Understanding Word Salad


What is word salad?

Why do narcissists use it?

What does it sound like?

How do you deal with it?

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22 thoughts on “Understanding Word Salad

  1. Survivor X says:

    Talking to a regular guy will proceed in this way, too. It seems like denial is the go-to strategy, no matter who is being asked. The difference in my experience is that in the end a regular person will concede to what you are saying, recognize it and you can reach a compromise or apologize, depending on what the couple decides. I’m all about moderation. Porn itself isn’t an issue, but it becomes an issue when your mate can’t get it up, or they are running through your funds and unable to pay rent, like my friend’s exnarc. He would go through thousands of dollars paying webcam models. Unbelievable.

  2. Claire says:

    The porn thing.. Hilariously (maybe not to some but I’m somewhat of a jerk) is that there is software you can put on your “partners” devices to alert you or an “accountability buddy” when they access porn! It is all over Facebook—all these “religious” people tout its “life saving” aspects and of course there are random smart asses snickering and commenting.. They even have a super hero cartoon promoting it! I almost peed my pants watching it. Funny aside though—I guarantee there are tons of baffled women signing up their husbands and I can only hope they make it here. Sooner than later. It’s called Covenant Eyes if you are inclined to be amused. If not brush aside but I still think a “panic alarm” is sidesplitting. It’s an ongoing joke at work because it’s such an inappropriate atmosphere. I’ll grow up tomorrow!

  3. Angie says:

    and to a logical person, they would not find this humorous or confusing,,,logic always prevails that conversation wouldn’t do well with me..sure ok projection through your comments eh, that’ won’t work..round of applause to somebody who clearly knows he’s lying .

  4. Dita says:

    Thank you for posting that. Had similar. The worse was that it was my fault that he was on a dating site the day I had a double mastectomy. Obvs Im well done with him. I feel very sad that narcs never get to let go and really enjoy being loved. I wish you well

  5. PrincessSuperEmpath says:

    Dearest HG: I have a question, and I do not know where to ask you, so I will try here: I remember reading somewhere you mentioned: low cognitive function. It reminds me of magical thinking, but I am not sure if they are similar, or if low cognitive function is permanent and magical thinking is a product of episodes of mania and/or high levels of emotional thinking, afterwhich, the magical thinking goes away?. Do both Narcissists and empaths have moments of low cognitive function? Or, does low cognitive function mean low intelligence? And what is magical thinking? Also, I have question on this post: This article brought gaslighting to mind, and I wonder why gaslighting is effective. I was gaslighted only twice by the midranger. The first time, I gave him a pass, although I was disappointed in the occurrence. The second time, I realized for sure that he pulled a shenanigan. But, I never asked him about it, nor showed him how the shenanigan had failed, after I looked into it: I was on this site at the time, and knew not to bother. And I made my full decision to disengage, afterwards.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Low cognitive function and magical thinking are separate matters.
      Narcissists and empaths can both have low cognitive function.
      Narcissists have magical thinking.

      1. PrincessSuperEmpath says:

        Dearest HG: Thank you. What is magical thinking? And is there something that empaths do that is similar, or that is mistaken for magical thinking?

        1. HG Tudor says:

          The narcissist thinking that every person fancies her. The narcissist believing that they are good friends with someone famous.

          1. PrincessSuperEmpath says:

            Dearest HG: Thank you. I see.

        2. K says:

          One of my narcissists claimed she knew Todd English (celebrity chef) and spoke about him as if they were good friends. At the time, I was very baffled by her claim.

          1. PrincessSuperEmpath says:

            K. It was not true? Magical Thinking. K I realized that a male friend of mine is a Narcissist. I knew he was odd, but it was only today that I realized he is a Narc. Upper Mid Ranger I have known him since University days, and wondered a lot about his ways. And, his best friend is even a bigger Narc. They competed with each other about everything. They do not really like each other, but have a male long “friendship.“ The friend does not like me, because I would not date him in those days, and he could not believe it. It was so minor a thing. Not really personal. Yet he was upset. He was a club person and I was not. That was just about it. A definite somatic narc. A poser. Now, successful. With magical thinking. I was insulted that he was upset that I would not date him. It made no sense to me. Plus, if it did not work out, he was a friend of my friend, and I did not want the breach. Now, I know: No boundaries. Plus, he felt Everyone fancies him. Unbelievable!

          2. K says:

            She did not know Todd English but spoke as if they were friends and she frequently used his first name in conversations, which led people to think that she knew him personally.

            My narcissists do not always “like” their NPD friends and often talk trash about each other behind their backs. One minute they hate each other than the next they appear to be thick as thieves. It is all about the Prime Aims even when it is N v N. Everyone is an opponent from their POV.

            Re: the somatic friend, in his world, your rejection wasn’t minor; it was probably challenge fuel/wounding and it looks like he painted you black and he may have even smeared you to your friend. Ha ha ha…how dare you assert a boundary! It didn’t make sense then but it does now. They really do think they are better looking, smarter, funnier and cooler than everyone else. Such magical thinkers.

          3. PrincessSuperEmpath says:

            K. The friend thought that he was the coolest being ever. He always had the latests this or that, went to the latest this or that, dressed in the latest this or that. but, he was dull. I liked when I went out sometimes with my friend and with the somatic person, because he put on a show in a way. He knew everyone, etc, but one could spot him coming a mile away, when he was social climbing. But, I had absolutley no desire to be in his company alone. So, I do not think he had the skills of a greater. And the people he really wanted to be with could spot him, but he never gave up. The last I heard, he is in London now, with a girlfriend that is a model, is doing well financially and is still a big dull sulk and coward. My friend and I use to joke about him in University. I had no malice in the joking–I did not dislike the somatic at all, but maybe my friend did, I know now. I would ask my friend, why do you keep seeing him, if he irritates you so much. My friend would say, oh, for this reason or for that reason. I can not even remember the blurry reasons. We would joke about the somatic in a sort of game we played, and we would say things like : if he had a mansion, he would rather have an Abbey, if he had a girlfriend from Germany he would be upset that she was not from France. If he married a Royal, at his own wedding he would see her cousin, and think, I am marrying the wrong one. If he received a knighthood, he would be upset he was not King, and if he were King, he would be upset he was not the Creator. We played this game all the time, about the somatic. lol

  6. Christopher Jackson says:

    You son of a bitch hg…lmao that scenario actually happened to my aunt she was married to a narc she is divorced now from him and he is remarried to another i.p.p.s. she actually went to dr and got prescribed prozac because she always was mad at him about something but she realized 25 yrs later what she was entangled with very sad

  7. J.G THE ONE says:

    Hello, H.G.Tudor.
    This post reminds me how well you live without a narcissist. These absurd discussions without end, only for the obtaining and supply of fuels. Okay, okay are your need.
    But they are so exhausting. UFFFFFFFFFFF tired.
    That rest, to live calmly and without problems, discussions. Peace and peace of mind.
    Rational thinking must crush and exterminate emotional thinking the true enemy of the empathic.
    It’s all in your head
    and that’s a great narcissistic truth.

    1. Claire says:

      They are absurd discussions! Endless, circular and miserable and confusing.

      1. PrincessSuperEmpath says:

        Claire: I just space out with that sort of thing. It used to bother me that I felt exhausted trying to keep up when people did this sort of thing, and my mind sort of glazed over. Now, I have no worries. I`m good. Even when someone did this in a group conversation, I would take a time out and go to the rest room and powder my nose. I never asked, if I`d miss anything, when I returned.

        1. Claire says:

          I shut down pretty early into it and just collapsed with a bottle of (often red) wine.

          1. PrincessSuperEmpath says:

            Claire. I am a red wine person. Although, hanging around HG Tudor, so to speak, is inspiring me to check out some wine tastings. Investigate my palate. These Greater Elite Narcissists do influence a person. It1s Unbelievable.

          2. Claire says:

            It’s funny how my appetite for alcohol is almost gone not living daily with a behaviorally foul narcissist! When I have had a drink it’s like “dessert” so it’s totally different. I do enjoy sampling though! I swear I am almost driven to get out and walk—go places, etc. I’ve had beer in my refrigerator for like 3-4 months! I’m not sure it’s even good to drink now. That is improvement.

          3. PrincessSuperEmpath says:

            Claire. Wow! I used to buy a small bottle for myself for the weekends. Now that I have been away from work, going on at least 4 or more weeks now, I may have bought only 2 in total. Wow. I had not really thought about it, until I read your post. I guess a little liquor helps out when dealing with it all. Unbelievable.

          4. Claire says:

            Yep! I just don’t want it. I did drink a milkshake after working out yesterday though—useless logic but I’m not passed out on a couch!

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