Healing the Hurt


This material will enable you to bring an end to the cycle of hurt you experience from the narcissist.

By utilising HG Tudor´s unrivalled insight into how the narcissist thinks and operates and how this impacts on empathic victims, this will enable you to understand what it is that YOU do which causes you to keep being impaled by the interactions with the narcissist and how this ALWAYS results in a problem for you. You may think that certain forms of interaction with the narcissist are somehow “safe” – think again. HG Tudor explains how every time you interact with the narcissist you are opening yourself up to further problems and thus why you must avoid those interactions.

This material also explains to you how you become trapped in the seemingly endless cycle of interaction and pain, hurt, anger, misery and/or frustration with the narcissist. Why you keep getting dragged back into the dynamic with the narcissist and why you are susceptible to this. HG Tudor explains in his usual direct and no-nonsense style precisely why you go around and around, wasting years on the narcissist, frittering away time, energy and money and how you can break this cycle.

No matter where you are at with regard to your journey to freedom from the narcissist, Halting the Hurt will enable you to achieve freedom and beat the narcissist.

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58 thoughts on “Healing the Hurt

  1. Mary Robinson says:

    I could be wrong, but I get a vibe HG doesn’t like me in virtual reality. He does not know me in real reality.

    1. Mary Robinson says:

      He doesn’t have to but I am hoping I’m just being paranoid about this.

      1. Mary Robinson says:

        Am I paranoid HG about you disliking me?

        1. HG Tudor says:


          1. Mary Robinson says:


          2. Pati says:

            Come on HG, you have a soft side to you .

          3. HG Tudor says:


          4. Pati says:

            You have a sense of humour .

          5. HG Tudor says:

            Of course I do.

          6. Pati says:

            I consider that a wonderful quality in someone .

        2. Alexissmith2016 says:

          Mary, he dislikes us all equally, so don’t worry about it xx

          HG, I really need to get up out of bed and make a nice cup of tea but I don’t want to miss any of your comments.

          Could you take a little break? Please x

          1. HG Tudor says:

            You can have 30 minutes. Why are you still in bed? You lazy bugger!

          2. Alexissmith2016 says:

            Ah you’re the best narcissist ever! Thank you x

            Working at home and it’s all cosy.

          3. HG Tudor says:

            You work in bed? I see…..

          4. alexissmith2016 says:

            Thanks for waiting. I’m back.

            You may continue

          5. HG Tudor says:


          6. alexissmith2016 says:

            You have though

          7. HG Tudor says:

            Yes, as I decided.

          8. alexissmith2016 says:

            I love you, I love you, I love you xxxx

          9. HG Tudor says:

            I know.

          10. NarcAngel says:


            Haha. Someone knows How To Make A Request To A Narcissist.

            You were civil and polite.
            It did not appear as a demand.
            You provided some flattery but did not go overboard.
            He is in the Golden Period with his IPPS which increases your chances.
            You made the request once only.
            The request was clear.

            You were successful and granted 30 minutes.

          11. HG Tudor says:

            All accurate but most of all it occurred only because it suited me. Remember, readers, you cannot control the narcissist, so if something happens which you wanted to happen, it because we wanted it to happen anyway.

          12. Mary Robinson says:

            Thanks Alex.

          13. alexissmith2016 says:

            Hahah thanks NA, love the way you link it back to ‘Making a request of the narcissist’ article!

            You’re right. It did work.

            ‘la la la la la’ I can’t see any further comments? do you?

          14. HG Tudor says:


          15. alexissmith2016 says:

            Still can’t see any? Only this one? Can you see anything NA?

          16. NarcAngel says:

            Hmmm…I wonder what prompted that huge lightening bolt to crack the sky.

            Also, where did Alexis go?

          17. HG Tudor says:


          18. alexissmith2016 says:

            I’m here, I’m here. It’s me NA, Alexis.

            I’m here down in the dungeon

          19. HG Tudor says:

            Ignore that. Just the wind.

          20. kel says:

            Was there an insinuation from HG that flew under the radar about working in bed? Sure the work this naughty nun gravatar does involves a laptop- er telecommuting. In any case I wasn’t expecting the clean (but excellent) observation from our cat woman, lol.

          21. Violetta says:

            HG, I liked the “Empire Strikes Back” allusion.

  2. Bubbles 🍾 says:

    Dear Mr Tudor,
    Only the other day, my mum tried to withhold some money she “owed” me claiming she’d already given it …….she had not
    I calmly corrected her and in that moment she knew not to mess with me (my instant glaring look of being insulted may have been a slight giveaway) haha
    I remindered her to check her finances as I provide her with all receipts and everything cent is accountable
    Mr Bubbles reassured mum I don’t make mistakes
    Naturally, no apology from her ….just “carry on” like nothing had happened …….. typical
    Thank you for being here Mr Tudor and all your scenario examples, it helps keep me on track and vigilant at all times
    Forever grateful
    Luv Bubbles xx 😘

  3. NotMe! says:

    The pitch fork analogy is very powerful and poignant. I just read Manipulated and after the tears, I wrote down examples of every single method mentioned. Whilst it made me feel wretched as it was like re-living. I’m hoping it will ‘fuel’ my resistance

  4. MB says:

    Speaking of impaling, I did a bit of research regarding Vlad The Impaler in preparation for my attendance at a performance of Dracula last evening. The images and descriptions of what impaling actual entailed was not pretty as was not good for my mental health! Thankfully, none of that happened during the performance.

    I did note however that the vampire dynamic was quite similar to the narcissistic dynamic. Dracula seduced, infected, subsumed, and controlled his victims.

    1. MB. Actually, Dear Vlad basically impaled disrespectful people that challenged his power in a disrespectful manner. He only did what many powerful people do when they can: Impale enemies one way or another. People are often stubborn, but over time, they got the message to not disrespect him. Somehow his true story has changed over time. into a sort of a fairytale like thing. History is written by the winner, but there are often remnants of the true stories around, I have discovered over time. I sort of like him. The true story about him. He hated disrespect. So do most of us. But most of us do not have the wherewithal to do much about being disrespected. I may research some of the true story about him again, once I rest from my little peek into the House currently styled as Windsor and slowly styling somewhat into Mountbatten-Windsor. That tiny bit of research was enough to last me quite for a while.

      1. MB says:

        PSE, you certainly have a different opinion of “Dear Vlad” than I formed from my reading. I would more readily label him a sadist and a violent psychopath. I couldn’t say “I like him” based on my research.

        Anyway, what your reference to the peek into the Windsor House?

        1. PrincessSuperEmpath says:

          MB: Regarding Dear Vlad: My overall taste in men may not be quite normal, I admit. And not always politically correct, that is for sure. And a little controlled malice in them does not bother me at all–as long as I am not on the receiving end of the malice, of course. My other reference: Anyway, I was looking into the house styled as Windsor during some posts the other day, that a few of us were discussing regarding men and abdications and women and thrones and fairy tales. What I saw with a small peek into the `Winsor` House background, since I knew little about it, is that The House styled as Windsor is still a very dense and deeply powerful House, when you look into their lineage and history, much of which is easily accessible on the Internet, after a little trial and error. And it is a smart House. And it is not easy at all to survive as a Monarchy for as long as they have. And, overall, they are not to be thought of lightly, or taken lightly, regarding substantive matters.

      2. lisk says:

        PSE, it sounds like it’s all about control, either way.

      3. Violetta says:

        His common people liked him, because he kept them safe.
        Rival nobility, however….

    2. Mary Robinson says:

      Yup, parasitic.

  5. Pati says:

    I pick up the same object right by my front door every day telling it my husband is A Narcissist you need to Get out .

    1. MB says:

      I hope you will consult with HG, Pati. Your home life and work life both revolving around the narcissist adds an extra layer of complexity to your entanglement.

      1. Pati says:

        I agree MB totally ,I will consult with HG soon !

  6. MB says:

    HG, do you believe in win/win situations? Is it always true that if there is a winner, there must be a loser?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      I do.

      Reading my work and consulting with me is a win/win.

      Trying to take HG on – zero sum game. I win, challenger loses.

      Luckily for the vast majority of readers you get the win/win.

      1. MB says:

        Thank you HG. But only the “vast majority”…yikes! 😳

        1. HG Tudor says:

          The very small number of narcissists that come here, lose. Everybody else – it´s a win.

          1. MB says:

            True dat! Happy Sunday, HG 😊

          2. Mary Robinson says:

            UH OHC maybe I am the narc?

          3. MB says:

            No you’re not Mary!

          4. Mary Robinson says:

            MB, thanks .

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  8. PrincessSuperEmpath says:

    Dearest HG: One of my Top 10 HG Tudor articles. A Logic Spap Down.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Thank you and indeed it is.

      1. PrincessSuperEmpath says:

        Dearest HG: Thank you for understanding that I meant to say: A Logic SLAP Down. I am amazed what autocorrect and spell check allow to go through, and if I am blame shifting, those programs deserve to be blamed shifted onto. We have largely the autocorrect and spell check systems that are market Winners, but they are not the Best, in the least. I have seen way better ones but alas, many of those programs were defeated by this stuff. Sigh…. Anyway, The Devil’s Three Pronged Pitchfork article has stealthily eased me away from a lot of situational madness. Bravo. Amen.

      2. Lorelei says:

        Great! It’s excellent how well this makes sense. Giving nothing and ignoring is best.

        1. HG Tudor says:

          Jolly good.

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