Poll : Which Form of Manipulation Has Impacted on You The Most?
There are many different forms of manipulation used throughout the narcissistic dynamic and these methods vary dependent on the relevant stage, whether it is the seduction, the embedded golden period, the devaluation and post dis-engagement or post-escape.
I am interested to know which form of manipulation during devaluation affected you the most and ten of the most common forms of manipulation are included in the poll below. If the one which affected you the most is not listed, then choose the one which affected you there second or third most, from the preferred list. Do also, in the comments explain why the particular form of manipulation affected you as it did.
Thank you for participating.
HG Tudor

When it comes to a romantic relationship:
1. Silent treatment
2. Triangulation
3. Pity Plays
I know all of them.
They work now, too, but much weaker.
All these ‘manipulations’ occurred throughout my life-time of ‘interactions’ with narcissists – by different people at different levels. Swiping them all to the left now.
Hi Asp Emp,
That is another cool image, very HG-esque.
I almost chose blame shifting or gas lighting but then realized that both of those happened within the word salads that both my ex and my mother are experts at. Also, word salad is the thing that my entire family has expressed frustration with about my mother, you can’t have any conversation with her simply and clearly, instead, the smallest thing is spun into something that makes no sense and then you’re stuck wading through it to try to unscramble it and dealing with her annoyance that you didn’t follow her “logic” in the process. But the gas lighting option actually made my stomach queasy, that’s a nasty one too.
OMG, I wanted to say all of them and I wish we could list (haha) them in order of the impact they had on us.
There’s probably a half dozen I would put at No.1 as I was affected equally by the all.
Silent treatments, smearing and triangulation for starters.
Since triangulation was the bane of my life in my most recent relationship with the narcissist, I’m voting this one No.1.
Thank you for asking.