Envious of Your Contentment



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  1. WiserNow says:

    I wrote a comment here which was critical of the narcissist’s constant jealousy and competitiveness. As soon as I pressed the ‘send’ button, I was sorry I wrote and sent that comment.

    Yes, the narcissist’s jealousy, rivalry and destructiveness *is* annoying and tiresome. It is impossible to live with one of these people and have a peaceful and contented, long-lasting and friendly relationship.

    However, to live with the constant jealousy, rivalry and destructive emotions churning inside without the ability to see or accept that there’s more to life and relationships than ‘control and power’ is a limited life.

    The emotions of anger, jealousy, resentment, frustration and self-pity are dark and defensive. At times when those emotions ‘take over’, in the heat of the emotion, there’s an inability to see things from another person’s perspective and to be calm and detached enough to have compassion and empathy for the other person.

    For a baby with a strong genetic predisposition to be ‘defended’ already, an environment which is consistently threatening without enough emotional ‘recovery’ will lead to the dark defensive emotions becoming instinctive and constant.

  2. WiserNow says:

    This knee-jerk jealousy or envy of other people comes across as extremely immature and just plain stupid when seen through the eyes of an empathic person.

    Everyone is a rival or an ‘enemy’, whether it’s the narc’s ex, child, parent, neighbour or friend. Every situation is a competition, whether it’s a marriage, family, business, choir practice or night on the town.

    It’s so incredibly tiresome for people who aren’t narcs. It’s pathetic and boring.

    Narcissists may be cognitively fast when it comes to control and manipulativeness, but they have the perceptiveness and self-reflection of a lump of clay.

    No, that’s unfair to lumps of clay. Even lumps of clay have the potential to evolve into something more useful or decorative.

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