The Igniters of Fury – No. 5


A series that allows you to understand what are the different things that you do which are likely to ignite the fury of a narcissist. Keep in mind that different schools of narcissists have different levels of control over their fury. Use this information to understand why you have been treated to heated or cold fury and to use this information to further your own position post escape.

12 thoughts on “The Igniters of Fury – No. 5

  1. Mercy says:

    Guilty of this today actually. Now I’m receiving cruel and threatening emails. I haven’t responded but I want to fight back so bad .

    1. NarcAngel says:

      You’re fighting back by not responding.

      1. Mercy says:

        NarcAngel, I know you’re right. It’s just hard to accept what I cannot see. My emotional thinking is in the form of anger. Ive got to get a grip on it.

    2. Sweetest Perfection says:

      Mercy, send him to spam, together with all those unwanted ads about viagra, where he belongs.

      1. Mercy says:

        Sweetest perfection haha I don’t get Viagra emails! What have you been googling haha. I’d sent him to spam but guess what, I’d check my spam then. He stopped and I haven’t heard from him since.

        1. Sweetest Perfection says:

          You don’t? And you don’t get the ones that say we have your password and have pictures of you, deposit such and such amount and you’ll be fine? Come on! That’s a classic! Everyone’s getting them these days! I decided to stop checking my spam, but some of them are really hilarious. I also have a line of people I send to spam every now and then, and I feel so good about it, like the Queen of Hearts: “Off with their heads!!!” Out of sight, out of mind.

    3. Sun says:


      If I was in your place, I will report the emails to the police and raise a restraining order against that individual.

      If the narcissist that I know send me a threating word, he will be thrown behind bars.

      Know your rights.

      Narcissists will kick you, beat you and then tell you, it’s fair!

      1. Mercy says:

        Sun, ignoring is best. I know it makes him mad when I don’t respond. Reporting him to the police will do no good.

        “Narcissist will kick you, beat you and then tell you, it fair!” Michael Jackson’s Beat It song 😀

  2. Caroline R says:

    Ha ha!
    All of my ex-Ns would just talk over me!
    Ah! The ‘bulldozer’ style of conflict resolution.
    Funny how the experts never recommend that one —-
    because it kills any good feeling in the relationship.

  3. J.G says:

    Hello G.H .Tudor
    I see the image of this post and I see myself so reflected …
    He put a gag in my mouth ….
    And this post series where I could read these.

  4. lisk says:

    My gosh…he could talk and talk and talk.

    In light conversation, it was fine when I’d share a joke or details of my own story or a idea or whatever. Still, he didn’t always love that and sometimes my sharing would be ignored or overlooked as not as wonderful as his wit. Basically, I was participating in one-sided repartee.

    Then, when he was giving me one of his speeches about all the horrible things i had been doing to “destroy” our relationship (PROJECTION!!!), he would almost slaughter me for “interrupting” him when I tried to interject one little, tiny defense of my supposedly bad behavior.


    1. Caroline R says:

      So exhausting!

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