Better Bait Than Never

thEP8WDJVCI do enjoy going fishing. After all, I am a master at preparing the bait aren’t I? Based on my expertly honed observational skills I know exactly what to say or do to provoke a reaction from people and in turn garner some fuel from them. I know for example that my sister is obsessed with fashion and has to wear what is deemed to be the latest item or ‘in this season’. All I have to do with her is greet her and remark on her dress.

“That’s a lovely dress you have on. Is it new?”

“Yes, it is MaxMara, it is a runway piece. It is the latest high fashion,” she replies delighted by my compliment and the opportunity to boast about its origins and exclusivity.

“Is that so? I saw the very same dress last year when I attended that fashion show in Milan.”

“No you didn’t?” she will answer. Note how her reply was not a statement but it was a question. Straight away I have my bite. She is not so confident as to issue a full-blooded rebuttal. All I have to do is keep telling her that I did see it last year, embellish it with the name of a famous model and keep repeating the circumstances so my conviction seems absolute. Any criticism of her fashion selection will reduce her to tears and have her running from the room. If I receive any withering stares from her friends or my family, I will shrug and say,

“Hey, I wasn’t the one who was telling a lie was I by saying it was the latest high fashion was I?”  Nifty piece of blame-shifting there as well. They can shake their heads and tut all they like but I know I have landed a blow. By the time she returns having found some verification from a third party that her attire is the latest dress to wear from MaxMara the moment has passed and triumph has eluded her. It is easy and I get the reaction I am looking for.

I have a colleague who thinks he is an expert on the Tudor dynasty. I will throw him the occasional obscure fact and back it up with obstinate insistence and an almost slavish devotion to confirming I am right. He cannot stand it and it send him into a rage. He literally stamps his feet in exasperation. I usually choose to do this when he has no method of verifying what I am saying. Days later when he tries to correct me I brush him aside and give him no opportunity to speak. It does not matter then. I got my catch earlier and by telling a whopper I landed a whopper.

7 thoughts on “Better Bait Than Never

  1. Stephanie says:

    You have an excellent way of explaining from the narc’s point of view. It makes a victim feel reassured that he/she is not the crazy one. Keep up the good work!

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Thank you and do keep reading.

  2. Yo says:

    I think f*ck bodies finally would be the best decision to arrange life.. hehh
    No risk. No narcs. No pain.

  3. Belva McKann says:

    Your books are setting me free. Thank you. But please, please hire a proofreader. I could do it, I’m a pro. Or not. Just somebody. So many typos detract from your message. And that won’t do. You’re superior.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Thank you. Yes, typos do appear, I don’t have time to extensively proofread. Thanks for the offer. Perhaps you would email me at to discuss. I’m pleased you’ve found the books helpful.

  4. Stephanie says:

    If not for your books, which I have read four in just a few days, I believe I would have lost marbles. My family was beside themselves because I have never put up with anything like this from anyone.
    Thank goodness it was only 6 months and he lived far enough away.
    It put me in therapy and she told me he would cut me loose due to me being a fighter, calling bs on him, and a very strong support system. I would rate him a weaker one of your kind. I know he will reach out again and I can’t wait.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Hi Stephanie, thanks for your message and I’m pleased the books have proven useful to you.

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