Voice of the Readers – No. 4
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Testimonials! And Yes! Fuel! Fuel was also the key HG book that really sank in for me. I have to admit when I first started reading HG’s essays it was hard. Like I was being abused again… But it was the bare reality That hit so hard… And luckily now I’m to the point of recovery that it doesn’t affect me emotionally. Prior to finding HG, I was in the phase of listening to you tubers Bashing on Narcissists and crying out in pain… But there comes a time where we have to regain our power and HG is where turned that corner. Faced it squarely and began accepting the truth. I had just been an appliance. But there was some comfort in that because I understood that the new person was also just an appliance. Anyways so much to say I do have a few other people on the Internet who really do a good job writing about narcissistic relationships but I’m down to about three. HG and two others.
Cheers.
Very well-written by Clarece. All of what she says resonates with me.
Hello HG,
I also agree with Clarice. You have been helpful in my recovery. And your writing is so intense.
Can you write something for me? Is it possible to write a short piece, maybe that could fit on a card. That I could give the reader to explain covert narcissisism? I ask this somewhat tongue-in-cheek. But I’m so frustrated that I really can’t explain it without sounding like a paranoid nut. My ex is so smooth, others can’t even imagine him any other way than sweet and kind. So for the most part I don’t bother trying. Or instead of trying to explain the whole thing I might mention he has a darker side, or he was verbally abusive. These things people understand. I realize even with a good explanation most will not understand. But I would like to at least plant some seeds that will reveal what covert narcissism is, so I would be better understood.
As you can see I’m not quite there to where I’m no longer affected.
Thank you,
Evelyn
To condense it to a card to provide to others so they comprehend, is an understandable desire but is of questionable value because
1. You are continuing to engage and therefore breaching the first golden rule of freedom;
2. As you admit, getting others to understand is difficult and therefore you are committing (1) without any tangible gain; and
3. It would be difficult to achieve this effectively with such succinct information.
I recommend you consult with me so I can discuss this further with you Evelyn.