Hiding From Yourself

  Another session with Dr E. As I sat down in his consulting room I wondered how much had been spent so far with regards to this supposed treatment. A few thousand pounds no doubt and I imagined that both Dr E and Dr O would be more than content to continue these consultations given […]

Why the Narcissist Must Reject Intimacy

  Narcissists abhor intimacy. Why is that? It is an instinctive and necessary response. Intimacy creates attachment. As I have explained in Attachment Is The Seat Of Misery we attach our victims to us, but we do not attach to you. If we became attached to our victims we would not thrive and survive because our […]

HG Wants Your Action!

  This is an important albeit comparatively short article, and you have a role to play in it. This blog has been in existence for over 10 years. Many of you have been involved in this blog for numerous years, reading, commenting, and providing your contributions and for that, I am appreciative. Naturally, the amount […]

How To Actually Frighten a Narcissist

  I understand my kind, as I one of them, although I am a narcissistic psychopath, so my outlook is somewhat different from your pure narcissist. Nevertheless, there are plenty of them in my family, I have worked with many, I’ve messed with many, I’ve observed and studied many, which is why I’m able to […]

The Narcissist´s Twin Lines of Defence

In order to understand your narcissist opponent (and let’s not avoid recognising the fact that we regard you as our opponent) it is essential that you realise that we adopt two lines of defence. It is imperative that our kingdom remains intact, that our rule over you is not impeded, hindered or diminished in anyway. […]