The Narcissist’s Social Media Laws – No. 4
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This was the stage of my devaluation where my exnarc and I really started to go hammer and tongs. “You don’t get to talk about me, to me, like that. You shouldn’t be talking about *anyone* like that for that matter, what’s wrong with you?”
Now I know… Definite “supernova” feel to it.
Now I lay low quietly prospering, because if she knew how successful I’ve been in recovering she’d be flapping around looking to suck my blood again.
Thanks as usual, HG
HG, I’d like to ask – if there is a middle range narcissist who has a few former intimate partners who are in no contact with him and he hoovers them all from time to time (meanning trying to provoke at least some reaction directly or indirectly) and all of them have moved on – are content with their current situation and with being in no contact with a narcissist why does he exhibit so different “feelings” towards them during his hoovers?
For example: a victim A will post a happy picture with her new boyfriend and a narcissist’s reaction will be self pity sorrow, showing some vulnerability like “i am so miserable, I feel so hurt because of you”
and the a victim B posts a happy picture with her new boyfriend and a narcissist’s reaction will be irritation and frustration: “I hate you, you are a stupid cow, I will show that you mean nothing to me”
Why is that? I think it’s not because of his current fuel needs – these two situation can take place in the same time, but he has so much different attitude toward different ex victims.
It differs because the narcissism chooses this as the most appropriate response from the narcissist to try to achieve the desired outcome. The narcissism “knows” which approach has the greatest prospect of success and therefore where there is a victim who has a strong sense of compassion, the Pity Play will be the response for instance. Remember, the narcissist does not consciously make this decision, the narcissism does.