You Vs Her
I have grown weary of the incumbent primary supply. The fuel that ought to be provided at a premium level has become diminished in quantity and quality. Whilst it still flows as part of the devaluation that continues, the time has come to audition for your replacement. I am courting you following my usual preparatory work once you have been targeted and I have now commenced your seduction. You are not alone. I am seducing someone else as well. It makes sense to have an insurance policy after all. You won’t know about this competitor (at least not yet) but believe me that when you are in the early stages of being seduced by our kind, it is highly likely that I was seducing someone else. In order to identify the best source of fuel so we choose the most effective primary source, we will set a number of tests. These tests are not so arduous that they will risk the seduction failing, but are designed to ascertain which of the two, or more, competing prospects provides the best fuel. This current performance amounts to a strong indicator of future performance. Here are ten of the tests that are commonly utilised.
- Sending the same text message to both prospects to see who responds the fastest.
- Sending the same text message to both prospects without concerns as to the speed of reply but as to which provides the best fuel-laden response.
- Arranging a date with both prospects and then cancelling (with a view to re-arranging of course) to determine who is the most disappointed and which of the prospects tries to keep the date alive by making adjustments and alternative suggestions.
- Calling both prospects in the middle of the night to see who answers.
- Sending the same gift at the same time to see who thanks us the fastest and in the most appreciative manner.
- If sexual coupling has occurred at this early juncture, then sleeping with you both in the space of 24 hours (or less) in order to determine who is the more fuel accomplished lover.
- Feigning a minor emergency and seeing who responds the fastest and with the greatest concern and compassion.
- Suggesting a date when I know that the prospects have something else on to see who will break their existing engagement in order to see me.
- Having a lieutenant try to arrange a date with you to see if you rebuff him and make mention of me.
- Holding a social media challenge to see how many likes, re-tweets, comments each prospect applies to my postings in a three-day period to see who posts the most and provides the most fuel.
Not only does this contest between the two prospects provide us with plenty of fuel coming from two fuel lines, it enables us to determine who we should focus our greater efforts on to ensure they are seduced and become our intimate partner and primary source. If the contest is too close to call after the ten tests above, then additional tests will be applied and the ten above will be re-run also. The winner becomes our intimate partner but the loser does not go home empty handed, not at all. They are likely to be awarded the status of inner or outer circle friend and they will be kept within our sphere of influence as a supplier of fuel. They also a future role to play in a prospective triangulation and there may even be a promotion in the offing at some point….
18 thoughts on “You Vs Her”
Does that make him a mid range or greater narcissist? Why the fake profiles?
Hello Diane, if you want to know what school of narcissist he is, use this
I really love the articles you post! They are very helpful and has helped me see the “flags and warnings” that I missed when I dealt with a recent narc slipped up, per se. We were not even bf/gf so when he did things when I advised that I am leaving him alone. I blocked and he would call like 20 times in a row, text like crazy, fb stalking using his son’s name and created a fake fb page. Then he sent money via cashapp and I thought it was random. I said thank you and that is how I got sucked back in. In retrospect, he would always unhinge when he thought I was with someone. What was more shocking is that he has a whole website and Instagram and large following and deems himself as a relationship coach!!! Unbelievable.
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If I would have known it was a competition. Would have never signed up.
Fair comment and that is why you are shown the illusion first.
Hg why would a narcissist warn you he is one ? And then warn you to run for your life? I didn’t understand at first what he was talking about till 4 years of emotional abuse. Im in no contact now. Why did he warn me ? Even said dont tell me when u leave just leave with ur actions or ill pursue u harder? When I first heard all this I had no clue about this disorder . just thought he was a shy guy and odd and he would do everything thru fake profiles.
See the Portentous Remarks of the Narcissist, Diane.
When I was in the seduction stage, I did notice him cancelling, asking me to call him NOW, asking for help, etc. I think I was an unexpected person who got in his path. We worked at the same company and suddenly we had to work together….he gave me the predatory stare at first meeting and thereafter kept making excuses to come to my desk and talk to me.
We went to lunch…yes it was a 6 hour lunch….we sat at the same restaurant from noon to 6pm. At our second lunch meeting, I ended up seducing him. We went back to his place and had non stop sex for hours. After sex he let his mask slip but I actually enjoyed the conversation. His darkness was sexy then because I didn’t know what he was. He’s still sexy but I’ve since gone no contact due to his continued lies, manipulations and ghosting.
He kept saying, “Why why why did I have to meet you?” I would ask, “why do you keep saying that?” He would reply, ” Because you’re a beautiful amazing woman and I don’t know what to do with you!” He kept saying that he didn’t know what to do with me that I am now in his life and it’s a dilemma. Now I am thinking that I was auditioning without knowing and he liked what I was providing but he had others as well. What do you think HG?
My thoughts are you should organise a consultation so I can answer this in detail for you.
My thoughts are now is a sleep rapist and no longer has the protection of narcissistic superiority nor was there ever any competition but I do so love to call out cheating abusive narcs who violate women.
And Bonnie & Clyde syndrome narcissist books by J.B. Snow are exactly why there will be no getaway drivers to my truths I speak about cheap trashy narcissists.
I hate being put in a competition. That’s when I leave. For some reason I didn’t with current Narc, though I kept trying . I think it’s the “hitting the Narc pipe ” syndrome.
That saying is from Narcology Unscripted. Loved it.
This is not a judgment – just a question if you care to answer. Are you saying that you know logically from previous relationships that it is not love, your behaviour will result in no good for you, that he will not change, but that you ignore that and continue anyway because you want another hit of that pipe? That it is addiction?
The DLS of my narc has been stalking me for 2 years. Nobody knows her (or his?) identity. Someone suggests that this person would not exist and it could be my narc that is delighting in triangulation by creating false profiles and even smearing himself. What do you think about, HG? Is it possibile that a narc behaves in this way?
Stella, I have seen this as well. When the Narc was living his rock n roll dream, he made some false profile fans to fawn over him singing and whatever. His own profile is also not his real identity. 🥶
Well, there is a pattern for narcissists to create false profiles. However DLS exists and she’s stalking all the sources of the narc. My narc keeps her hidden, to be’ free to hoover her whenever he wants.
N1-3 could happen in the earlier stages at any relationship.
N6 – is really always possible? What about you just copulated with Jane but Jill suddenly broke her leg or went on a sudden business trip , or just discover her STI test was positive and have to take antibiotics and celibates for a while?
N7 – I would respond
N8 – depends of the arrangement
And i personally would never respond to N8 – my phone is in DND mode. Plus, I personally find calling in the middle of the night ( unless it’s a case of real emergency situation or you are calling from overseas) bad mannered .
N9 – I am discreet and I might say “ I am seeing someone “ but I won’t give any further details; this is disrespectful to disclose more.
N10 – nope, won’t happen. I don’t waste time in social media unless it is
a) sport or fashion related
b) really hot political topic so I might be tempted
Conclusion- I have lost the “ competition” and I don’t care really.
There are no tests and no mind games in the healthy normal relationships .
It is strange when I am in a relationship i always have some dreams that later become reality about that person.
Weird dreams with both Narcs even during the golden/ silver/ bronze periods.