Mid Range Narcissist and least by the Lesser Narcissist. Like any manifestation of fury, it is designed to draw fuel from the victim to address the wounding that has been caused to the narcissist’s construct.
Which forms of cold fury have you experienced? Has the narcissist given you an Absent Silent Treatment and walked out on you to disappear for days or weeks (note this does not include the situation where you have been disengaged – if you could still telephone or message the narcissist and were not blocked during this AST you were not disengaged from). Perhaps you were cold-shouldered at work or a party where the narcissist engaged pleasantly with everyone else but ignored you, failing to respond to your polite questions, not looking at you and brushing off your responses (whilst of course sucking in your fuel). Did the narcissist play the Incredible Sulk and sit there pouting and sulking? Perhaps the narcissist talked about you or communicated through third parties (“Tell your mother I do not want anything for dinner.”) even though you were there in the room. You may choose all forms that have been used against you and as ever please do expand on your experiences in the comments section.
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