Narcissist or Narcissistic?


Understanding whether someone is narcissistic (and thus has some emotional empathy) or whether they are a narcissist (and thus has NO emotional empathy) is difficult. A host of factors determine whether somebody is a narcissist, but there are many people who are narcissistic. This group do have emotional empathy but it is not often seen, but why is that?

To understand more about the difference between narcissist and those who are narcissistic and how that appears in real life, plug in those headphones, turn up the volume and listen in as I explain it for you here

11 thoughts on “Narcissist or Narcissistic?

  1. Whitney says:

    Dear HG my God,
    I’m reading Fuel now and it calmed me down and soothed me.
    Fuel is essential to read. I can’t believe I hadn’t read it. I didn’t understand narcissists.

    Fuel helps me understand their behaviour is impersonal. It’s not because they “love her” or that “I’m not good enough”. It is all about FUEL FUEL FUEL. They are frantic. They are surviving. They are nuts.

    I’m gonna ask you 90% less questions after reading Fuel.

    By the way, the amount of fuel I gave the LMR as his IPPS was astronomical. At least 10,000 points in 1 hour. But I wounded him a lot too.
    There is absolutely no way he will ever find someone to give him that amount of fuel ever again.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Thank you for reading, Fuel is a central book and all should read it in order to understand what they are dealing with and to assist them in marshalling their no contact regime and moving forward.

      1. Whitney says:

        Thank you HG.
        I’m really grateful for your work. You are one of a kind.
        Your work is logical and correct. There is nothing else like it.
        By the way I’m starting to believe you that the MMR is a narcissist. I never believe it at first, but it turns out you are always right.
        You are the sunshine of my life 🌞

        1. HG Tudor says:

          You are welcome. Indeed, I am right, I know my subject.

          1. Whitney says:

            Yes you are the best. My emotions confuse me but over time it becomes clear that you are right 🌞

            I did an experiment on the MMR. I bragged about another person who is a talented musician. The MMR walked away while I was talking, and normally he’s a great listener!

  2. Diana says:

    HG I would like to know what do you think about “cold therapy ” treatment for NPD.

    Thank you.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      It will not work

      1. Lorelei says:

        You say you know your subject. (I’m basically mentioning the prior statement as you can’t see it)
        When did you have the framework of narcissist sub-divisions (for example as one piece) formed in your mind? Before or after professional “help.”
        Did “the help” set off the need for establishing a means of explanation/the lexicon, or was it concrete in your mind before whatever occurred to compel the work you do?

        1. HG Tudor says:

          Thank you Lorelei.

          The work and the framework began prior and were finessed during.

          1. Lorelei says:

            It is funny HG. I’ve said countless times I work with predominantly lessers. Low lessers. They calm down like babies when I’m stern with them in just that special way. The fuel is amplified and really more negative than positive. I can see it so clearly with this population. I don’t tend to have to restrain often—so many issues revolve around restraints anyway so it’s avoided. When it happens though due to a behavioral crisis (not psychosis) they tend to come out of it very relaxed. It abates the fuel deficiency and I believe may be more a testament to resolving a fuel crisis (the attention even negative) than the benzodiazepines they are often given. The schools where there is all the physical acting out in my work neighborhoods are testaments to young budding narcissists acting out seeking fuel/validation. I could never go on the record saying this off blog of course.

  3. Pati says:

    HG thank so much for explaining this. You answered my question for free. I know now what the difference is between Emotional and Cognitive Empathy. So all Narcissist have no Emotional Empathy but they can have Cognitive Empathy. Hugs

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