Heart Hooks No. 2 – Narc Sayings of Seduction
(This is a meme. There is no accompanying text.)
Did the narcissist say this to you? How was it conveyed, when was it conveyed and what was your response?
Do you believe in the concept of souls and souls entwining? If this phrase (or similar) was said to you, how did it make you feel? What did you believe by it?
23 thoughts on “Heart Hooks No. 2 – Narc Sayings of Seduction”
No- closest was “ we have so much in common “ never overly gushing, emotionally flat most of the time. Got more excited about extraneous non-human things mostly.
I was told we were soulmates.
That we had always been and would stay as such in the next. That we were one. Brought together now as we had always been before, throughout all of time itself. That he had always been there. That we would meet in the next and the next and that it would always be so. That it would always be us. That is would not matter that I could not carry my memories to the next because he would always find me again and everything would be as it is. Us.
I felt that I was finally home. Exactly where I belonged. I felt as though nothing in the world mattered except for every second with him. That time could stop, or that the world could burn to ashes and if he were by my side then that would be exactly right.
I had always believed in soulmates and I had already thought he was mine before he said it, so it was no stretch for me to believe it.
I always loved to hear it said in the infinite ways that he delivered it and it never failed to make my skin blush and my heart race. It made me gush over and over in return that he was my everything in an endless ensemble.
It really was a perfect harmony.
Now a lovely memory.
Did the narcissist say this to you?
LMR (I think) narcoholic called us soul mates. But this began after I’d found HG and was in it for the research.
MMR called us “sexual soul mates” .
when was it conveyed and what was your response?
I pretended to agree with both
Do you believe in the concept of souls and souls entwining?
No but only bc I don’t believe in stuff if I can help it. Could be possible, but I’m still trying to locate my “soul” so I’d have to revisit the soul mate idea if I ever find it
If this phrase (or similar) was said to you, how did it make you feel? What did you believe by it?
I felt like he’s an idiot and creating a fantasy to justify his affair with me ( MR) or his attachment to my fuel (narcoholic)
I also thought that if there was such a thing as a soulmate, how treacherous these people must be to treat their soulmate the way they treated me .
No he didn’t. As i said before i DO believe in soul concept (that we are souls having temporary human experience).
I don’t believe in true love anymore. From the point you allow yourself to fall in love, you lose.
I am agnostic but i still like the words of one woman: When you die God is not going to ask whether you got married or which men you dated? He is going to ask what you did with the life i gave you.
He said it was “bashert “ he heard it on David letterman, whom he really liked and said that it wasn’t exactly soul mates . He would never be that sentimental. Anyway , what a crock of shit and I fell for it line hook and sinker . Leaned a lot about myself in those 12 years . He also said this to me that I never quite understood. He would get really intense and say I wish I could climb right inside you and have you carry me around all day . Dance macabre to say the least .
He never said it directly, here is the only thing i can think of but i can’t be sure if it is the idea he wanted to convey.
There is a Naruto caractere named Hinata, in the begining he was always praising her, saying how perfect and wonderful she is ,and she his ideal women and his soul mate ect… at some point his stoped talking about her and started calling me hinata.
there was no response from me since i couldn’t be sure of what it means and i’m too shy to ask so i just pretented it was not important and continued the conversation.( but my face bing that worthless traitor i could feel it blush and heat so he muste have noticed my confusion and got his fuel).
Mine would never say anything so mushy. However he did say that he had never felt anything like this before, and that he never felt like he could talk to anyone the way we did. I do somwhat believe that. He would actually tell me the truth sometimes. He said he didn’t believe in love and making promises. He also said he wished open marriages were more acceptable by society.
Piano Boy used to whisper things like this to me while in he was in the throes of intense physical passion with me. He did not say the phrase verbatim but he said something very similar. “I just need to be inside you” and then once he was “It feels like our souls are touching…I always dream about this.” I would be sitting in his lap, wrapped tightly around him and then he would reach his hand up around my back as he held me and he’d grab a fistful of my hair and pull it. Never rough enough to hurt me but he’d pull it just enough where it would make me tremble and send me soaring. He’d then put one hand on the side of my face, look at me and kiss me. It was so intense I would be in (happy) tears. He would then gently touch the corner of my eyes and comment on how he could feel the electricity in my tears. Then he would say “I need to taste you” and he’d recline me, stop what he was doing and then go down on me. My brain could not process it all and it was overwhelming. He would whisper, “I want you to see you smile and see your eyes roll back as you come for me”. It did not take very long for that to happen. He often made me mess my underwear by resting his hand gently on my face and looking at me before it even escalated. But I will never forget those words “It feels like our souls are touching, I always dream about this”.
Yeah this “meme” totally fucking triggered me big time. The vivid imagery of all of that. I cannot stop crying now. Good grief I miss him so bad. I can still taste him on my lips and smell his scent. I still crave him and it is not fair. Fuck the shelf.
At least I changed my display name with this response…. I know y’all were getting tired of my old display name referencing my fuel being on the shelf.
Gabbs, you’re still addicted. Stop the thoughts like you have typed here. Do not let them take hold like this. You have to thought stop or you will suffer. Do the NA! Yell STOP as loud as you possibly can inside your head at the first inkling of a thought of N and do it over and over until you can muster a clear thought about ANYTHING else. It works. I promise. Hang in there. You can do this. Zero Impact is the goal. You’ve been given a head start.
I know MB. I read the post, it invited commentary and I began to share. And it just dredged up shit. It usually does. Sometimes it’s a minor annoyance that is fleeting. Other times it affects me on a deeper level. As helpful as HG’s writing has been it also tends to dredge and trigger things. He really has a knack for knowing exactly how we feel right down to the most precise detail. It’s often painful as I feel like a gullible fool now. And as I’ve said many times before I cannot differentiate what’s real or fake anymore from anyone so as far as I’m concerned nothing is real. Walls up, alone forever. HG article “attachment is misery” comes to mind. I need to force myself to be act like a narc. Except I won’t hurt others; I’ll just build the fortress to keep people out.
Gabbs, what you have is emotional thinking. A bad case, but certainly not insurmountable. Beat that shit down. Please let HG help you. You’re worth it. There is life after Narc.
Please don’t feel like a fool and please do not think you are the only one on here that is triggered by things HG writes. You are honest in admitting those triggers, others are not! You can build your fortress for now, but you will not always need it. You can do this! I truly believe you can do this girl! Please don’t give up. 😘
I’m sorry this meme triggered you so much. Hope you get to feeling better. Hang in there.
Thank you Gypsy Heart! 😔
Dig the name change. I do it every few months in case my MMR tracked me down . Reminds me to switch it up actually, and maybe get a new pic.
It’s like getting a haircut after dumping a guy. Good stuff
Yes, something to the effect. He kept mentioning how much we had in common, how our pasts were so similar and how our interests were identical.
No he didn’t say that.
However what he did say was that in his opinion we needed each other, and that we were symbiotic.
Would you say that’s pretty much the same?
Similar, not the same.
Well it hooked me anyway. That and a few other choice words of intellectual flattery.
He didn’t say this exactly but he said things like “I just had a feeling about you”, “I knew you were the one when I first saw you”, etc.
I think I would hurt meyself rolling my eyes if this was said to me.