15 Boundary Breakers
We never respect boundaries, do not regard them as applicable to us, whether those boundaries are accepted social conventions or boundaries enshrined in law, we have little or no regard for them. These rules, procedures, conventions and laws are for the little people, not titans such as us. We go where we want, when we want and do what we want. Driven by our astonishing sense of entitlement, absent empathy and innate superiority, we smash through barriers and boundaries every day. This is a total mind set which we adopt and the examples of this are legion. Here are fifteen instance of our boundary breaking behaviours.
- Anything of yours is automatically ours.
- You are an extension of us.
- We make you feel guilty if you say no to us.
- We make you believe that you are something that you are not.
- We ignore and/or deny your needs.
- We invade your spaces.
- We allow your sense of self-esteem and self-worth to be eroded.
- We make you solely responsible for our needs.
- We make you say “yes” to us through a sense of obligation.
- We make you feel it is necessary to always please us.
- We treat you unequally.
- We fail to support you.
- We expect you to agree with us all of the time.
- We expect you to read our minds so you do what we want.
- We dominate your resources – time, energy, attention, socialising, money and emotions.
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Dear Mr Tudor,
It’s amazing how all these boundary breakers are the “complete opposite” when we first meet your kind!
Excellent examples …. thank you
Luv Bubbles xx 😘
12. “We fail to support you.”
Even though we had supported you for years and did not ask for help until now.
Yes, yes, yes.
….. and we allow you to do all that! Until we realise what we’ve been doing. We have the ability to find our boundaries and protect them.
YES YES YES. 15 TIMES YES. ❗❗❗❗
Your work is always spot on, very educational. This also really ties in with the hoovering. It’s been over a year since I spoke to the sociopath that was hounding me. I have no feelings for him or desire to ever communicate again. Before I knew exactly what he was, I asked him on several occasions to stop contacting me – but he would wait a few weeks and just message me as if nothing had happened. I eventually blocked him on every platform that I was aware that he used. However, I recently installed Whatsaap to communicate with a colleague and received a message last week – “Hey, long time no talk, how are you? Xx I blocked immediately. I hadn’t even thought about him being able to contact me via that platform, my number obviously ‘popped up’ on his list of appliances/potential fuel sources. The peefect opening for another attempt. An example of the shameless, forward, dismissive, arrogant vessel he is, always with his eyes set on the prize.
HG, what would #4 look like? “We make you believe that you are something that you are not.”
That you are better looking that you are, is one of many examples.
Thank you HG. Mr. Busy Bee today!Clearing out the backlog.
Indeed.
That’s what I was afraid of. Having him in my life was a huge confidence booster. I’m going to choose to believe that my confidence comes from within and was there all along. He just mirrored it for me. Not that I’m unattractive and unsexy and what he said was a lie. And that I really don’t have great tits after all!