Can You Have A Successful Intimate Relationship With A Narcissist?


Surely you can, yes? Just heap on the compliments. Or maybe be completely compliant? Or maybe you need to follow a lot of the awful ‘advice’ out there about how you can control/manipulate/co-exist with the narcissist. Or you could get weaponised and listen to this instead.

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76 thoughts on “Can You Have A Successful Intimate Relationship With A Narcissist?

  1. ANM says:

    Yes, Happy New Year Empaths!!

  2. Bubbles 🍾 says:

    Dear Mr Tudor,
    You seriously need a Happy New Year page (and a Merry Christmas one) πŸ˜‚
    Luv Bubbles xx 😘

    1. zwartbolleke says:

      Yes dear Bubbles
      I’m waiting for that too πŸ™‚
      Happy New Year, Thank you for the updates re the fires, here in Belgium it is not mentioned on any News, I learned it from this site. Be safe!
      To a NC year for everyone, there are 2 zero’s in 2020, let’s make it one for zero breaches of NC and one for zero new Narcs in our life 🀞🏻🀞🏻

      1. Bubbles 🍾 says:

        Dear zwartbolleke,
        Thank you kindly
        Our country is on fire and now an unstoppable fire on Kangaroo Island…where sea lions inhabit
        500 million animals have perished, (included 8,000 koalas)
        So far 12 million acres of land have been burnt (5 million hectares)
        Over 4,000 people are being evacuated (people are still trapped and can’t get out) our defence force is in operation
        Roughly 20 deaths, mainly injured
        Smoke has filled the air that we breath affecting so many
        Our neighbours daughter lives in an area where a fire broke out just yesterday
        It’s just insane !
        Luv Bubbles xx 😘

        1. FoolMe1Time says:


          I think of you every time I see or hear something about Australia! I hope you will be safe? All the people loosing everything they own it is so very sad, but it is the animals Bubbles that just break my heart, especially the Koalas! I have been following Port Macquarie Koala Hospital for updates and it truly does not look very good for the gentle creature. Please know my prayers are with you and everyone in Australia at this time. πŸ˜ͺ 🐨
          Please stay safe dear Bubbles! πŸ˜˜πŸ’ž

          1. NarcAngel says:

            I hope you are recuperating well, and wish you a successful (your definition) 2020.

          2. FoolMe1Time says:

            NA, thank you, Everything went as planned and I am out and about as usual. I read that you were sick over the holidays and I hope that at this time you are well? I hope you have a safe and Happy New Year Sista! πŸ˜˜πŸ’ž

          3. Bubbles 🍾 says:

            Dear FoolMe1Time,
            Thank you so so much
            I hope you’re doing well with your recovery dear one
            We are all paralysed in shock
            It’s been almost incomprehensible
            Kangaroo Island was another nightmare
            We’re all living day by day and just doing whatever we can to help
            The devastation is beyond belief !
            Thank you for your kind words and thoughts
            Luv Bubbles xx 😘

            Dear Mr Tudor, thank you kindly for allowing this on your post…. I’m humbly grateful

          4. FoolMe1Time says:

            It wasn’t that long after I sent my last comment to you that I saw what was happening on Kangaroo Island! You’re right it is incomprehensible and I do not know the correct words to write to you at this time. I don’t think I will ever have the correct words for something this devastating! Please stay safe Dear Bubbles! Just know people world wide are watching and advancing ways to help! You are in my heart and prayers always.

            HG Thank you for allowing this!

          5. Bubbles 🍾 says:

            Dear FoolMe,
            I think for us here , we just can’t do enough to help each other, we want to do more
            Businesses n wineries etc are also struggling .. its a domino effect I’ve never before seen on this scale !
            No one can really focus on anything else right now
            The loss of human life and those poor animals is just so tragic !
            Those amazing tireless firefighters are our heroes
            Your kind caring heartfelt words are being felt for sure so thank you so much FoolMe πŸ’•
            Luv Bubbles xx 😘

          6. FoolMe1Time says:

            You are very welcome Bubbles. I will keep all of you in my prayers.

        2. Chihuahuamum says:

          Stay safe bubbles ❀

          1. Bubbles 🍾 says:

            We are safe, thank you Chihuahuamum πŸ’•
            Luv Bubbles xx 😘

        3. FYC says:

          Dearest Bubbles, Can you please direct me to the best wildlife/animal veterinarian/rescue/assistance teams in Oz that are actively and directly assisting with animal rescue and care for the animals from the fires? I would like to reach out. Everything I read about it or see is horrifying and heartbreaking. Thank you for keeping us informed. Take care. 😘

          1. FYC says:

            Thank you very much Bubbles.

          2. AnneB says:

            FYC, I found these listed in an ABC news piece outlining ways people can help with wildlife rescue.


          3. FYC says:

            Thank you so much, AnneB, I appreciate it.

          4. AnneB says:

            It’s a pleasure, FYC.

          5. Bubbles 🍾 says:

            Dear FYC,
            Here’s another organisation to add
            I hope between AnneB (thank you) and myself it helps
            Thank you for caring lovely one
            Luv Bubbles xx 😘

          6. FYC says:

            Yes, dear Bubbles, you both helped and I will check into this too. Help is on the way and more to follow. Thank you so muchπŸ’ž

          7. Bubbles 🍾 says:

            Dear FYC,
            Australia Zoo, the home of the Irwin family in Queensland have treated over 90,000 patients 🐨in their wildlife hospital …..truly unbelievable !
            Luv Bubbles xx 😘

          8. FYC says:

            Dear Bubbles, Yes, that is truly impressive! From the links you and AnneB sent, I also found the work of “WIRES” (wildlife rescue) and RSPCA very helpful. The latter helps wildlife and domestic animals effected by the fires. I gave to all. It is a drop in the bucket given the enormity, but I was encouraged to read that many tens of millions have been raised so far and that all states will benefit.

          9. Bubbles 🍾 says:

            Dear FYC,
            You’re an absolute sweetie
            “Thank you” for people like you πŸ’•
            Luv Bubbles xx 😘

          10. FYC says:

            Likewise Bubbles😘 Thanks again.

        4. AnneB says:

          Bubbles, It is a nightmare for all the people directly affected and the ripple effect is enormous.. As for those who have died that way and all the animals that have perished in agony, well I think we as humans just turn our thoughts elsewhere in order to protect ourselves emotionally. Bubbles, stay safe…hugs to you!

          1. Bubbles 🍾 says:

            Dear AnneB,
            Thank you, I hope you’re doing ok precious
            The tragedy happening here right now is off the Richter scale 🐨….it’s so depressing !
            Hugs to you also lovely one
            Please keep safe as well
            Luv Bubbles xx 😘

          2. MB says:

            I cannot look at pictures or footage. It affects me to my core. Some have come up in my news feed and I’m devastated. My thoughts and prayers are with the people and animals destroyed by this tragedy. Thank you for providing the link Bubbles. Stay safe!!

          3. Violetta says:

            Got this petition about getting aid to Oz from in my email, forwarding to everyone I know:


          4. Bubbles🍾 says:

            Dear MB and Violetta,
            Thank you angels …’s affecting many empaths (me included)
            Those at the end are in memory
            Luv Bubbles xx 😘

      2. Gillian says:

        Mr Tudor, thank you for all your wonderful insights. I am now working back the way. 10 weeks no contact. I think my narc was a mid range. Omg I so wish the golden period was real. You guys are so clever.

        1. HG Tudor says:

          Assess the Narc through the Narc Detector as part of your defences. Speak with me to assess your no contact regime because from your comment I can see it is not complete no contact.

  3. alexissmith2016 says:

    Bugar! I meant RIchard Osmon not Alexander

  4. FoolMe1Time says:

    Happy New Year to all you beautiful empaths out there! I hope everyone has a blessed and peaceful New Year!! πŸ˜˜πŸ’ž

    Happy New Year to the most famous Narcissist of them all!! HG thank you for all that you do. I hope you have a blessed and most contentful New Year. πŸ’ž

    1. FYC says:

      Happy New Year FM1T, may you have health, happiness, peace and good fortune this year and always.πŸ’ž

      1. FoolMe1Time says:

        Thank you beautiful FYC. πŸ˜˜πŸ’ž

        1. Lorelei says:

          I looked at watermelon sour patch kids yesterday and thought of you! Not one sour patch kid for 6 months is my resolution! It’s not my fault for wanting them. Why can’t I have just one serving? Why must it be half the bag?

          1. FoolMe1Time says:

            I don’t like the watermelon SPK. But oh I love the others! The top of my mouth is still sore from all the SPK I ate as comfort food while I was healing. 🀣🀣

          2. Lorelei says:

            Omg the watermelon ones are like crack! Except I’ve never had crack but I think it’s the same. I’m hitting the gym hard for 10 weeks before an excursion, but I believe I have the flu and I’m having to use an inhaler. I’m kinda stuck for a few days. I have to work with a mask today but only for four hours. No more candy!

          3. FoolMe1Time says:

            Yuk! I can’t even stand the smell of watermelon, or cucumbers! 🀒

          4. Lorelei says:

            I eat both substances. Cucumbers probably every other day in salads. They sell mini ones in a bag at my grocery and I buy two bags a week. Watermelon infrequent but the sour patch kids don’t taste like watermelons from the earth. It’s more a sour sugary event.

          5. Lorelei says:

            I also can’t believe dick pics is still a featured top hit! I can’t stand men taking pics of their genitals. Ugh. Double ugh.

          6. FoolMe1Time says:

            No comment

    2. WhoCares says:

      Happy New Year FM1T!
      All the best in 2020 to you πŸ’œ

      1. FoolMe1Time says:

        Thank you dear WhoCares! πŸ˜˜πŸ’ž

      2. FoolMe1Time says:

        Thank you Dear K!!😘

        1. K says:

          My pleasure FoolMe1Time!!!
          Hahahaha…I ate a bunch of SPK, too, and the top of my mouth hurt the next day, however, they were yummy.

          1. FoolMe1Time says:

            Oh K the pleasure is so worth the pain. Haha

          2. K says:

            Hahahaha…totally worth the pain. I couldn’t stop eating them even though my mouth hurt. Lorelei is right; they are addictive.

          3. FoolMe1Time says:

            I didn’t stop eating them either! I was going to save some for the next day and course that didn’t happen. Haha I’m done with them now for awhile! πŸ™ƒ

          4. Lorelei says:

            Why do they cause us such pain? My mouth hurt too.

          5. FoolMe1Time says:

            Isn’t that what we do? Like the things that bring us pain?

          6. K says:

            it’s the citrus acid; it’s a killer!

          7. Lorelei says:

            It’s so good though!

    3. K says:

      Happy New Year, FoolMe1Time!!!

    4. Pale Horse says:

      HNY FM1T!!

      1. FoolMe1Time says:

        Pale Horse, Thank you very much!! 😘

      2. K says:

        Happy New Year, Pale Horse!

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  6. Lorelei says:

    Excellent listening. It helped to hear the differences between non-primary source arrangements.

  7. Bubbles 🍾 says:

    Dearest lovelies,
    Happy 2020 to each and everyone here
    I wish you all my very best and thank you for your luv, kindness, caring, advice and support
    Please stay safe, healthy and narc resistant
    Sending you big new year hugs
    Cheers dears 🍾πŸ₯‚
    Mwah πŸ’‹
    Luv Bubbles xx 😘

    1. DoForLuv says:

      HNY dear Bubbles πŸ₯‚πŸ€©

      1. Bubbles 🍾 says:

        Dear DoForLuv,
        Thankyou gorgeous one
        Happy New Year to you too
        Luv Bubbles xx 😘

    2. WiserNow says:

      Happy New Year Bubbles! I hope you have a safe, healthy and narc resistant year as well. Best wishes! xx😘

      1. Bubbles 🍾 says:

        Dearest WiserNow,
        Happy 2020 lovely one
        Thanking you so kindly 😍
        Luv Bubbles xx 😘

    3. K says:

      Dearest Bubbles, MB and Fellow Readers,
      Happy New Year!!!
      luv K xoxox

      1. Bubbles 🍾 says:

        My dearest K,
        Thank you so kindly
        Warmest new year greetings to you lovely one 😊
        Luv Bubbles xx 😘

    4. Pale Horse says:

      HNY Bubbles!

      1. MB says:

        Happy Narc Free New Year Pale Horse! I didn’t know you were still reading. Good to see you.

      2. Bubbles 🍾 says:

        Dearest Pale Horse,
        Welcome back precious
        I hope you’re doing well and had a wonderful festive season
        My very best for you in 2020
        Luv Bubbles xx 😘

  8. MB says:

    Happy New Year to all! I second what WiserNow said. Hear! Hear!

  9. WiserNow says:

    To HG and all the readers and commenters…

    Have a Happy New Year!! I hope your 2020 is a great year for you and one that brings you all you wish for yourself.
    Here’s to more knowledge, more self-awareness, more courage, more strength, and (dare I say it), more hope too.
    Best wishes to everyone! πŸŽ‰πŸŽ‰πŸŽ‰

    1. Mercy says:

      Happy New year WiserNow.

      1. WiserNow says:

        Thank you Mercy, and the same to you.

    2. DoForLuv says:

      HNY WiserNow hello to years off self care πŸ₯‚

      1. WiserNow says:

        Thank you DoForLuv, and I wish the same to you as well πŸ₯‚βœ¨

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