30 Shards Of Ice

Words are our weapons. Easy to use, low in energy expenditure but with such potential. The capacity to charm, to flatter, to instil joy, to create desire, love and passion, to engender affection and much more besides. Words can be used to soothe, to convince, to persuade and to calm. Those words can also hurt, upset, annoy and frustrate. Cutting comments, acidic accusations and pernicious put-downs. The greater of our kind show particular ingenuity in assembling those savage sentences which cause despair and generate misery for the recipient. We adopt a considered approach in respect of the uttering of these barbed comments.

  1. They will be reserved most often for strangers and minions in order to reinforce our superiority and to show off in front of you, our primary source. We have no façade to maintain with the newspaper vendor, the waitress or the driver of another car. They will suffer the caustic words to allow the provision of fuel to us by their shocked and upset reaction and also from you by reason of your admiration at our masterful handling of the incompetent person serving us.
  2. Those who form the façade rarely receive the lash of our tongue unless they deceive us and become treacherous. For the most part those people will only ever experience the pouring of honey in their ears and the sugar-coated pleasantries which are designed to keep the loyal to us and to maintain the façade to our benefit.
  3. The worst of these comments is directed at you as our primary source of fuel. The issuing of nasty, malevolent and hurtful comments will be saved for you during devaluation for the purposes of causing the maximum provision of fuel and the assertion of our control. Slurs about your life, your appearance, your family, your interests, your job and your friends will be routinely hurled at you. This will happen repeatedly, like a machine gun firing our bilious bullets towards you. We also like to wield a show stopper of a comment, a particularly chilling comment which is designed to drive a shard of ice through your heart. The type of comment which leaves you in a stunned silence at the malice it contains. The nature of the comment leaves you horrified that somebody would say that to you, somebody who is meant to love and cherish you, somebody who once said the most wonderful things to you (and will do so again in about a week as the rollercoaster ride gets into its stride). These comments are designed to deliver maximum hurt, total upset and have that negative fuel pouring from you. They may leave you stunned, sickened, frightened and anxious, they will chill you to the core but our kind will always deliver them because words are our weapons. Here are thirty icy shards which are driven through your hearts.
  1. I will always be in your head and your heart. You will never ever escape me.
  2. I will not stop. Ever.
  3. You know, I thought about your funeral before and it troubled me. It troubled me because I would no longer be able to punish you.
  4. Nobody likes you, that is why your dad left you, you know. Nobody else will say it but I will.
  5. I hope it takes years of therapy to sort you out.
  6. You think this is bad? This is nothing. I am just getting started.
  7. I always know where you are.
  8. You are my puppet and I will never cut the strings.
  9. I know everything about you. Remember that.
  10. It’s strange what can happen when you are asleep.
  11. No matter how far you go I will always find you, because I own you.
  12. I only chose you because I felt sorry for you.
  13. You have no idea what is going through my mind right now have you? But I know exactly what you are thinking.
  14. Go on scream, nobody is listening.
  15. You are not a person to me.
  16. I’ve caressed you. Now I am going to crush you.
  17. Just think, you have already had the happiest moment in your life.
  18. You have told me all your secrets. Remember that.
  19. I’m diseased and I’ve infected every part of you.
  20. Nobody will ever believe what you say.
  21. I’m the permanent reminder of all the things you want to forget.
  22. I will teach our children to hate you.
  23. I’m going to show you what loneliness really is.
  24. This is happening because you are a bad person.
  25. I need to cleanse you and I will not stop until it is done.
  26. When you close your eyes you will only ever see my face.
  27. I will never let you go.
  28. I will never put you out of your misery.
  29. I hate her because she reminds me too much of you.
  30. This is what will happen for the rest of your life.

There are many more, but what have you been told which has stopped you in your tracks and sent a chill through you?

10 thoughts on “30 Shards Of Ice

  1. Presque Vu says:

    For me it wasn’t even words that stopped me in my tracks.

    It was the stare.
    I froze.
    It was powerful, menacing and intense, I felt my body shake when I saw him there.
    He didn’t have to verbally chill me, his presence and stare silenced me rooted to the spot, I became clumsy dropping my shopping basket.

    My nex controlled me this way, as he’d seduce – he’d also destroy – all with his eyes. That’s power.

    I’m working on eye contact, at work, in my private life, in general. I always look away because nearly all my life a look controlled me. From my step-dad, my mum, siblings, boyfriends. That dread in the pit of your stomach – to the burning overwhelming desires. Narcs are something else!

  2. EC says:

    Thru a 3rd party it said… someone will die before I divorce.

  3. Antonia says:

    I was never in love with you

  4. Aurora says:

    I it’s not what is said …lots of horrible things have been said to me and …yeah whatever…but when nothing is said …that leaves a vacuum of assumptions…not knowing…and not knowing is a very frightening place to be.
    Can’t protect myself if I dk what’s coming.
    When he went quiet & walked away it was the worst.
    I’m grateful I don’t attract that kind of person anymore.

  5. Veronique Jones says:

    HG After saying these heinous things do your kind really think that it’s appropriate to come back and benign Hoover people ? And why is it when you say things will never change from the malignant hoovering do they always change ?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      1. It is not a question of evaluating appropriateness, it is necessity (which implies it is appropriate but the issue of appropriateness is not something the narcissist considers, that is unnecessary).
      2. I don’t understand your second question.

      1. Veronique Jones says:

        Thanks 🙏

  6. Stephanie says:

    I wish I could tell you what shard of ice I was on the receiving end of, but I can only remember that it was so debilitating I spent the entire next day in bed ( you don’t know me, but that’s unheard of). A few sentences reduced me to a worthless human being- that much I recall. I suppose I have repressed the exact words.

    I have served 10 years of this life sentence, and #30 certainly sums it up.

  7. Jessj says:

    My ex told me many of these, but the worse was; “this is happening because you are a bad person” when i got diagnosed with cancer following my “escape”.

  8. Tamara says:

    I had always thought of “shards of glass” because of the rainbow colors that dance upon the edges. These shards of glass, though colorful, can cut us.

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