The One and Only



I really do think the world of you, you know. I have not met anybody like you. No don’t shake your head. I know you are modest but you should accept a compliment when it is given, heaven knows you deserve it. I have to admit I have had a few relationships, but you know, we have all been there haven’t we? I used to think I knew what love was. I used to think that the person I was with was what I wanted, the answer to my prayers and that special someone. All of that was not the case. In fact, it is quite apparent to me that they were really just practice runs to allow me to perfect my love in readiness for your arrival. I know it may seem strange but I feel like that I have always known you and moreover that somehow that I always knew we would be together. I used to tell myself in previous relationships that this was it, this was the one, but something would go wrong. I guess I was not a very good judge of characters back then. I kept picking the wrong ones. Goodness me I could tell you some tales. I have hooked up with some real fruit loops in my time. I seem to attract them. I think it is because when I want to be with someone I give my absolute all to that person. I see no point in holding back, do you? It has to be everything or it is worth nothing. I can see you nodding, I thought you would agree. You and I are on the same wave length. I can sense it. I have an aptitude for it. A sixth sense. I have to admit I have not always been blessed with it and it has taken some time to fine tune it, I guess that is why I had to go through the rollercoaster ride with some of my exs. Still, although they did not treat me well, no it is okay, you don’t need to know about all of that. I want to talk about you and me, that is far more important. Yes, they did not treat me well at all but that’s for another story I do not want to spoil tonight talking about their jealous rages and violent tempers. Thank goodness you are not like that. No it is fine you do not have to persuade me of that being the case. I know you are not like them. I can tell you are a far better person. Do you know how I know? It is in the way that you move. Yes, it is. You move with a grace I have not seen before. That tells me that you are self-assured but not in a flamboyant manner. You know who you are and you move around with a grace and a presence which brings reassurance. I will let you into a little secret. Before I spoke to you I used to watch you. Not in a stalker kind of way, more as in an interested observer kind of way. I saw how people reacted to you, with warmth and delight whenever you spoke to them and I thought to myself when I saw how their faces lit up and how their eyes widened in pleasure that you were probably the kind of person who spends more time looking after other people than you do spend looking after yourself. I am right aren’t I? It is not good trying to hide and look at the floor I can see I am right. I usually am about people. It is something of a gift but one I am now able to use to avoid the people who would hurt me and believe me there have been a few of them and instead find someone who will respect and love me in the same way that I will love and respect them.

It is all about finding that mutuality isn’t it? I bet you and I have much in common. Well, I know from our last date we share similar tastes in music and travel destinations and that just proves my point. I should imagine that if we discussed politics, although I don’t intend to tonight, there will be plenty of time to do that in the future, we would have similar views. You see that I have been able to work out, after all the mishaps and the people that have let me down, who is right for me and who I am right for. I am a straight-forward kind of fellow. I will put you on a pedestal and worship you, yes I will, because somebody like you, someone so special and caring deserves that. Oh I know you modern independent ladies are all about equality and believe me I am one hundred percent behind that but I do know that once upon a time you used to pretend to be a princess and that never leaves you. How do I know that? I have a sister you see and I saw how she played and made-up games based around being a fairy or a princess, good characters who wanted that happy ever after. I know it has never left her and so by the same token I know that someone like you, a good and decent and honest people still has that desire to be treated properly and every once in a while reminded of that fact. I can tell by your smile that you agree with me and I am glad of that because I know how well I will treat you. I have much to give to you and you deserve to be treated right. You see, I sense, like me you have been hurt in the past. I can see it in your eyes. You are hoping that nothing spoils what we have because it is showing such promise isn’t it? Yes, I thought you would agree. I can tell by the slightly guarded manner you have, but don’t be concerned, that is no bad thing given the way that some people behave, but I am not like them. You have no need to be concerned about me. I will only ever look after you and have your best interests at heart. That is why you and I have been brought together, two people who just want to love and be loved. It is not much to ask is it? That is why when I first met you I realised that you are the one.

You rise from your chair to go to the bathroom and I sit back in my chair and smile. I can say that speech backwards now and it works every time.

8 thoughts on “The One and Only

  1. Rebeka says:

    But why though? Why put so much time and energy into saying all of that when it has literally zero depth? You know you don’t mean it and yet you still take it upon yourself to come up with and then say all of it because you know it will cause us to fall in love with you?
    How do you not see that if you would allow yourself access into your own heart and let one other person in with you, you would be free to put all that energy into other areas of your life?
    It baffles me how much time is spent by narcississts just playing games with people. Time is the most valuable commodity we all have and you guys are so wrapped up in wasting it on tedious pursuits of victim after victim after victim and the various ways to further damage them. It’s wrong. Life shouldn’t be about how many people you can possibly pull in and feed off of. It should be about how many people you can help bolster and help lift up, not tear down.
    Whether you believe in God or not, one day we will have to face Him and give an account for every careless word and behavior and I just don’t understand how you can look at yourself in the mirror and not be overwhelmed with grief over the countless unsuspecting and kind hearted people you’ve destroyed just because they adored you. That’s sick.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      1. Because that is the nature of control.
      2. You do not understand it because
      a. You are (understandably) applying your perspective which is not the correct perspective , and
      b. You are being misled by your emotional thinking.
      3. You think it is tedious but that is because you are not a narcissist. It is not tedious to the narcissist because the narcissist either does not see it as game playing (Lesser or Mid Range) or does and revels in it (Greater).

      You need to keep reading, build the logic and reduce your ET and it will make sense to you. You do not have to like it, you have to understand it.

  2. fiddleress says:

    Just a thought, brought on by the last line, “I can say that speech backwards now and it works every time”: in my mother tongue, “words” (les mots) and “ailments” (les maux) are homophones. Interesting, I think, in relation to words being the favoured tool of narcissists.
    In one of your articles, HG, I remember reading that our entanglement with narcissists can result in physical illness, amongst other undesirable consequences, and I totally believe this.
    In one of my very last encounters with my Narcx, I experienced the physical sensation of utter rage (to the point that I could have harmed myself), because of some words he had said – some of which he had shouted.

  3. Pati says:

    HG , you are auch a smooth talker.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Well noticed.

      1. Pati says:

        Thank you HG! Wasnt hard to pick up.

      1. Pati says:

        Hi Violetta, i dont see the link that you posted to my comment
        Was it an error?

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