Why Does The Narcissist Compartmentalise Appliances?



As narcissists we often engage in compartmentalisation. This articles concerns how and why we compartmentalise various appliances in our fuel matrices.

We view our lives as a series of compartments. The compartments are linked and there is an archway from one compartment to another but this archway has been bricked up by us and only we know the secret word that will open up the archway and admit us to the next compartment. You will try and search for an opening so that you may move from one compartment to another but your search will be fruitless. You will rhyme off all the passwords you can think of from ‘open sesame’ through to ‘abracadabra’ but none of them will work. There is a simple reason for that. We want you to stay in your compartment until we come back to it. We do not want you interacting with any of our other compartments because then it makes each area harder for us to control. A greater need for control mean more energy expenditure which will mean that there is less available for me to use to gather fuel and that is not something I can allow to happen.

A blissful domestic set-up will be in one compartment where I play the role of doting husband and caring father. To the external observer who looks in on the scene through the Perspex it appears to be a picture of harmony and good relations. Yet the observer cannot hear the shouting nor listen to your sobs as you are on the receiving end of another tirade. The fearful cries and the scathing admonishments fail to air beyond this compartment. You are not able to escape to another place and reveal what is really going on in this compartment. As soon as I depart to the next one then the brickwork closes behind me with lightning quick speed, trapping you where I want you. Of course I will tell you all about what is happening in the other compartments when I return, so that you will be subjected to tales of my magnificence in the work place and anecdotes about the new ‘friend’ I have in order to create some triangulated jealousy from you.

My work compartment show me as all conquering and masterful yet those that have been subjected to my brutal put downs and suffered from my repeated dumping of work on them as I breeze around town are forbidden from escaping this compartment to pollute the carefully constructed image that I have made for myself.

The members at the golf club who find my boasting odious and have seen me mark down a lower score than that which I had achieved on my score card are unable to blacken my name to my admirers beyond this particular place. Instead I depart the golf club and scurry to the bar where I regale my hangers-on with another story of my five under par round which won the competition. They coo over my success oblivious to what has actually gone on.

Home life, work life, mistress, friends, club, family and more are allotted these compartments. In each one I am a god. I rule supreme able to do as I please so that I can carry forth my stories of heroism into another compartment and there drink deep of their admiring fuel.

I spend much of my time ensuring that the inhabitants of each compartment know about one another, to multiply my fuel of course, but rarely shall I ever allow them to cross paths. This might lead to someone squaring the circle and working out what is behind my carefully orchestrated campaigns of divide and conquer. A must never speak to B who must not be allowed to tell C what really happened. I must maintain my constructed world where these people are little more than dolls in a huge segregated dolls’ house. I put them in poses and play with them so that I can create a scenario by which I can brag to others in the next room about. If they ever escaped and managed to follow me through these archways so they could compare what I have said with what has actually happened I would be truly finished. Sometimes this happens and then the compartment must be set ablaze, scorched from the record and denied an existence. Next time this compartment will be refurbished, repainted and with new dolls put in place. I must control everything around me. Everyone in their place and a place for everyone.

48 thoughts on “Why Does The Narcissist Compartmentalise Appliances?

  1. Kim e says:

    HG. If we escape go NC is our compartment “bricked “ over? Or is that only when we are disengaged from?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      You always remain within a compartment.

      1. Kim e says:

        it is stated that “If they ever escaped……..soemtimes this happes and the compartment must be set ablaze, scorched from existence and denied an existence”.

        Is the escape I am referring to different than the one you are referring to when you say “you always remain in a compartment”?

        1. HG Tudor says:

          You are removed from the compartment as say IPPS and become placed in a different compartment of Former IPPS and treated as persona non grata.

          1. Kim says:

            Got it. Thank you

          2. HG Tudor says:


  2. Joanne McEvoy says:

    Given the recent experiences I have endured, this idea of compartments and appliances makes sense. Not that I understood what was happening previously but the more I read I see that I was treated as nothing more than an appliance.

    1. NarcAngel says:

      Hi Joanne
      Yes, the more you read the more you will uncover. So much will begin to make sense of what was once unfathomable.

  3. K says:

    Than you Fiddleress!
    Hahahaha…just puff up like the Big Bad Wolf and declare that you aren’t gonna take shit (manipulation) anymore!

    1. Fiddleress says:

      Haha K – I sure ain’t gonna take shit no more, no ma’am!

      1. K says:

        Attagirl Fiddleress!

  4. K says:

    Dearest Bubbles,
    Thank you! Hahahaha…I am sharpening up my wooden stakes for the next batch!!!
    Luv K xoxox

    1. Bubbles 🍾 says:

      Dearest K,
      K for President 😂
      Luv Bubbles xx 😘

  5. K says:

    Thank you FoolMe1Time!
    I was floating on air after I got word of their collective resignation! I didn’t expect it.

  6. K says:

    Thank you WhoCares!
    It was my pleasure to detail it, after all, we, empaths, are fighters, Saviours and the Supporters/Defenders of the Underdogs! Nobody bullies a Librarian and gets away with it on my watch.

    1. WhoCares says:

      “Nobody bullies a Librarian and gets away with it on my watch.”


      1. K says:

        Hahahaha…thanks for the laugh WhoCares!

  7. K says:

    Thank you truthseeker6157!

    It was very systematic; the letters were sent throughout October and November of 2019. The Librarians told me what had happened so I wrote and sent the letters to the appropriate people. It’s still very much a work in progress and I will keep everyone on narcsite in the loop.

  8. K says:

    Thank you HG!
    Hahahaha… the Order of the Effective Empath appeals to my narcissistic traits of Pride and being special.

    The Librarians needed their truth to get out so I used everything that you taught me to make that possible. No Contact IS key, followed by the reduction of ET and the use of Logic; it’s brilliant, when you think about it.

    You were right; revenge tastes like victory.


    1. Violetta says:


      Traits of pride and feeling special are entirely appropriate here.

      How could a mere archivist hope to defeat our Narchivist–trained by HG himself?

      The Tudoristas are on the march!

      1. K says:

        We most certainly are on the march; it’s our Empathic duty to serve and protect.

        1. Feather says:

          Well done K.
          Off with their heads!!!

          1. K says:

            Thank you Feather.
            Lopping off heads is a capital idea!

  9. K says:

    Dear Readers,

    Great news! Last fall I wrote 26 anonymous letters about two pathological narcissists, who are wreaking havoc in a public library, and sent them by snail mail. Those letters have either directly or indirectly reached/affected: the residents of one town, one city, one mayor, an Executive Director of an entire Library system, a College of Engineering Library, a union, Friends of the Public Library, several local newspapers and three separate town Library Trustees and the city Trustees.

    On Friday 24 July 2020, the front page headline of the local paper was: Turmoil at the Public Library, as all five Library Trustees announce their resignations.

    Of the five town Trustees that supported the two pathological narcissists, three are MMRNs, one suspect MMRN and the fifth Trustee is just a fucking asshole; I can’t figure her out, yet.

    1. A Facebook group was created to coordinate support and share information.
    2. A petition gathered over 3,000 signatures and lawn signs were made and distributed.
    3. A group protested outside the City Council budget meeting in support of the library staff.
    4. Residents sent emails and letters to the Mayor in support of the Librarians.

    I didn’t think that those 26 letters would make a difference but they did. Initially, my inside contact thought I was crazy until she read the links to narcsite that I had sent her and then she realized very quickly who the crazy ones actually were.

    Sadly, the Archivist quit immediately after receiving my letter but, on a funny note, one of the attendees at the Zoom meeting, on Tuesday 21 July, gave the Trustees the finger!!! I was laughing my ass off!

    5 trustees down, another 5 need to go, along with the original 2 pathological narcissists, and the mayor is on my hit list for not supporting the Librarians.

    Thank you HG, I couldn’t have done this without you.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Well done. This is a demonstration of effectiveness by adopting an arms´length approach (as set out in Revenge) when in a place of very low emotional thinking (something K has achieved through adherence to a no contact regime over a long period of time). This means that any increase in ET is minimal, does not reach a tipping point and therefore has allowed K to achieve this outcome objectively, dispassionately and most of all effectively with minimal downside to her (the minimal downside being a slight increase in ET).

      Bravo. You are awarded the Order of the Effective Empath.

    2. NarcAngel says:

      So THAT’s what you’ve been up to when I didn’t see you around. You were in your war room! Haha, good job.
      The Archivist quit? I smell JOB OPENING.

      1. WhoCares says:

        “The Archivist quit? I smell JOB OPENING.”


        1. NarcAngel says:

          I’m horrible. If the obit stated where the person was employed, I would read it aloud at work and follow it up with “I smell job opening!”

      2. K says:

        Thank you NarcAngel!
        Hahahaha…Damn skippy I was in The War Room. As a matter of fact, I am in The War Room right now plotting.

        That poor Archivist! Although to his credit, he went NC right away. He had been targeted by the two Narcissists so I warned him in the letter.

        Hahahaha…I may be filling one of the five empty seats for Library Trustees temporarily.

        1. Violetta says:

          K: “Temporarily”?

          It is time for you to TAKE OVER THE WORLD.

          Congratulations on the Order. Time for a proper tea, with cucumber sandwiches, floral dresses, & hats. (We shall not eat the dresses or hats.)

          1. K says:

            Thank you Violetta!
            Hahahahaha…I wish I could take over the world, now there’s a pipe dream. We could have a Mad Hatter’s (Gin &) Tea Party‎!

          2. Violetta says:

            A very merry un-Birthday
            To you
            To you
            A very merry un-Birthday
            To you
            And you!
            Now blow the candle out my dear
            And make your wish come true
            A merry merry unbirthday to you!

    3. truthseeker6157 says:

      K, that’s amazing!

      You should feel really proud of yourself. That must have required a very systematic and continued approach. Shows how effective this learning can be. It’s so much broader than our own very personal battles.

      I’m really happy for you K.

    4. WhoCares says:

      K! Wow. Impressive.
      Thank-you for detailing that.

    5. Sweetest Perfection says:

      Impressive, K! Good job!!!

      1. K says:

        Thank you Sweetest Perfection! Semper Vigilans.

    6. Alexissmith2016 says:

      Sterling stuff K! Nice work! Bloody well done!

      I reckon you should change your name to Special K xxx

      1. K says:

        Thank you Alexissmith2016!
        Oooh…I like Special K! xxx

    7. FoolMe1Time says:

      Great news and great job K!
      I’m very happy that your diligence and hard work paid off for you. Here’s to you K! 🥂😘

    8. Bubbles 🍾 says:

      Dearest K,
      Congratulations, you little librarian you 👏
      You’re our new Buffy, K the narc slayer
      Well done, truly amazing
      Luv Bubbles xx 😘

    9. Fiddleress says:

      K, this is amazing! This confirms what I have thought before, that I should take you as a model!

      1. Ren says:


        Take her on as what kind of model? A saucy one! You rogue!

        1. Fiddleress says:

          Renarde: “Take her on as what kind of model? A saucy one! You rogue!”

    10. Witch says:

      You are a hero and the real MVP

      1. K says:

        Thank you Witch!
        During the Zoom meeting, I wanted to be dramatic and say: I will see you in Hell!
        But they shut it down (assertion of control and superiority) so quickly that I couldn’t respond.

        1. Ren says:

          Oh and K, if I were you, I’d change my name to K, OEE

          Just a suggestion!

    11. Ren says:

      Dear K

      This is astounding work! Truly magnificent! Wow!

      You certainly set the cat amongst the pigeons! Shame on the Archivist. Why do I think that person was leant on/scapegoated?

      But my curiosity is why did you do it? Obviously it must have become bad otherwise you wouldn’t have done it. I know I’m being nosy.

      Congratulations on the Order of Effective Empath! Very well deserved!

      1. K says:

        Thank you Ren!
        The Archivist was one of the good guys. He was being falsely accused of creating a hostile work environment by the female Narcissist, the other Narcissist is male, and she was taking away his responsibilities and micro managing his duties.

        She leveled false accusations of stalking while employed at the Town Library; the police and courts became involved and an innocent man lost his job as a respected constable because of her.

        Why did I do it? : Nobody was helping them, they were confused and very upset by the situation so I got in touch, anonymously, with the new library where the two narcissists were continuing their abuse and began a letter writing campaign in defence of the Staff and it boomeranged causing the resignation of the five Town Trustees much to our delight.

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