Please Please Please
I want you to do your best. That is a noble intention is it not? I want you to try harder each day. I want you to aim high and strive to improve on what you achieved the previous day. Though exhaustion may be clouding your vision and that ache in your limbs reminds you of the strenuous ministrations that you have attended to, I know that you can push through it and do it more, better, faster and stronger.
I believe in you. Those other imposters are mere charlatans. Am I not the one who has given you a perfect love? You need to keep that perfect love and earn it. Accordingly, each day I will pull it away from you. On a Monday it might be the case that I do not kiss you. I will not give you an explanation for this withholding as you must work it out. Once you have you need to work hard to recover my kiss. The next day I will not return the hug you always give me when we first get up. Rather than complaining hold your tongue and consider this all part of your on going education. If you want my perfect love to manifest through those warm, safe hugs that you relish then you must please me so that you may have them again.
You repeatedly comment to me that there has to be give and take in a relationship. I am doing exactly what you ask for. I take away in order to make you give more and then you will be rewarded. In order to avoid any complacency on your part you will find that the next time I withdraw from kissing you, your first response which reinstated my luscious embrace will not work a second time.
No that would be far too easy. You need to ascertain what different act you must accomplish in order to secure my tender kisses. I know you will do it. Who would not in order to feel my mouth against yours and that soaring sensation inside as the relief floods through you, knowing that you have secured its return. Admit it, the potential loss of my affection at any time for any reason excites you. You do not want mediocrity. You want excitement. You want to feel like you are flying, soaring, bursting and spinning with delight.
I am the only one who can supply that to you and thus you willingly engage with me in these games as I push you further and further, pulling back a little more each time so you wrack your brain and strain your sinews to find the answer once again. It would be wrong of me to say I only do this for your benefit. I do not. I do it wholly for mine since I need you to please me. You please me by being the puppet jerking on my strings, doing everything at my behest. The surge of power that I get from this control surpasses anything you might get from our relationship, but are we not both getting something from it, so where’s the harm in pleasing me?
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This is not love. This is conditioning.
What you’re describing is affection being given, then taken away, not because anything changed, but to keep someone off balance. One day there’s warmth, the next day there’s distance with no explanation. That doesn’t teach anything, it trains a person to chase what should have been freely given.
You call it “perfect love,” but real love doesn’t work like that. Love doesn’t need to be earned over and over again or make someone question themselves just to receive basic affection. That’s not growth, that’s control.
I understand what you mean by “fuel”, I’ve felt that before. But I also know what it’s like being on the other side of it, after facing myself, and I’ve seen what that kind of dynamic does to a person.
This is intermittent reinforcement, just enough given to pull someone in, then taken away so they try harder. It creates attachment that feels intense, but it’s built on anxiety, not security. The “high” when affection returns isn’t love, it’s relief.
What you gain from this is control. What the other person loses is their sense of self.
Love is not a game where someone has to keep proving themselves just to be held, kissed, or seen. Love is consistent. It’s safe.
There is harm here, and it runs deeper than what you’re acknowledging. Change is possible, but it requires a willingness to face these patterns and do the work to break them.
I do appreciate you sharing your perspective HG and being open about how you operate. It brings clarity to dynamics many people experience but don’t always understand.
You’re welcome.
Hi Beth,
Great symposia. I agree with all except the part about change, they don’t see any reason to change, so they won’t work at it. Aside from that, I agree. Loved reading your comment here.
Hey Victor, I appreciate you taking the time to read it and respond.
And I hear you on that. You’re right, most don’t see a reason to change, so they won’t. Change requires self-awareness, and more than that, a willingness to face what’s underneath. That’s where a lot of people stop.
I think where I was coming from is that change is possible, but only if the person is willing to do that deeper work, and like you said, many aren’t.
That’s really the difference. Not capacity… but willingness.
Yes, I agree. And that includes non narcs and even more so narcs. Good points.
Hi again Beth,
I forgot to say one thing in my initial comment to you, you may already know this, if so, please disregard. But, HG is aware that the “perfect love” narcs offer is not real. He knows it is fake and basically the opposite of love, the devaluation always occurs, but this up and down benefits by way of creating fuel, or more fuel. Of course unaware narcissists are not aware that their “love” is not real, they actually believe it is but that the devaluation is justified because we have failed them. Anyway, if you knew this, again, please disregard. And thank you for writing back to me. I have enjoyed reading many of your comments on the blog.
Victor, don’t you get it? If Beth can change, anyone can change. What’s your problem, mate?
When someone is led by God, they can do anything. And Beth is the example to follow: “I know this because I’ve done that work myself, faced it, surrendered it, and brought it under control.” https://narcsite.com/2026/04/23/thought-fuel-17/comment-page-1/#comment-470346
Easy peasy!