Red Flag

Know the signs so it does not happen again.

Know the signs so others are not ensnared.

Know the signs before it is too late.

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14 thoughts on “Red Flag

  1. Better Call HG says:

    Hi HG,

    During one of our audio consultations you mentioned that empaths are drawn to narcissists because narcissists give empaths an opportunity to showcase our empathic traits. Are empaths subconsciously drawn to narcissists similar to narcissists being drawn to empaths? If so, could that serve as a Red Flag when an empath notices they are falling for someone? I feel like I’ve only fallen for people who are narcissists or have significant narcissistic traits.

    Thank you!

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Yes, empaths are drawn to narcissists as we are drawn to empaths.

      1. Better Call HG says:

        HG any chance you could start up a narc free dating website?

        1. HG Tudor says:

          Sure, I have plenty of time on my hands to do that!

          1. Better Call HG says:

            Sure you do HG, just cut out those pointless 4 hours of sleep you need and think of the possibilities. All those couples who owe everything to you. Lessers and Mid-Rangers potentially deprived of their hunting grounds. Premium subscriber options where subscribers paying you to officiate the wedding (via Skype, of course). Or if you need some negative fuel, invoke prima nocta.

          2. HG Tudor says:

            Ha ha, very good.

        2. PrincessSuperEmpath says:

          Better Call HG: I have suggested similar on here! I could just imagine myself sending in a potential fiance to speak to H.G. to see if H.G. approves and then the poor guys runs out screaming: `the wedding is off, and I wish you well and sorry for all I had in mind, but I will never tell you what I had in mind and goodbye.` Hahahaha! Or, all could be well. H.G. could surely smoke out the bad ones. Probably in no more than 5 minutes tops, and with his eyes closed. lol

          1. Better Call HG says:

            PrincessSuperEmpath, I agree! I wish I was fabulously wealthy so I could just fly HG in to observe my first dates. It’s brutal knowing that not only are narcissists drawn to me, but I’m drawn to them, and on top of that dealing with emotional thinking sabotaging me. If I hadn’t found HG, I’d be doomed to ensnarement for sure.

    2. ava101 says:

      Yep, I can serve as your narc detector, … if I find someone interesting, and cool, and feel great communicating with them, and think I am feeling a connection, and am drawn to them, they are most likely a narc.

  2. nunya biz says:

    This is really great, I had not read it before. I did not know there was a name “mask carousel” for what I had told you about from one of my situations. You have thought of everything. There are some good ones in here, very helpful, I think this is my favorite book so far.

    1. HG Tudor says:


  3. ava101 says:

    1. When someone is showing off being a vegan, like, posting on FB in vegan group that he’s with an information stand in town, or protesting at university, … but always posts when he is well into his one-one-show, so noone could join him or help him …. And he also never makes it to group meetings… Also says things on FB like “I was the first to like your post!”, … All the while he is not attractive or interesting like … AT ALL … claims to have been an engineer but had then worked as taxi driver before working in a charity shop (not clear who the charity act was for), …
    —-> Do you think I would be wrong to consider that he might be a narc??

    2. Also, another guy, who at first at a (different) group meeting doesn’t say much but watches … then approaches me after hours!, and then tells me first thing he used to be a bank director in London (not clear director of what exactly, I suppose, there might be also “director” job titles for other areas in a bank?) and now lives off day trading, also tells me about his nice cottage at the ocean … — those are definitely red flags, am I right this time?

    Or should I think that they are simply strange, *lol*?

    Thank you.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      1. It is possible but a determination cannot be made on the information provided. A Narc Detector Consultation is required.

      2. Again they are possible but more information is needed with regard to context.

      1. ava101 says:

        Sometimes .. it’s really hard to tell (for me) if someone is just strange, or if there is something narcissistic about it … fact is, they attach themselves to me … *argh* …
        But I suppose it doesn’t make a difference, though I’d be willing to oversee a lot of strange behaviours and stuff, I someone was a genuinely kind person underneath. After all, I am infinitely forgiving, right …

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