Heart Hooks No.2 – Narc Words of Seduction


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Did the narcissist say this to you? How was it conveyed, when was it conveyed and what was your response?

Do you believe in the concept of souls and  souls entwining? If this phrase (or similar) was said to you, how did it make you feel? What did you believe by it?

17 thoughts on “Heart Hooks No.2 – Narc Words of Seduction

  1. Diavolando says:

    My ex used very similar language. It was in the discard period (though I was unaware that’s what it was, we were on a ‘break’) and she used language such as ‘we will always be deeply connected’, ‘we are connected on a higher spiritual level, I will always be there for you, I need to know you’ll always be there for me’. ‘I’ve never had such a deep spiritual connection to you, our souls will always be intertwined’. I repeat,it was during what I now know to be the text book discard phase. I was still convinced we were taking some time to figure out what we wanted. Alsa, she had already groomed new supply (unbeknownst to me at the time), I was deeply confused and displaced so held very tightly to the little bones she would throw at me. I utterly fell for it, I even began reading about spiritual connections and bonds. I’m rather embarrassed about it now, in as much as, in hindsight, if she’d asked me to join a cult, I would have, such was my desperate need to keep her. I was sleep deprived, had stopped eating, wasn’t living at home (she had asked for some physical space too, which I had obliged.. I know, I know). Horrendous. The feeling of knowing I am intelligent and yet was so overtly and obviously duped is still enraging. It has only been 1 month since ‘final discard’ – I’m hoping I’ll forgive myself my stupidity in due course…. One can but hope.

  2. Lillith says:

    He claimed to be a reincarnated Egyptian God and I was his former Goddess-lover. HA!

    1. Caroline-is-fine(?) says:

      That actually sounds a bit fun, Lillith…lol…

    2. Chihuahuamum says:

      Hi lillith…now thats a creative one! 😄😁

  3. blackunicorn123 says:

    I’d laugh if someone said this to me.
    Not that I’m too superior to fall for guff because I did get ensnared by a narc after all, but we all have our cut off point for fluff, and this would certainly be beyond mine.

    1. Chihuahuamum says:

      Mine too black unicorn lol but you got to give the guy points for originality 😆

  4. JustEmpath says:

    I don’t believe in soul mate concept and when he was talking about those things I was just laughing. I thought it was funny, not romantic, not a red flag just funny “oh he is one of those poor guys who watch “how to get every girl” YouTube clips hahaha, haha, how cute”.

  5. Caroline-is-fine says:

    That was not said to me… I’d remember — it made me irritated just reading it.

    I would be long gone if someone said that to me. It’s disturbing.

  6. AR says:

    Well, i wasn’t told this by narc but i myself thought that i had a spiritual connection with him. It was love from first sight. Of course i didn’t tell anything about it so that he couldn’t use it against me. I thought he was my twin flame. Spirituality says that narcissist operates from ego not from soul. You said you didn’t believe in souls but i personally do believe in soul concept.

  7. Chihuahuamum says:

    Now this one borders on cheesy 😄

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Cheddaresque even, but there are some big cheese eaters out there!

      1. Desirée says:

        I personally prefer swiss mountain cheese, but there is a similarly cheddaresque quote I can share:

        “We had a special connection that nobody else understood.” – UMR post my escape

        The second part translates to “don’t let anyone tell you otherwise”.
        The first part was supposed to be a callback to him calling me his “soulmate” to try and tie me closer to him.

        I don’t believe in such things, so his spiritual sayings always fell on obstructed auditory senses, although he didn’t seem to notice.
        I guess that’s what separates the artist from the amateur?

    2. Caroline-is-fine says:

      You know what’s interesting? That you find it “cheesy” — and it actually made me feel super duper angry, at first — until I calmed myself to feeling the emotion of “irritated” instead…and my narcissist never even *said* this to me! I’ve been in a generally very good mood too, so it’s not like I’m feeling pissed off/ready to pounce… but this just pissed me off to the point of thinking: “Are you an idiot? How dare you even think I’d believe such utter BS?! And furthermore, stay the crap away from even thinking about hooking yourself onto my soul — no combining souls, ever!! You’re insane!!”

      I know, those thoughts are not pretty… but it’s now I felt reading this one.

      Is this a difference in empath types (the reactions to these)…? I’d love to know!

      HG, do you read reactions like this, from us — and it confirms for you what type of empath you see we are? Or does it not equate for you like that?

  8. Sniglet says:

    My ex thinks that I am his soul mate. I appreciate the sentiment but never felt we were. Interesting concept which could be true if a relationship is wholesome. Same goals and ambitions, same wavelength and mental strength to not stray, stay loyal, honest, loving, protective of one another. Almost impossible to find something of that nature. If I can find the male version of me I believe he would be my soul mate. We would be a dual force together. No I don’t believe a soulmate exists for me. I would carefully analyse anyone who says that to me and the reason behind it.

    1. Sniglet says:

      Why are you asking the question, H.G?

      1. HG Tudor says:

        Which question Sniglet? If you mean the ones with the meme, I am asking them because I am giving people the opportunity to articulate their experiences as that is important and interesting.

  9. ThePersonalityAbyss says:

    No this wasn’t really conveyed to me in such a fashion. What was conveyed to me was that we were best friends-that we are connected in some way.

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