Narcissist : Ensnared
Have you ever been caught in the grip of a narcissist? Trapped in their web of lies and deceit ? Do you know the traits and behaviours that show that a narcissist has its prey right where it wants it?
Ashleigh Hovenier has finally ended her abusive marriage to Peter. The ever loyal and supportive Ian Wynne wants to make plans for Ashleigh and him. They have a perfect love together.
Will Peter let go of Ashleigh or will he fight for what he believes belongs to him? How will Ashleigh cope if she is caught in a love triangle? Does Ian have the strength to keep Ashleigh and cope with the drama ahead?
Prepare for the turbulent and tempestuous journey as you descend into the world where the narcissist has its prey ensnared.
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Narcissist ensnared epie 40…I should’ve known lol You’d think I’d been through this merry go round enough to know the outcome. So the cycle continues. Whenener Ian steps back or shows any inkling that he isn’t as addicted or can survive without Ashleigh she reels him back in. When he shows he is desperate to have her back she pushes him away. Total manipulator. She loves the attention of two men fighting for her. This gives her enormous fuel. Poor Ian he must feel so lost and empty. It really makes me sick to see this. She is playing him like a fiddle. I hope we get to see him kick her to the curb and find someone who he can build a future with.
Narcissist ensnared epie 39…I think Ashleigh is testing the waters in this episode. She wants to see how ensnared Ian is by how in control she us of his emotions. She’s also insecure that he decided to go to the wedding anyways without her. After she confirmed he missed her and how much he wanted her there she was no longer interested and reverted back to wanting her space. She is triangulating Peter and him. Poor Ian is lost ans confused. He has no idea what is going on. I’m glad this series is about a woman narcissist because there are many men out there who are victims of this abuse as well and feel weak and ashamed. So much has been available for women in the way of support. It’s nice to see how men can also become victims of narcissism. I think Ashleigh could keep going back and forth between Peter and Ian and whoever else she has on the side. She is a manipulator and a cold hearted narcissist! One more episode to go i wonder what will happen if she will discard him?
Narcissist ensnarement epie 38…This episode made me feel anxious and sad for Ian. This is the worst trait the unpredictable nature of a narcissist and having the rug ripped out from under your feet. I can’t even begin to know the emotions he would be feeling. Confusion, fear, uncertainty, anger. He more or less has been put through the wringer. I’m trying to figure out Ashleigh’s angle. Was this all along about controlling Peter by using Uan as her leverage or is she involved with another man? Did she even see a psychologist or was that all made up. It sounds like someone else has been on the back burner the whole time. Something stinks in this episode and it’s definitely not good for Ian. Poor guy won’t know what’s coming or going.
Narcissist seduction epie 35…wow a lot of questions i’d not considered so far about the characters Ian’s friend being one of them and also the particulars around Ashleigh and Ian leaving their jobs. Ashleigh is definitely a narcissist. Ian i think is an empath as he shows genuine concern for Ashleigh’s children among other reasons. Once they are fully together i suspect it will unravel. It’s more exciting to them pretending what could be and painting Peter out to be the monster than it will be living together and realizing it isn’t all ut’s cracked up to be! Ian will start to see behind Ashleigh’s mask and Ashleigh will bore of his fuel and need a new distraction to escape her miserable self. It’s hard to see Ian become so conditioned to the golden light of her messages and rely on them. He is more and more losing his identity apart from her. The bracelet more or less sums it up.
Narcissist seduction epie 33…listening to Wynne speak how he adores Ashleigh got me thinking if Ashleigh wouldn’t of been a narcissist would he still feel the same way? Or is he drawn to over the top subtle abusive behavior? He starts to mention the love bombing and being addicted. Needing more and more to feel satisfied. This is the danger! Why the need for such a explosive over the top relationship? I’ve asked this very question of myself in the past and I thjnk it’s similiar to a narcissist in that it fills a void. Maybe Wynne has unresolved issues himself. Maybe he’s running away from himself or something and Ashleigh has been the very thing to provide distraction and a magic escape from the mundane life where he was stuck examining his life.
It was interesting how he saved all her messages. The narc has saved our older messages and every picture i’ve sent him. I used to wonder why. Before i knew him well I worried about this, but then i wondered if he was keeping them to have once it ended, which maybe he was prepared would happen at some point. It made me sad to think he would think this way like everything is temporary and ends.
Wynne definitely is in the clutches of Ashleigh and is slowly losing himself. The entwined bracelet is a perfect symbol of what is going on. I don’t think Ashleigh is aware of her abusive ways. She is a lower mid ranger i suspect. It comes natural to her and she doesn’t realize she is abusive and manipulative. Maybe she’s aware she lies, but she thinks it’s ok and warranted.
Narcissist seduction epie 32…between 31 and 32 it brings flashbacks at a time i remember as a pivital point with the narc. I knew something was seriously off but remember telling myself foolishly i could back out at any time and I was in control of myself. I think Wynne is at this point in time. He has a pile of red flags, but is more or less avoiding them as a result of being in denial. He doesn’t want to believe it because that would mean confronting Ashleigh and that woukd mean the end of his pipedream. She is in the drivers seat completely. He’s slowly allowing her to chip away at his better judgement and boundaries until there’s nothing left and she spits him out ir toys around with him on and off. He’s in for a rocky ride.
Forgot to add i found it interesting the mention of Ashleigh trying on different facial expressions, but not knowing which to choose. Wynne had her at a disadvantage not knowing how much he knew or how he would react.
Narcissist seduction epie 31 &32….red flag compulsive liar!! Ashleigh was caught in a doozer of a lie. I felt sorry for Wynne at his bewilderment over the story about Sarah and Peter. Wow!! I feel his inner voice is screaming at him at this point that something is very very wrong, but he is in a seduction and doesn’t want to believe what his gut is telling him that Ashleigh lies to everyone!! In true narc fashion she gaslights and throws in some more lies. At this point he should really turn and run! All alarms and bells are blaring CAUTION something is dreadfully wrong here!!
Episode 30 narcissist seduction… I think Ashleigh’s a victim narcissist the way she cooks up a catastrophe to draw fuel from Wynne. She thrives on his concern and at the same time csn smear Peter and train him to be her flying monkey. She has him calling her parents and friends on her behalf as a witness to the terrible deeds Peter has done except when Wynne wants to confront it she is against it because the truth would come out that she’s full of crap. It makes me sad to see Wynne setting up routine personal things to share like their quizzes and special messages just another way to get her meathooks into his soul. Each one a barb in the fence she’s building around him. He’s creating a life of intimate moments all under a fake foundation. He thinks Peter is controlling, but if he really was she would never be able to have all the free moments she has with him. Peter would ask her to have a gps on her phone. None of it aligns with the truth.
Looking forward to narcissist ensnared epie 38!!! Im really enjoying these audio series. Id definitely purchase these as the audio versions best fit my lifestyle! Really well done ty HG!! 🙂
On episide 30 of Narcissist seduction…it was interesting to see that Wynne does get anniyed by Ashleigh always being late when they meet up and that he’s expected to pay all the time. Also lots of gaslighting going on. His boundaries are being pushed more and more and as a result he’s losing his identity and self esteem without realizing it. Ashleigh of course throws in some lovebombing to mask the damage she’s slowly inflicting. There’s so many red flags it’s crazy! I do think men (not all) can get bamboozled by a pretty face and sex. That’s of course a generalization, but from nen i’ve seen post about their relationships with narc women many were somatics and it was centered around a lot of sexual activity. I think Wynne has some issues as well and i hope we see more why his marriage ended.
On episode 28 Narcissist seduction…The triagulation that Ashleigh does with Wynne is so annoying and reminds me of the narc! Wynne acts like a doormat and takes it. It’s so obvious she is a somatic! Also very cringeworthy is how she volunteers he pays all the time ughh what a twit!!
On episode 23 of narcissist seduction…I found it hilarious Stephen an Wynne’s conversation lol Stephen really got Wynne to think about a few things in regards to his relationship with Ashleigh. What i find most evident and can also relate to is that your judgement is so clouded over when you’re in the thick of it. You’re not rational when the addiction takes over and your heads in the cloyds. It was nice to see Stephen shed some light on Wynne’s blinded view of Ashleigh. He needs a dose of reality injected.
It was also interesting what he said about the bruises she left and her saying she wanted to be one with him…NARC ALERT!!!
Patiently awaiting episide 38 😁
Im almost halfway through narcissist seduction. I didnt realize or i would’ve listened to it first. Its been interesting seeing it all unfold and what we’ve learned here. Also it’s been a bit like a mirrir to reflect back on my own situation. It is so different looking at it from a 3rd person perspective. Many moments i even get a laugh from realizing how similiar like the three kisses. So many of these relationships with narcissists are similiar!
***Spoiler episode 37…I’m trying to figure out why Ashleigh has a mouth full of ulcers usually that means your immune systems low. I can’t see her stressed because she enjoys the drama too much and orchestrates it. Maybe she’s getting drugs from another source and this is impacting her health. She seems to be all over the place with her emotions. I do suspect she’s a borderline. Wynne should count his lucky stars she’s not pregnant. Something seems to be going on with Ashleigh that she’s hiding. Maybe she’s caught a disease from another source.***
***Spoiler episode 36…I feel so bad for Wynne. His head must be spinning with all the mixed messages and triangulation going on with Ashleigh. She’s starting to push his boundaries more to see how much she can get away with. The mere fact she even entertained the idea of going back with Peter was so hurtful and disrespectful towards Wynne and all he had done to support him. I think he is slowly being put on a shelf. She is bored of him, but still wants to use him. She’s triangulating him with Peter to get him to jump through more hoops for her when she anaps her fingers. Drugs seem to be more and more a part of that manipulation. ***
***Spoiler episode 35 …I’m certain Ashleigh is a borderline. It reminds me of bipolar in some ways how one minute things are on top of the world and then the next plummeting down. Borderlines are known to push people away when things get too intense. I do wonder about Ashleigh’s Fuel Matrix. If something has happened with another source to make her retract from Ian. She’s playing hot and cold, which narcissists do. She’s already gaslighting abd rewriting history by claiming Ian sent odd messages. She’s in essence orchestrated an arguement to aid in her distancing from him. Poor guy must be so perplexed! The devaluing is already starting and she will require him to try even harder to keep her fuel topped up. His shelf life is starting to expire.***
***Spoiler episode 34…I really feel for Ian he is in for a world of hurt! Narcissist relationships can be the most exciting and everythibg is exaggerated, but the fall is far. It never lasts. It’s highs and low lows. At this point Ian is at the heighth of the relationship with all the new milestones. When the excitement wears off he will be left raising Asheligh’s children while she’s lining up a secondary source if she already doesnt have one in the wings already. She will bore of him and need new excitement to make her feel alive. She’s already spinning a webbed trap around him with trying to get pregnant. The devaluing will be hard to watch, but hopefully with devaluing will come clarity that he’s made a mistake.***
***Spoiler episide 33…Ashleigh’s speeding things along to trap Wynne before he catches on and avoids having a child with her. She’s very materialistic and shallow. Everythings about image and having the best. She really is a empty user. It makes me wonder what kind of man Wynne is and if he met a woman who wasn’t a narcissist and didn’t use him and disregard his feelings if he would be happy? In a lot of ways i question Wynne as much as Ashleigh. I think he has his own issues. In many relationships it’s never anyone person, but the whole equation. Why does Wynne put up with so much? Is it because he loves her or is it her beauty and the sex? She uses this to manipulate him along with her narc toolbox. Hoping she doesn’t get pregnant and he wakes up from the nightmare that awaits him!***
Super excited about narcissist seduction series and yes i do like all the vids it helps support the channel! 😁
***Spoiler episode 32….I’m starting to see more and more triangulation cropping up towards Wynne. I wouldn’t be surprised if she is still seeing the gym dude lol I’m sure there’s many more where that comea from and she has many “just friends” or “acquantances”. How Wynne stops from cringing every time she mentions someone who fancies her is beyond me! Hopefully he starts to see the signs and googles some if the red flags and comes across narcsite 😆 It’s fun seeing how predictable the narcissism is.***
**Spoiler episide 31….Asheligh’s sure trying to paint a picture using her recorded phone call, but i could see how it may backfire. The fact Peter has no idea he’s being recorded yet keeps maintaining he didn’t rape her and asking why she keeps telling people he had smacks of deception on her part. I’d be a tad bit suspicious why she is so calm. It is definitely a set up. This day in age you are always on camera or recorded. She’s trying to manipulate the conversation to falsely incriminate him. She is absolutely loving the huge amounts of negative fuel he’s giving and the control!***
***Spoiler Episode 30….I just love how Ashleigh thinks everyone fancies her. It must be annoying for Ian to liaten to this and even more awkward to respond. How he keeps from disputing this is beyond me. She needs a reality check that she isn’t all that lol I do think its triangulation as well, which narcissists always pepper life with. I’d love to see Ian say and do these same things she would lose it. I sense a shift coming once life gets too stable Ian will become boring and she will need a new side play thing.***
Hi HG…I really hope you do more of these audio story series. It’d be great to see narc dramas from all walks of life. Thriller type stories as well! 🙂
Thank you.
***Spoiler episode 29 I suspect Ashleigh’s a borderline. Shes very reckless and her moods are all over the place not to mention her drug addiction. She should lose full custody totally unfit to raise her children much less be in a relationship. I dont know how Ian puts up with the craziness! Looks like she will create another drama for him to save her from. She thrives on drama because her existence is so empty ans miserable. I do wonder how she became a borderline. I suspect her mother to be a narcissist. Her father seems like a loving parent.***
***Spoiler***This episode was very triggering as something similiar happened with
the narc. He broke down then stopped answering calls all day until the evening when he apoligized and said he took a bunch of pills. One of the worst days of my life. I still feel sick thinking about it. I called the police to have a wellfare check done and they took him to a hospital. He stayed for a few days and was released. He claims he never would commit suicide and was going thru a breakdown over aspects of his life. I think when people either commit suicide or tey to they don’t realize how damaging it is to those around them. Ill never forget that day. Best thing Ian could do is leave her to sort her life out he doesn’t need that in his life. She is very disturbed!***
***Spoiler*** episode 21…I don’t think wynn is a narcissist, but i can’t help wondering what sort of person he is doing cocaine it doesn’t match his sensible personality. Drugs are never ok. I don’t think he deserves the craziness of Ashleigh, but at the same time he didn’t help it by mixing a serious drug like cocaine into the equation. I think he’s not without his own issues…***
***Spoiler*** epie 19 Shocked to see that Ian not only is ok with Ashleigh doing Cocaine, but uses it himself…***
Chihuahuamum, I did things with, for and because of the narc’s from my past that I wouldn’t normally do. I’m enjoying your running commentary, I think it’s time for me to get the books, thank you!
Hi A Victor…Thanks! These are utube audio series 29 so far 🙂
Yes, I am aware of the YT series but I generally prefer reading, if it’s an option, and often will listen or watch the movie after reading. It is free on YT though, so there is that. Fiction in general is difficult for me to get into, your comments, along with something HG said once, are encouraging me to do it here. Thanks again!
Hi Victor…i enjoy reading as well, but don’t always have the time to do so. The audio stories are perfect for me to listen to doing my workouts or when im cooking etc. There’s also another element to audio.
I listen to a lot of classic radio stories as well!
Chihuahuamum, I smiled at your comment, I always find reading more efficient, thus the reason I prefer it. I tend to get drowsy, or just find my mind drifting, when I listen to fiction. It has been a frustration since I would like to do so when driving. I can listen to things I’m actively learning something from, which keeps my focus. But the switch from a “story” to actively listening for things in the story is a tough one for me. If I read, I highlight, this works the best for my mind to catch and retain things. Note-taking has always been a favorite thing to do, I could try that as I listen but then I’m back at the time involved. Maybe if I turned it up super loud?? 🙂
Hi Victor…I’ve been guilty of falling asleep during an audio book lol HGs you could never fall asleep on tho! 😆 Before the internet i enjoyed going to used book stores and finding audio books. Mostly murder mysteries and thriller suspence.
Well, if I couldn’t fall asleep during HG’s, I will give it a try. Thank you!
AV, you can read them – if you pause the video and click the 3 dots just above the red box with ‘subscribe’ and you you can see ‘Open transcription’ – this should bring up a worded version of the video. It depends if the video has ‘CC’ available, Google for more guidance if needed. The worded transcription can still be used as the video is playing.
I couldn’t highlight them then though! You know how much I enjoy that!! 🙂 Thanks for the tip, I will check it out.
AV, if you ask HG for permission to copy and paste his work onto a word / text document – you’d be able to highlight the words as you require then 🙂
**Spoiler** Im now on epie 16 and am shaking my head. I really don’t like Ashleigh. She is a liar and a self entitled biotch! I feel sorry for Ian, but at the same time how can he not see what a blatant user she is. Constantly asking him for money. I can also see how she is pushing more and more boundaries and is triangulating more. She is getting bored with him and is upping the tactics to get negative fuel. Im certain theres other men and she has a secondary lined up for when the divorce goes through and she no longer needs and wants Ian. ***
Really enjoying this series! I have to giggle how well you get into these roles HG lol Ive been listening to these the past 2 days. …8 more episodes to go!!
I am pleased you are enjoying the episodes.
On episide 13…im shaking my head in disbelief at this woman. I know i shouldn’t because it’s obvious she’s a sociopath. What a rollercoaster ride! I’d not be surprised if her and Peter aren’t even seperated! This woman’s a real whack job!
Wow im so enjoying this series! On episode 10 now! So much of what we learn here is embedded in the story. Also what i’ve experienced in relation to narcissism. Incredible storytelling HG!! Hope you do more of these dramas im definitely hooked!
I am pleased you are enjoying it, it is very useful for allowing people to apply what they have learned whilst being entertained.
How on earth did i miss this series!…move over days of our lives 😆😁
It was MONTHS ago when I used the words ‘black widow’ about a female narcissist – one that made me her ‘victim’ – so I was being a b**ch when I used those words…..
Having said that – this female narcissist had tried to ‘hoover’ me through a friend and the ‘black widow’ (my version of ‘Empath’s Grenade’) was basically my response – not had any ‘hoovers’ since…..
I love this cover! Well done.
Thank you MB. No unicorns were harmed in the making of this cover.
Yet.