How the Narcissist Evades When Questioned
You will have questions for the narcissist. Lots of questions.
They never get answered.
Why?
Why is the narcissist so evasive?
Why do simple questions receive a response as if you have commenced an interrogation?
Why won’t the narcissist give you the answer to a straight forward question?
Why won’t the narcissist answer even when it would be in his best interests to do so?
Why must you get answers from the narcissist?
What happens when you ask a question when painted white?
What happens when you ask a question when painted black?
What happens when you ask a question when you enter Challenge Mode?
What are the ways in which the narcissist evades your questions?
What steps can you take to prevent this problem caused by the narcissists evasiveness?
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BC
I thought I was pretty clear on the enormity of the abuse because a lot of it was so blatant (familial not romantic), but I’m between 4 and 5 years here on KTN and STILL realizing the subtle abuses that didn’t even register until looking in the rear view mirror with all that I’ve learned here through HG’s work. Astounding really.
Which brings me to…
HG
I haven’t expressed to you lately how much I appreciate you, your incredible body of work, the sheer pleasure of reading your artistry with words, your patience, your sense of humour, and the privilege of being granted audience to parts of your world that help it all to make sense. I do truly appreciate it all. Five years in and still learning. Thank you.
Thank you NA, I appreciate that and also your continued presence on the blog, encouraging new readers, advocating solutions through my work and as always with your entertaining humour and pithy zingers. It is also a testament to how there is always something that can be learned and there is plenty yet for me to convey.
Well said HG & NA. You are both a gift to us all and it is a privilege to be here with you. Thank you!
You are welcome.
Grr. Can’t “like” this because WP is acting up, but I do.
Thank you NA. It just hit me out of nowhere. I couldn’t fathom it, until I remembered some HG’s lessons and insights. Yes, astounding. That’s the word.
The enormity of abuse I endured just barely became apparent to me, like 3 days ago or so. I’m not sure if this is a common experience of those who have escaped. I remain dumbfounded. Truly. I hope it passes soon.
Ahh BC
You are in the blitzkrieg. How long it willl last depends upon how long it lasted for you in the formal, your intimate relationship and of couse yourself.
It hurts. By gum, it hurts.
You have to walk through the pain. It will make you stronger. That is of course, scant consolation when you’re in the midst.
Thinking of you. You can do it!
Thank you DR. It does hurt. 6 years is a long time. I’m glad it’s over, but more glad that I have learned about myself. The only way through is out. I go back to my letter I submitted here and reread it occasionally. It helps. <3
BC
Did you write a Letter to the Empath or Letter to the Narcissist? If you’d rather not identify your letter no problem. I find the letters helpful with the backstory of others and enjoy watching their progress, but understand if it’s preferred they stay anonymous. I can certainly see how it would be helpful to go back and read it yourself for the same reason.
Dearest blackcoffee30,
Everything takes time lovely one, there is much to learn here
The enormity is massive and hugely pronounced when Mr Tudor’s work brings out the ‘real’ of it all
We were blindsided, as we are truth seekers. healers, fixers, compassionates
We all tried to fix the unfixable and accepting, they are what they are, is truly heartbreaking
The hardest part is letting go, walking away and beginning to heal oneself
You are in the best place to do just that blackcoffee
Mr Tudor reigns supreme and here you will heal, become empowered and move forward
It’s a great safe support network and we’re all here for you
Hang in there gorgeous, you’ve got this
Luv Bubbles xx 😘
Thanks Bubbles. I’m so grateful I found this support system! I have to take a break every now and again, but come back for the dose of reality. Patience is not my strong suit, so leaning into the amount of time it has and will take to walk through this is a struggle. XO
Dearest blackcoffee,
Just knowing a narc is struggle enough
I have the patience of a saint, (maybe that’s why narcs like me , they have plenty of time to talk about themselves 🤢) except when I need Mr Bubbles to do something around the house 😂
I’ve been here around 4/5ish years, I think
I never thought I’d get there, but, I guess because I’m still here I’m not there yet 🤣
Everyone works at their own pace lovely one
I’m determined not to let the narcs get on top of me
I look after my ‘independent living’ narc mother …staying here keeps me focused and on top of things
Once you walk over that tightrope the first time, however challenging, it gets easier, nevertheless, you must always remain vigilant
Emotional thinking is the biggest doosie of them all that one needs to overcome first
Get that happening and you’re on your way from misery to happiness
It does require a certain amount of numbing of the brain I’ve found …. although my kids think it was there to begin with 😂
The thing is to keep busy and focus on yourself not the narc, they’re already off doing what narcs do, lying, cheating, manipulating, wheeling n dealing, getting drunk or high or bashing someone up, whatever it is, they’re always up to no good
I hope that helped a little blackcoffee
We’ve got your back here gorgeous one, so you just concentrate on looking número uno …….you !
💕
Luv Bubbles xx 😘