Losing My Grip

 

LOSING-MY-GRIP

Do you still remember the first time we held hands? I do. I will never forget. We were walking alongside the river. I had seen you walking there on numerous occasions previously. I would pass you and see you ambling along, completely lost in your own world. I would lean against a nearby tree and watch you as you would stand on the riverbank and gaze out across the flowing river.

I would stare at the back of your head as I concentrated on working out what you would be thinking. Occasionally you would take out your ‘phone and take pictures of the river before standing once again in silent contemplation. You wore simple, sensible outdoors attire for these frequent walks. Your only concession to glamour was the scarlet scarf you wore about your neck. You were a creature of habit always taking this walk in early evening at the same time during the summer and then on the cusp of dusk through autumn and winter. You did it every day and each day you would spend some time staring out across the flowing water.

Once in a while you would make this walk with a friend and it was through her that I plotted to get to know you. You and your friend would both drive to the car park and then meet by the café on the edge of the car park and the path that wound along by the river’s edge. I noticed how you always arrived and left independent of one another. It was as if your friendship relied on being contained to this walk and nothing else. After seeing this ritual on many occasions I saw you drive away but your friend went to the café. This was my chance. Taking a replica of the scarf that you wore I entered the café and interrupted your friend as she stood in a short queue.

“Excuse me,” I smiled, ” I was walking along the path and your friend dropped her scarf, I have it here.”

“Oh thank you,” your friend replied and smiling took the scarf from my hand.

“Not a problem, did you enjoy your walk?” I asked pleasantly.

“Yes it is a lovely spot here isn’t it?”

“Absolutely and no matter what the weather or the season there is always something different to see,” I explained. She nodded and using my customary charm I found myself sat with the friend and enjoying a warm drink together. It was in the course of that discussion, a polite conversation on a chilly autumnal late afternoon that I learned your name. Once armed with this information and remembering the other shards of your life that your friend had mentioned in innocent reference I soon tracked you down on Facebook.

There I worked through your profile, admiring your photographs and finding more about you. I spent time checking through the films and books that you had liked. They were not many, only a half a dozen in each category and I noticed that Memoirs of a Geisha was one of your favourite books. I knew this book and also its author. As I worked through the pictures I saw the ones of the river where you often stood and I beneath each one you had posted the same quotation which you attributed to someone who I knew was the author of Memoirs of a Geisha.

A little later I saw you stood contemplating the river once again and this time I walked up besides you.

“Never give up for even rivers someday wash dams away,” I said. You turned and smiled at me.

“Arthur Golden,” you answered naturally recognising the quotation and referring to the author of one of your favourites books.

“Correct,” I smiled, “is that why you look out over this river every day, to give you hope?” I asked.

You looked at me as if evaluating whether you should admit me to your confidence. Your did not take long to decide.

“Absolutely. It gives me hope that by looking on something so natural and beautiful as this that it will wash certain things away.”

I knew from the way you had answered that there was more to tell but now was not the time. We talked a little while and then I left you to your contemplations. After that you always said hello and we stood and talked as little by little I was given entry into your world. From standing at that same point we moved on to walking along the river bank as we got to know one another. I took care to walk in step with you. I knew the places you liked to stop and enjoy the view, since I had watched you do so on many times before. Like other fragments of your life that I had learned, I had memorised this and used it to stand with you and comment in an appreciative fashion about the river, the trees and the way the light would strike the surface of the water.

Carefully, like the skilled artisan that I am, I would peel away a piece of your life and add it to my own as I grew to know more about you. You spoke of work, your home life and your interests. I noticed you never met your friend for a riverside walk again and it appeared that I had supplant her as your riverside companion. Each time we would walk, talk and then have a drink in the café as my knowledge about you grew. I ensured that I said the things I knew would bring about the best response from you. I knew what to say to make you interested and attentive. I could tell, for I had seen such looks before, that the way you looked at me meant more than just companionship.

Then after perhaps two weeks, maybe a little more, as we strolled along that peaceful riverbank I reached out and took your hand in mine. You did not hesitate. There was no resistance and you allowed my larger hand to engulf yours as you slipped your hand into mine. The movement was natural. You looked at me with a smile and I saw the light flare in your eyes as you felt my power surging from within. You did not let go of my hand once on that walk. In fact that became your signature. The fact you always loved to hold my hand.

No matter where we were you would take it and hold on, even twisting your movements to avoid letting go. It was as if you had vowed that whenever you took my hand you would not let it go until I decided. I saw it as your signal of intent to care for me. It was a marker, your way of telling me that no matter what happened you would always be by my side and ready to care for me.

The handholding created this marvellous connection between us. I felt your love and admiration flowing through this handhold and in return you got to savour my brilliance. It was a fantastic connection that had been fashioned in high heaven. The moment our fingers entwined the connection was established and we both got something from it. That was why it worked. That was why we worked. That was why I worked you as I did.

I took full advantage of that but then I think you wanted me to didn’t you? That was why you always held my hand until you let me down. It was only once and you let go. You were never supposed to let go. You never had before despite everything I did, you always clung on. You always gave me that reassurance but then you took it away. I realised that you had no choice but to let go but you still let me down when you did it. I can never forgive you for that. Ever.

Sometimes I can still feel your grasp sliding from mine, the fingers slipping by and then.

Nothing.

Lightning does strike twice.

25 thoughts on “Losing My Grip

  1. Leea says:

    HG,

    Where do you write about the three that got away? Do you have an emptiness now that they are gone? Was their fuel celestial (Lol)?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Try “The 3 That Got Away”.
      No.

    2. FYC says:

      Leea, The proper title is, “The Asylum of the Grotesque: Meet Three Denizens” and you will find it in The Knowledge Vault. Well worth the purchase.

  2. FYC says:

    HG, Is this post about one of the Three That Got Away? (Omitting name(s) on purpose to protect the package)

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Yes.

      1. FYC says:

        HG, Thank you very much for this confirmation.

        1. HG Tudor says:

          You are welcome.

    2. lickemtomorrow says:

      Wow, FYC, so glad you asked. Now I’ll have to go back to the Clue Hunting …

      1. FYC says:

        Happy to hear that LET.

        1. lickemtomorrow says:

          Happy to see you back 🙂

          1. FYC says:

            Thank you, LET, that is very kind.

    3. WhoCares says:

      Good sleuthing FYC! Hope to see you back in the forum.

    4. WhoCares says:

      Good sleuthing FYC!
      Hope to see you back in the forum.*

      *Sorry, if this comes through twice.

      1. FYC says:

        Hello WhoCares and thank you, that is appreciated.

        1. Violetta says:

          FYC:

          You’ve been Voluntold. Your organizational skills are needed.

          1. FYC says:

            Organizational skills?

          2. Violetta says:

            FYC:

            Ability to organize information into a logical structure and identify patterns. Please see Forum.

        2. NarcAngel says:

          FYC
          I’ve missed you. Glad to know you are ok.

          1. FYC says:

            NA, You are most kind and you already know how much I appreciate you. I’m sorry if I caused you concern, but I’m fine, and I thank you for caring. You were missed as well.

        3. WhoCares says:

          FYC,

          Your organization and assessing skills are most certainly appreciated…but don’t feel the need to come back to the forum based on a sense of obligation.
          If you have the time and still have the interest; please come back because your enjoyment and
          enthusiasm for clue hunting is palpable. And your presence is missed.

          1. FYC says:

            WhoCares, That is very kind of you to say, thank you. I’ll go see what you and V are referring to and see if I can offer anything that might be helpful. I always have the interest.

          2. WhoCares says:

            😁

  3. lisk says:

    Wow. The Welty quote. I would have been snagged by that, too.

    Not no more!

    1. lickemtomorrow says:

      Yeah, he got me there. I’d heard of Eudora, hadn’t read much of her work, but he slam dunked it with that one. I was actually planning on visiting her home in Jackson on the trip that never was thanks to the C-virus. I hope to still get there 🙂

  4. lickemtomorrow says:

    What an insight.

    Mine and I had a connection to hand holding as well.

    He also snagged me with a Eudora Welty quote: “Never think you’ve seen the last of anything”. He sure knew what he was talking about.

    “Lightning does strike twice.”

    It does indeed.

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