Colouring my thinking

One of my doctors, I call him Doctor E (for earnest) asked me what my favourite colour is. I was delighted to enlighten him about this. I explained that it is not red ; too many people like red and I am not too many people. Far from it. I followed this by explaining that pink, being a tint of red is similarly displeasing. Dr E was unaware that red is the only colour that has a separate name for one of its tints, i.e. pink. I sensed Dr E does not know as much as he should. I dismissed yellow as that is the colour of emotional fragility and I don’t have a yellow streak. Orange is for children. Brown. Ugh, brown is the lumpy, unsophisticated colour of the prole. My skin crawls at the thought of that colour. Violet is the favourite colour of my ex-wife so that can be discounted too. Alongwith green for the same reason. Silver is the colour of the runner-up and therefore not applicable to me. He interrupted me at this point and said he had asked for my favourite colour not the reasons why I didn’t like different colours. I considered leaving at this idiotic comment. I was explaining all of this to help him understand my choice. I pressed on. I explained that black is acceptable since it absorbs all other colours. Blue is a colour I approve of, specifically azure as it is noble and regal. However, white is my favourite. He asked why. I said that white constitutes total reflection.

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20 thoughts on “Colouring my thinking”

  1. “Ugh, brown is the lumpy, unsophisticated colour of the prole. My skin crawls at the thought of that colour.”

    I can picture Dr. E wearing brown as you say this. 😂

    Interesting, my guy didn’t like brown either. He said, his mom made him wear brown and yellow. He didn’t like wearing brown and yellow together because it reminded him of a rotten banana.

    Has white always been your favorite?

    1. Can’t sleep, so I am reading. If you call him Dr. E for earnest from the beginning, He is outmatched. Good intentions, but outmatched. Also, why did he interrupt you? That was stupid. By explaining why you DID NOT like those other colors, he had the potential to learn something. I realize you were testing him, and he would learn nothing that you didn’t want him to know. Doesn’t matter, that was bad form. I hope the other good doctors are better. And he gets better. Just saying. Pure reflection. Damn. If he learned nothing from just those two words….. I will keep reading. I will find out.

      1. I love these earlier articles revolving around HG’s thinking and how his mind thinks. The mix of the light and the darkness with white and black. He absorbs what he needs (craves actually) which I commented about a year ago wanting purity, cleanliness, protection, goodness, etc., and then can reflect that back out.

      2. I love the way you explain yourself by answering a simple question about your favourite colour. Life would be more interesting if more people would answer in such a way – and even more interesting if people listened.

        Clarece, I love your comment! If I could I would vote for you to interview HG. Trying to find words as to what it is that makes me think so – I suppose it is because you address and translate his malignancy in a less brutal yet honest way.

      3. Shesaw…thank you for such a kind compliment. I really appreciate that.
        I always find it interesting to hear how others perceive some of my observations towards HG.
        When I look back to almost 3 years ago, i was in such a fog, and in a very low, isolated state that when I found HG, I knew I found a very different and very reliable source of information. And I just drove in to ask, ask, ask to extract as much information as I could because I sensed this site would explode and that time could be fleeting. I’m always amused when I see comments from new readers who say they are or were afraid to write in at first or get an email or audio consult.
        It’s very valid (and probably smart). I may have had the occasional doubt or whatever but I was never afraid to talk to him. I’m still not (probably should be) because of how I started put with him. So I think over time that ended up giving our interactions a nice ebb and flow.

      4. Hmm I wasnt finished typing, but did send it accidentally. Anyways, I have no time left, will be back later

      5. Clarece

        Yes, very different and very reliable information it is! I was in a relationship with a narcissist (full golden period), when he did something so shocking to me, out of the blue, that I went out on the internet searching for an explanation for his behaviour. I don’t remember exactly how I found HG, but it was within hours after the shock of the event. I have never doubted since that I was involved with a narcissist. I will always remember that it was HG who opened my eyes, full force, in such an early stage of the relationship.

        This was happening about a year ago. The narc has gone (comes back from time to time), and I have been following HG’s blog ever since.
        The hardest part for me in relating to a narcissist is not being able to reach them. Everything is absorbed and/or reflected back. No soft spots to find. Yes, maybe to localize (if you pay attention) but never to access. It frustrated me big time: they play hide and seek and you don’t stand a chance to ever find them. As a consequence, they always remain distant to you in a way (to the point that it finally becomes boring, in my personal experience).

        I loved your interpretation of the absorb-and-reflect-behaviour. I love the humaneness in it. Though I do realize that to HG/narcissists, it is all about the facade to crave those good things, I prefer seeing it as a fundamentally human trait to pursue them.

  2. I thought you would have picked gold since you grant golden periods and gold is for winners.

  3. Interesting going back to the beginning and re-reading this one to hear again why white is your favorite color (especially after the comments on being drawn to Dr. O and her being “clean” in your latest post of “In the Middle”). White also representing purity, light, goodness, heaven, safety, illumination, cleanliness, beginnings, sterility, protection, softness, and perfection.
    Things you continually want to draw into your life.

    1. Clarece, I am a newbie and very thankful that I found HG’s work! Trying to take in as much as I can as have been in the fog and mess (as my narc says!) since last 20 years or may be more with the parents…I am actually beginning to question myself as narc too lol.

      White is my favorite colour too and for the same qualities you mentioned! Having an audio consultation with HG later and definitely will be bringing this up!

      1. Enjoy your consultation Supernova. I always find it very intriguing when HG allows little snippets of what he is personally drawn to. Not just what the general draw is to a sitting target by a Narc.
        I’ve also found his chapter, “China Doll” in “Beautiful and Barbaric” very captivating. He describes being drawn to someone so flawless and almost floating through with such perfection in appearance, articulation, professional presence with others that it’s as if he projects his machine like qualities that allow him to function each day through his facade onto someone else. He craves finding out if he can crack the exterior and see what may lie beneath. He knows he houses a creature. So someone else that pristine on the outside must be hiding something to.

  4. Why be so dramatic? My favorite color? True white. True white is what all colors come from, it’s a fact, therefore all colors. (light colors) hahaha What law is there that one must have a favorite? No such law exists, even if it did it doesn’t make it so. Colors mean what your interpretation reveal them to mean, you can allow society to dictate your interpretation, however.

  5. I was wondering if you might know, Mister Tudor, why there are women whom we hear about on TV who fall in-love with Sociopathic prison inmates who are serial killers? Is it a ‘fascination of the Unknown’, or something more?

    1. Partially that and the fact that certain damaged people are drawn to sociopathic individuals like an iron filing is drawn to a magnet.

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