Spot the Narc Traits

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  1. SMH says:

    Hi everyone, Glad to see some familiar names here and hope everyone is well! Sorry this is so long – it is probably worth a consultation with HG but since it’s over…and I got out, not sure I need that. I am just curious as to what you all think if anyone cares to read this and tell me if I missed spotting another narc.

    Anyone here last year might remember that I met Odin online. We had dinner, got on really well, and then did not see each other for 14 months because of lock downs and travels. He texted a lot (love bombing?). There was one gap in communication for about six weeks after I did not respond appropriately to a picture he sent of the place where we’d first had dinner.

    When we finally saw each other again, it started out well. Lots to talk about, good sex, I cooked for him, etc. As with previous narc, Odin begged not to use a condom, and I gave in just once (warning sign). About a month and a half in, I started to get anxious and broke up with him in person. We spent that evening together and HE asked if we could be friends and stay in contact. I said yes. I did like him, I was attracted to him and we had good conversations. I just thought we were emotionally incompatible (listened to my gut). When he was leaving, he didn’t look at me at all. (Wounding?) I myself left the next day for overseas and then no contact the whole time I was away (months) (silent treatment?).

    The worst part came when I got back (am still in this phase). I contacted him on his birthday to say HBD and that I would like to see him to have dinner and catch up. I did genuinely want to see him. He responded right away but not to my asking to see him, only to the birthday part. I asked him if he was angry. He said no. But then he got very passive aggressive. He said he wanted to see me but did not make it happen (compliant defiance). He left me hanging for days and then said he couldn’t meet up (dragging his feet) (devaluation). His last text was a bit word-saladly when usually he is very clear. Most recently, I told him the p/a stuff was abusive. He did not respond. But he has not deleted me or blocked me, as far as I can tell. I have no idea what the problem is. If he doesn’t want to see me, he can just say so!

    At the beginning of our relationship, he once disappeared for a few days after I did not respond quickly enough to one of his messages and then returned mirroring my words. So that’s twice he disappeared – once then and once when I did not respond appropriately to the picture. Also, during our time together, he would read a book or see a film on a topic he thought would interest me. We had not been ‘together’ that long, so it seemed to me that he was mirroring me again and faking intimacy. But he never even knew my last name, so it was not as if he was really trying to get to know me. More like he was projecting. I also remember a whole thing on here about names and narcs. That was also a red flag.

    Is his ego bruised or is he a narc?

    Thanks lovelies! SMH x

  2. Joa says:

    It was interesting.
    I feel sorry for the man.

  3. Asp Emp says:

    How she treated him, what she did – filming then posting it, you described in this video, HG was downright awful. The whole ‘episode’ was saddening to read. Thank you for doing this piece of work in order to educate others.

  4. Bubbles says:

    Dear Mr Tudor,
    I’m inquisitive as to Will and Jada Pinkett Smith’s sex lives progressively becoming more public
    Interesting case for open discussion
    Luv Bubbles xx 😘

  5. NarcAngel says:

    Sadly, it also speaks to a large number of the 4.5 million that flooded her initial boundary breach to watch and engage in the drama, resulting in further humiliation for him.

    Great practical exercise.

  6. tyger says:

    Thank you! Again, apologies for being obnoxious (PTSD induced drinking problem)

    That said, I’m getting better and sharing your work.

    You are a Blessing

    Be well

  7. Bubbles says:

    Dear Mr Tudor,
    I checked her Instagram page and immediately saw a picture of her ‘standing’ breastfeeding her baby in front of what appears to be the ensuite ‘bathroom’ mirror holding her baby with one hand and her mobile in the other hand

    I’d say that was a very narcissistic act on her behalf

    I can’t ever recall ‘standing’ to breastfeed nor taking photos … I was too busy bonding, taking a quiet moment to reflect and then cuddling our baby to sleep

    One day, all this ‘private’ posting of children without their consent will bite the perpetrators in the bum … including crying husbands …..that’s really crossing the line in my book!
    Personally, I’m not a fan of nor ever will be of ‘influencers’

    In this instance, my ‘gut’ verdict …. Guilty, Your Honour
    But then, I’m biased ……retrial haha

    Interesting and most informative case study, looking forward to any more you may present to us
    Thank you Mr Tudor
    Luv Bubbles xx 😘

    1. k mac says:

      I cannot bare it when someone cries. To exploit anyone crying is just unthinkable to me let alone your husband. Then to be so dismissive of the whole thing? No, no way bubbles. She has my vote for total narcissist.

      1. Bubbles says:

        Dearest k mac,
        What she did to her husband was a huge betrayal of his privacy ……….exploitation of his emotions to the fullest (without his consent) and for profit, she had no right to do what she did

        Some people have no idea of what a loving relationship is meant to be and what it entails
        Respect, “due regard for the feelings, wishes and rights of others” …….is no 1 priority
        Luv Bubbles xx 😘

        1. Asp Emp says:

          Bubbles, I totally agree with what you say in your comment – both paragraphs.

          1. Bubbles says:

            Dearest Asp Emp,
            Thank you lovely one, unfortunately it appears to be a growing trend
            I believe ‘privacy’ is an extremely important element of any relationship. Men generally don’t display their ‘emotions’ as they see it as a sign of weakness and vulnerability …. hence the increase in male suicide
            ‘Mutual’ respect appears hard to achieve these days without putting the other partner down in order to get it.

            Mr Bubbles and I have always checked in with each other on a regular basis to see if there are any issues that need tending, nurturing or replanting haha

            This female narc hasn’t a clue, sadly it’s her husband and children who will pay the price of her actions
            Luv Bubbles xx 😘

  8. k mac says:

    I listened to this on YouTube. It breaks my heart. No way she she isn’t a narcissist. She has absolutely broken this poor man. 😔

    1. Leigh says:

      I’m inclined to agree with you K Mac. But even if she’s not a narcissist, she’s still extremely toxic and certainly NOT an empath. Absolutely no empathy for her husband.

  9. lickemtomorrow says:

    Spotted! Although I overlooked the most obvious – lack of empathy.

    Maybe I just took it as a given after dealing with so many narcissists.

  10. Sarah says:

    I think this is one of your best, HG. I appreciate the hands-on instruction, esp. regarding how anyone could behave in such a way if conditions were right…thx!

  11. A Victor says:

    Also excellent! Very educational!

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