Every Victim Is Lying


I must adopt the standpoint that every one of my victims is lying. There is no hope for me to be any different. You level accusations at me and I know you are lying because the comments make no sense to me. I gave you a fabulous and perfect love and you accepted that. You willingly entered into a union with me and with that you received my largesse and favour. You did not demur or hesitate. Instead, you embraced everything wonderful about what I gave you. Be it the expensive gifts, eloquent expressions of my love or the seemingly never-ending array of glamorous occasions to attend, you took them all. Do you have any idea how much energy I channelled into doing this for you? The repeated text messages, the “sudden appearances” which were in fact carefully crafted and organised, the many telephone calls that I made to you at all different times? All of that took a considerable effort on my part. Yet now, when I am tired and I lose my temper you accuse me of not caring. How can I not care? I am with you am I not? Have you forgotten everything that I ever did for you? It seems to me that you have. What was that vow you said with such enthusiasm, for better and for worse? You have had the better (in fact you received the best) and now it is time for some of the worse, yet you will not tolerate that will you? No, it is clear that you lied. You lied when we got married because now you are reneging on that vow. How do you think that makes me feel? Is it any surprise that I am angry with you when you question me since you have no standing to do so?

You accuse me of not listening. That is another lie. What is there for me to hear? You trot out the same old allegations which are unfounded. At times I cannot discern what you are actually saying because you are so hysterical. How on earth can I listen to you when you behave like that? It is downright unreasonable. You go off and complain about me to your friends and family. That is charming. You are denigrating me in their eyes and that is uncalled for. Yes, I may do it about you, but that is with some justification I might add. You also said you would forsake all others, yet how many times have I caught you flirting with other men from your workplace? What about those pictures of you and your friends with those men you met in a bar which were posted on Facebook. You thought I would not see them didn’t you? Yes, I keep a careful eye on what your friends’ post as they are not to be trusted, leading you astray when you promised that you would do not. Is it any wonder I feel compelled to spend time with other people when you treat me like this?

You accepted everything wonderful that I gave you and now when it is time to give back and add some balance to the equation you seek to escape your responsibilities by accusing me of all manner of misdemeanours and malevolent behaviour. Your hypocrisy sticks in my craw. I know your game, I have you in my eye. You are seeking to deflect attention from your own wrongdoing by telling lies about me. Ha! I have you worked out missy, I always have and you are not as smart as me. You deliberately misunderstand what I say. You imply and insinuate when I have made myself clear. I will not be beaten by your mendacity, no I will not. I will stand strong and ensure that I reflect back on to you the lies you have told. I must do this to avoid your desire to crush and destroy my fragile self with your perfidious ways. I never knew you could be so evil.

18 thoughts on “Every Victim Is Lying

  1. Sulu says:

    I want to send this to my narc so badly. Just to stick in his craw. Whaddya think?

  2. Cindy says:

    I’m rubber and you’re glue…nah nah nah. Pure gaslit projection HD. Damn you’re good.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      This HD fellow, who is he? Something to do with television?

      1. Cindy says:

        Lol. My apologies HG.

  3. MIn says:

    pure and simple projection

  4. kiki says:

    Thanks HG this article has helped me right now.

  5. K says:

    I sense a disturbance in the force.

  6. DebbieWolf says:

    Blimey… I felt completely gaslighted reading that. I’d even forgotten how it had begun and had to recap.

    Hmm. I don’t miss all the word salad, blame shifting and projection. Hypocrisy and Drama.
    It really is a bore once you see what is actually happening.

  7. SN says:

    Dear HG,

    what would the Greatest Teacher on Narc behaviour advize to someone whose phone etc. may or may not have been hacked by a narcissist?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Get a new phone.

      1. SN says:

        Do you mean new phone or a new phone number?

        1. HG Tudor says:


      2. SN says:

        Thank you for your answers. I hope this helps.

  8. nunya says:

    Love it.

  9. CVS says:

    Hi HG!

    Just curious, and I hope you reply to me. I had a narc friend and he discarded me. Lost control.

    He vowed ‘goodbye FOREVER’ and no contact. It was painful for me. But recently I’ve been receiving flirty messages, both my Facebook Messenger and Instagram. I knew it was him through obvious fake profiles tho.

    Out of curiosity, why is he doing this? Why is he stalking me if doesn’t want to talk to me ever again as he said? Anyways, I’ve been giving him savage rude replies, playing along without telling that I obviously know he is the only one who can do this to me. Is cyber stalking is also a hoover? Does he secretly want to talk to me through his ‘own’ account but just ashamed or what? Do you think he is likely to contact me through his own account? I’m afraid he would, because it’s been 7months now of fully no contact.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      These are hoovers and it is being done for fuel. He vowed goodbye forever to provoke you and to indicate you were disengaged from, but NOW because his needs demand it, he hoovers you and the vow of forever lies in the dust.

      1. CVS says:

        Thank you HG. Now I know it also part of hoovering.

        And one thing, do you think he would reveal his self doung this? Or contact me using his ‘own’ account? He blocked and deleted me from all connections we have. But he didn’t block me on his Facebook, dont stalk his Facebook anyways. So you think he would come around eventually using his own account without the disguise? He is a covert narc, or probably a borderline with narc tendencies.

        Hope you reply.

        1. HG Tudor says:

          Most likely yes.

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