The Rules of Ex Club – No. 2

DURING YOURDEVALUATIONTHE EX BECOMESAN ANGEL

17 thoughts on “The Rules of Ex Club – No. 2

  1. Felicia says:

    Hg are all exes turned white or just one?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      All have the potential to become white, although certain factors may keep some of them black for instance if an ex caused recent and substantial wounding, they are likely to remain painted black even when the IPPS is in devaluation and becomes painted black.

  2. Sarah Jane says:

    One thing about my MMR is that he never had a bad word to say about any of his exes. I’m guessing that’s either because I was a DLS and not worth triangulation on that level (because there were points where he would do that with his IPSSs, looking back), or just more hidden truths behind the façade.

    What he would talk about though, was how this ex knew a lot of important people that helped him get a good job and how that exes kid was only spoiled with gifts because HE wanted joint access to them. In other words, bought them for himself and tried to pass it off to make him look good.

  3. Kathryn says:

    I just implemented No Contact. It really is the only way. He and his mother are blocked on Facebook and their numbers are blocked on my phone. I narrowly avoided moving in to their hoise and becoming “the help”. Also, I’m sure theres some psychological relevance, but almost every narcissist I’ve ever come across has had the bipolar/schizo combination.

  4. Narc noob says:

    I’m back for my daily narc porn. I couldn’t get the answers out of N1 or N2 so I came here to find them instead. Thanks HG

    1. HG Tudor says:

      There is no porn here, save in the Porn Supremacy article.

  5. santaann1964 says:

    My ultimate dream revenge is to know he is back with his x. Karma…… is so real! I’ll sit back and enjoy the show.

  6. Chihuahuamum says:

    I dont even like to think it bc i really would like to see your new relationship be different HG but i cant help but wonder if sheildmaiden is devalued and painted black if your ex will become white and an angel again?
    Narcissism seems so much a cycle that it almost seems inevitable. That being said i do think theres been a possible impact with the blog and therapy. Maybe your npd could be modified. Its not out of the realm of possibility.

  7. smarinucci1970 says:

    THIS MADE ME REMEMBER , ON MY BIRTHDAY ABOUT 9 YEARS AGO. I TOLD MY HUSBAND , NOW PASSED AWAY, THAT A FRIEND HAD ASKED ME OUT TO LUNCH AND A BIT SHOPPING , MAYBE THE MOST 3 HOURS . SHE AND I HAD THE SAME DAY BIRTHDAYS.
    I LEFT HIM MY NEW JEEP IN CASE HE NEEDED TO GO SOMEWHERE & I WENT WITH MY GIRLFRIEND. BIG MISTAKE ❗WHILE I WAS OUT HE. CALLED 14 TIMES I TOLD HIM I BOUGHT A VERY BEAUTIFUL EXPENSIVE ROBE HE HUNG UP ON ME , NEXT CALL, I SAID WE HAD LOVELY TIME AND BROUGHT HIM A NICE DINNER ALSO , HE HUNG UP. THIS WENT ON UNTIL HE SAID HE HAD A. GIFT FOR ME . WHEN I CAME HOME I SAW HE SMASHED MY NEW JEEP FROM ONE END TO THE OTHER ALL DOWN THE PASSENGER SIDE , NEVER AN APOLOGY. NOTHING. REPAIRMAN SAID HE INTENTIONALLY HIT A GUARDRAIL. NOW I KNOW WHY HG. THANK YOU 💪😈👿👿👊.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      You are welcome.

    2. Chihuahuamum says:

      Hi smarinucci…so sorry you were treated that way. It breaks my heart reading what people here have endured.

  8. DEMBunny says:

    Lol !! That’s me. Well, maybe not for long since I’m escaping as DLS. I’ll probably go back-to-black for a while. There’s a q for you HG! If the ex aka DLS is being portrayed as an angel in triangulation but escapes , they will naturally be painted black I’d assume (?) if so, will the angel status be pretended, to continue to triangulate or is the DLS painted blacktobthe IPPS, and a respite granted to IPPS?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      The ex will not have been a DLS. They will have been the IPPS and are now the Former IPPS.

      1. DEMBunny says:

        No I meant me – I’m DLS and escaping the role. The last couple years he’s referred to me as the angelic friend- even tho she knows we have a history (albeit, in her mind, a brief one) and are still “friends” , will I be painted black to his IPPS now as I’ve escaped or will he continue to refer to me as angelic as he does now to her just to draw fuel

  9. Kate says:

    Dirtyempath that I am-I was the one who initially hoovered /my ex narc nearly a year ago. She responded/agreed to meet. However It took 7 months to get together 3 more times for drinks. We talked on phone few x, texted, she called me once “just to say hi” this January. Gave me a holiday card.
    However she’s still nutty, lying and walked out on me in a fury/huff 3 of the 4 times we met.
    I guess I was kinda painted white for a bit. I don’t know what she was planning- but -maybe just future fakes.
    Now I’m pretty sure I’m dark dark black again because she said “don’t contact me- this is too upsetting”
    i think it’s because I’d told her in October that I’d been talking with and socializing with her previous long time ex.
    A week ago I’ve heard she’s selling house and moving.
    I saw her 1/20/19 when she issued her jettison don’t contact me.
    Not sure if moving in with her new ipps but I feel I may have pushed her to go way overboard the other direction.maybe not. I think the move had to be in works longer than January.
    I feel she doesn’t really adhere to the pattern 100% but – hard to say. I’m Trying to read and listen to HG- but I’m a glutton for punishment

    1. Anm says:

      Kate,
      There is a difference between narcissistic rage, and fury. Fury is used as a tool for manipulation. It sounds like she was using her “nutty” side, and fury/Huff to push and pull you to test the waters, and see if you were still up for the game. You obviously are, so to the shelf you go where you can sit until she needs you again.

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