20 Cries of the Victim



We do not think of ourselves as victims, to do so would be weak and we are not weak. You are. We are better than you. We do however feel put upon, hard done by and persecuted and it is you that does these things in order to victimise us.

Evidencing our legendary double standards, we do not consider ourselves as victims as this does not accord with our sense of superiority, but we like to portray a victim mentality because doing so serves our purposes.

There are many things that we say which evidence this mentality and when you hear them you should know that we are looking for you to respond. We want reassurance, praise, an admission of fault from you, confirmation that we are brilliant, an apology and for you to do what we want you to do.

Playing the victim card allows us to gain fuel from sympathy and compassion, assistance when we do not want to do something, absolution from responsibility and preventing you from doing something we do not want you to do.

Here are twenty cries of apparent victimhood.

You make my life so difficult.
Why are you treating me like this?
You never try to understand me,
What about me?
What am I going to do now?
How’s that supposed to make me feel?
You are meant to look after me.
It’s not my fault.
I can’t help the way I am.
Why must you be so difficult with me over this?
You never listen to me.
You always make it about you, never about me.
You never do what I want.
You don’t love me like you should.
You never do what I want.
You never let me speak.
You always treat me like a fool.
You are the reason for all of my problems.
You are trying to ruin my life.
Why do you do this to me?
Watch out for these comments from our kind because they are the foreshadowing of further manipulation of you.

6 thoughts on “20 Cries of the Victim

  1. Jasmin says:

    I’ve read the description of the victim cadre in sitting target many times now and are going a bit crazy.

    I know someone who is not looking after himself; neither nutrition, exercises or hygiene. He suffers from injuries and diseases. His existence draws sympathy BUT there is no sympathy symfoni? He will say nothing and mask it if he feels sick or get injured and if anyone points it out to him that he looks sick or needs to see a doctor he will reject it. -“I’m fine.” -“That’s nothing, no need to see a doctor.”

    Then another one is the complete opposite. He got knowledge about nutrition and eats well, excessive exercising and good hygiene BUT all you hear is sympathy symfonies. His dad beated him up as a child, he was bullied at school and then all these women who were all treating him so bad. He suffers from anxiety, depression, OCD, prostatitis and all types injuries (most, if not all are manufactured). He got little furniture – poor him can’t afford any! He shows up in a broken t-shirt -“Oh I know I should buy myself some new t-shirts but I got no money”

    Who’s the victim?🤷‍♀️ Can a narcissist be majority victim and significant minority Elite! Haha😅

  2. Alexissmith2016 says:

    HG, how common do you think it is for a doctor or teacher to form or attempt to form An inappropriate relationship with a patient or student?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Depends on what that doctor or teacher is.

      1. Alexissmith2016 says:

        So, common then, assuming they’re a narc that is.

        Bloody hell. It’s madness. I get it in any other situation to be honest if it’s work colleague etc etc but Jesus, doctor-patient. Literally why would you risk being struck off? I guess there are so few which hit the headlines they’re very unconsciously (for most) consciously for the few tuned in to who they can/cannot target and as a narc entitled to do so because the rules don’t apply to them.

        Thank you. Again.

        1. Jasmin says:

          I guess that if the teacher or doctor is a narcissist and they smell an empath there will at least be a gentle push to check your reaction!
          If teacher they will spend a lot of time with their pupils.
          The doctor got access to your journal..😳😳

  3. Ute says:

    Are you saying that I am wrong!?! I am not stupid, you know. My mother only asked ME EVER to do this; none of the other kids, so THIS is the definitive way to do it, no other.

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