Puppet On A String
Becky (an ex girlfriend) would turn to me and some times say,
“I just feel like your puppet at times.”
I had to look the other way because I wanted to laugh. My nickname for her was poppet. She loved me calling her that. I used it straight away when we first met. It was actually a useful device as the other lady I was seeing, Susan, received that nickname from me too, but she was on the way out. It meant I could call them both poppet and not mix up their names with the invariable histrionics that would ensue. God, I am good.
What Becky had not realised that my calling her poppet was a corruption of puppet and every time I used it I would be laughing inwardly and beaming outwardly. She thought I was just smiling because I was pleased to be with her.
That is what it is all about. Making you my puppet. This is my aim. This is the means to my end of obtaining my fuel from you. As you will no doubt becoming familiar with, the means always justifies the end. Accordingly, by ensuring you become my puppet I am in the optimum position to control you to extract every drop of fuel I can from you.
I need to control you so that you admire me when I want it. I need to control you so that I can pull the strings and make you jerk to my tune. I am the puppetmaster.
To make you my puppet I engage on a two-pronged approach. Firstly, I make you utterly dependent on me. I open the doors and let you look upon heaven. That way you are in awe of what I can give you and you want it, oh you really, really want it. Secondly, I will then remove every method of support both real and potential that you might rely on to try and recover your free will (family, friends, colleagues and so on – I will be posting about how I do this through my slur campaign in a separate post) so that you have nobody to turn to. Thus, as you look on heaven entranced and enraptured, I am opening the trapdoor to hell right under your feet.
Once I have those strings attached to you we can begin our dance. It is long. It is exhausting. It is dangerous.
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This theme can be applied to ‘Female Social & Professional Circles’. The Female game is very mean spirited and most hurtful because it’s the anti-thesis of the mouth piece Rhetoric of ‘Girl Power’.
This sounds like the Muppet Show.
Miss Piggy and Kermit the Frog
Aren’t they sock puppets?
Hand puppets i believe.
Ive noticed this inward smugness with the narc. He will say something and i know he means it another way and thinks he got one over on me but the jokes on him bc what does that say? It says volumes! It says he needs to feel good about himself by putting someone down and a woman at that. That shows extreme self worth issues. Most people with an ounce of self worth would have no need or interest in playing double meaning games with others. It also shows a stunt in maturity bc those are childish behaviours. Npd is stunted growth psychologically. They are stuck in childlike ways. You see an adult but if you flipped them inside out youd see a child interior. Compartmentalizing prevents growth.
I see this with the narc hes older but still on many levels acts like a teen and even in some situations like a child. Age is definitely a number bc ive seen children more mature in certain respects. Im able to accept this bc i understand it.
As far as being isolated i think there are narcs who intentionally do this behind the scenes thru smearing and getting the victims friends on their side but theres also narcs that dont and its a secondary result of the victims involvement and addiction. This is the case with myself. I became so immersed and enthralled i distanced myself from others and my interests. Once the spell broke i started to come back down to earth and find myself again. Its still a process thats not fully there but slowly im making my way. Im definitely no longer isolated but when i was it was my own doing.
I dont dance his dance like i used to and ive noticed its changed the dynamics. Presently hes back to lovebombing me and showing the intial mask but i know all the masks. Its a cycle and like split personality disorder the other characters will be back….
C-MUM,
I remember you stated that you were an ISPS and the narc was in the upper school range of narcissism, so I somewhat understand. But what was the reason that he is still around playing these games to begin with? You sound smart, beautiful, and obviously developing a better sense of self through this process.
P.s. I am in no way victim blaming you. I have been stuck “coparenting” with a horrible narc, and it is taking me time to get him out of here, so I understand. I was just curious about your story.
Hi anm…im sorry youre having to struggle with coparenting i cant even begin to understand how difficult that must be!! One thing i have realised thru all of my struggles with npd is that despite my own marital issues ive never had to be married to a narc or share a child with one and im so grateful bc that is so very difficult! I hope things get easier in your situation. Im always amazed how strong and courageous the women are on here that do have to endure these situations.
The narc im with continues to play head games bc thats how hes hardwired. He needs to in his mind or he gets restless and starts to focus on his inner empty self the real one which narcs loathe.
The fuel is his bandaide and distraction from his core issues.
As far as the double meanings thats more the grandious behaviour of feeling superior and being smarter etc Its also very passive aggressive to insult someone without them being aware like youre getting one over on them or making them the fool. Again superiority and lack of respect.
HG, do you suspect that some of those people who collect realistic looking sex dolls are narcissists?
Not all who do so are narcissists. I have an empath friend who is a collector, but then he is weird.
Is that just because he likes dolls and weird things, or does he actually like them in a sexual/romantic way?
In a sexual fashion.
Wow can’t even trust an empath man not to be some type of necrophiliac kind of freak
I think he just prefers the silence.
“but then he is weird”
Haha. Says the guy who wrote the most excellent yet shocking book: Sex.
Maybe the empath friend has dated narcs and now prefers dolls who don’t demean him with their cruel words, or punish him sexually by turning their back to him in bed. Also, he can say with all sincerity that his girlfriend is a doll.
Words are so very unnecessary
“I think he just prefers the silence“
I think he just prefers “women” as objects but you know I’m jaded
No, he’s not a narcissist
HG I understand that he doesn’t have NPD but he has still been socialised as a man so…
A real woman would have boundaries and an opinion, a doll doesn’t. He can throw a doll around however he likes, he can make it look however he likes (most likely young!) and that makes me question why any man would prefer that over a real person.
Like I said I’m jaded and although I know there are female narcs.. generally speaking I have less trust for the male sex so I’m always suspicious
Fascinating questions, witch