Point Askew



In a discussion with Dr E we were engaged in one of the sessions where he invites me to consider the situation from the point of view of those that I interact with. On this particular occasion we were discussing situations where a victim wishes to cease interacting with me and he wanted to know if I could understand why they might form that view. Since I am a clever chap I am able to work out how people might feel about being on the receiving end of my behaviour. I understand that anxiety and hyper vigilance, misery and upset follow the way I treat people. As you know though I do not care. People make the mistake that I am dismissive of the way people feel. It is not that. I can see that they are upset. I can see that they are angry. I know all of that. What people often fail to realise is that my needs have to come first. I need my fuel. If that means you standing there sobbing at me then that has to happen so I get my fuel. If there was a different way of getting that fuel then I would use that method. If that alternative method did not leave you upset then I would take it, but there is no other way, not when I grow tired of you. I need the fuel and that means you have to suffer as you supply that to me.

I do understand how you feel because I have seen the reactions over and over again. I know what anger looks like, I know what misery is and I have seen despair so often. I can understand your point of view when you stand arguing with me, but I will not concede to it. I want you to keep arguing as that gives me fuel. I will deploy a circular argument to keep the drama going. I want you to explode through frustration and shower me with your attention as you do so. I hear everything you say to me (although I will wind you up by saying I cannot hear you, so you speak louder and become exasperated). People suspect that I cannot appreciate what your view is. I do but it must always be subservient to my desire for fuel. Of course, by telling you this I can extract even more fuel from you because now you know that I understand your views but I wont pay any heed to them and that will infuriate you all the more.

3 thoughts on “Point Askew

  1. privatejourney60 says:

    Life feels so peaceful without all dismissive energies!

  2. A recovering empath says:

    Since your article regarding your latest interview, i have been enlightened to understand your plight and what narcissism does (i cannot fathom the entity but the cause and effect i can grasp).
    Now this article…clarity has struck and the ability to detach from it (knowing narcissists are part of in any situation) assists me deeply. Thank you 🙂
    As for my previous responses and their notes of dark frustration & described hatred, i apologize.
    Further i would like to mention that my emotive state and expression here is not to attempt to affect/effect you in any way shape or form. It is simply an outlet for me to express my confusion, and other emotions and knowing that they do not phase you is the reason why i share so strongly.

    Thank you again for your insightful information.


    1. HG Tudor says:

      You are most welcome Arg.

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