Early Warning Detector
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Hello HG, would this one be part of the list?:
– To make him accountable of flirting with another woman or being caught dating (or trying to date another woman by declining or changing a date with us) on our back…
It is an indicator, yes.
There are certain questions I asked my Narc Friend that brought out the red flags:
-I asked if he was competitive with his siblings, who are apparently very successful. He wouldn’t admit that they had anything he wanted.
-I asked if he worried about his parents’ high expectations for him. He said he didn’t care about their expectations at all.
-I asked if he worried about his older parents passing away one day. All he said was that he thought about it sometimes and didn’t elaborate.
-I asked if he was close to his family, who live on a different continent. He said he saw them once or twice a year and that was just fine.
-I asked if he liked school. He said he hated it because the kids who got all As got all the attention from the teachers.
-I asked if he got bullied in school. He said he was afraid of getting beaten up in school for “being noticed.”
-I asked if he ever felt pressure to agree with friends about liking movies, etc. He said that sounded like a good reason to get new friends.
Basically every question I asked pointed the same direction, which was that this guy can’t be bothered to worry about what anyone else thinks of him, at all, ever. Any negative attention people give him is basically just jealousy, and people who have expectations for him can take a long walk off a short pier. This is not a person who will take another person’s opinion of him as reason for self-reflection.
It happened to me without even saying one thing about the artist looks , He asked me to put my music on ( lol now I know because he was collecting information ) so I say Oh ok put on Chris Brown lol he was annoyed ! .
I will start using this list as my to do list while on date 😂when they pass I’ll say let me tell you about the narc I used to know just kidding …
I don’t even understand why my narc ex looked way more prettier than CB he is just super super Handsome . I quess its a fuel thing (but for someone else )
Wow. In hindsight I’ve often thought of how, on our first date, I randomly mentioned an actor who I thought was attractive and my midranger’s jaw muscles tightened for a split second. It was hardly noticable, and he said nothing, but I thought it was strange. He tried to portray himself as being completely ok with having a non monogamous relationship and he had in a short amount of time referred to several of his present lovers as “hot”. Not so pucker when the shoe is on the other foot though!
Love this. Our little empathic sheep in sheep’s clothing needs a Sherlock Holmes shadow with a Colbert raised & lowered eyebrows.
Happy Monday everyone !
That was interesting. The video, and it lead me to an article about Johnathon Bates and synesthesia.
Is “interesting “ a nicer and more polite way of saying weird, spooky, bizarre, f… up ? 😉
What if that is all you attract? (It’s a given, I will attract the cluster-b’s and co-morbids and the like.) How do I navigate these shark infested waters?
You will always attract our kind, but the key is to notice, evade and allow the non-narcissists a chance. Consult with me, I will get you through said waters.
Leanne, sorry to jump in on a question that you have asked HG. The book Love and Loath can help you also. I’m reading it now and as soon as I seen your question I couldn’t refrain from telling you. In the book he tells you all of the answers to your questions. By all means consult with HG! Read the book afterwards. I wish I could keep it with me always!
This would be really fun to do with new acquaintances, it doesn’t have to be romantic. It’s just interesting to observe different human behaviors.
My husband, a highly narcissistic but also empathic normal would never admit that another guy is good looking. He is closer to the second example of a normal’s reaction. Although there were times that his reactions were closer to the Greater but only to a small degree since he’s just a highly narcissistic normal. He said that guys just don’t look at other guys and think whether they are good looking or not. He said that men are just not made that way.
My brother, he’s a normal, unemotional but very polite, would do the first example response of a normal because he will be objective and polite about my opinion about that guy even though he’s really not interested. I remember him agreeing with me and our MRE sister about how good looking some actors were but just very briefly. He was just being polite.
Also both my husband and brother have all kinds childhood stories. My husband hates it when I have the phone when it’s family time so I never use my phone when he’s around. But the few times that I do, he would politely remind me that it’s family time. My brother doesn’t care.
mommypino,
“This would be really fun to do with new acquaintances, it doesn’t have to be romantic. It’s just interesting to observe different human behaviors.”
Agreed. That’s one thing about the learning here; while it opens up the realization of how we are surrounded by narcs, it also gives us tools to evaluate people’s behaviour in general.
I find myself very closely observing people’s facial expressions, pauses, how they change the topic – what they choose to say. It can definitely tip you off or at least allow you to identify a pattern. It really IS fun to do this…
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Mommypino
I’m glad to see that you make the distinction between being narcissistic or even highly narcissistic, and being an actual narcissist , as I think this is a bigger problem than is acknowledged. I have wondered how many people have been labelled a narcissist when they are not. Just because someone has hurt you (not you specifically MommyP) does not make them a narcissist. If a person is easily offended, sensitive, or even less so, but feel they were treated in a way they did not feel they deserved, does not mean the other person planned, plotted, or manipulated against them as an ACTUAL narcissist would. It can just mean that they function differently than you do and did not consider that the way they acted (or reacted) would affect you in the way that it did. It does not mean they intended to hurt you. Big difference.
So true NA. People without NPD are not saints or perfect. There are normals with high narcissistic traits but they don’t have the black and white thinking, they have empathy but not as muh as empaths, they have remorse but also not as much as empaths etc. I use HG’s article “Why do Narcissists Operate From the Same Book” as a guide. The penultimate paragraph has a list of traits of narcissists such as magical thinking and black and white thinking.
Just because someone doesn’t have NPD, even empaths like Super Empaths like you have high narcissistic traits which can come to the fore and hurt another empath if certain factors or situation arises.
My husband for example is a really good person, loving dad and husband, honest etc. But when it comes to having an argument with him, he always has to win. It is frustrating for me sometimes. But he has this ego where he just can’t apologize for anything or admit to any wrongdoing. Like it will make him weak or whatever. But he doesn’t have black and white thinking, he doesn’t hoover people that is not part of his life anymore, he doesn’t seek fuel (he just loves being with us at home), he basically doesn’t have the traits that are unique to people with NPD but he does have a lot of narcissistic traits. He has empathy in terms of helping or doing something for people, like he bought a sewing machine for an old lady at the church because he overheard someone said that she needs one and saving money for one. He just thought that it would be cute to surprise her and he had so much joy doing that. But when it comes to being a shoulder to cry on, he totally sucks. He would tell the person to just get over it. He’s really the worst person to confide in.
Honest and accurate.