The Infatuation
I have never known anybody like you. You are amazing. You are so loving, so kind and so gentle. Everything you do makes me happy. I didn’t think that was possible, not after the last person I was involved with. I don’t want to go on about that person for too long, why spoil this wonderful moment eh? Suffice to say they were not what I thought they were, a con-artist and a charlatan who made me think that they were something else and they took advantage of my good nature. I know you will not do that. I know you are too good a person. It is written all over you. I cannot believe how lucky I am to have found you. I wasn’t really looking but I am sure glad that I have found you. You are amazing. Have I told you that already? I can see you nodding. Sorry, I am just so excited to have finally found you and I am just so excited about all the adventures and fun we are going to have together. You really are everything that I have ever wanted in a person. There are not enough wonderful adjectives available to describe, there really aren’t.
My friends think I am nuts, but in a good way, because all I do is go on about you. I tell them the places we go to, the marvellous days we spend together and just hat a special, precious and loving person that you are. It restores your faith in human nature after all of the terrible things that have happened, sorry I am mentioning them again, I must stop doing that. I am all over the place, in the good way, this is what you do to me. Anyway, I tell my friends all about you, all of the time and I know that they are delighted to see me so deliriously happy because they have not seen me like this for some time. I have such plans for you and I. Wonderful, momentous and special plans. I want to tell you all about them now because they are that good, but I am not going to. I don’t want to spoil the surprises. This feels like my birthday, Christmas, a promotion and a wedding day all rolled into one. I know you might think I am going over the top but this is how happy you make me feel. I feel like I am on fire, fizzing with anticipation and joy. It is truly sensational and it is all down to you. You have brought this out in me. If it wasn’t for you I don’t know what I would have done. You rescued me and made me smile. You are my world. I mean that. I want to be with you all of the time and forever because you are so giving, so warm, so loving, so considerate, so funny, so attractive and well, just the very, very best. I have told my family about you, naturally and they cannot wait to meet you. I think they are nearly as excited as me. I think of you as soon as I wake up and you are in my thoughts all through the day and as I lie down at night I think of you again and wonder what you are doing and wish I was with you right at that moment.
You move me to the extent that I want to do great things for you and I and everyone else. You inspire me, you drive me and you motivate me. I feel completed now I have you, like nothing can ever hurt me and I know I will never let anything hurt you. That can never happen. I need you and I hope that you need me, we are a partnership and cannot be torn asunder, no matter what the world throws at us.
You will probably have seen my Facebook page littered with all those comments about you. I just feel them welling up inside of me and I have to let them out, give birth to them if you will and let them be shared with the world. It is the right thing to do, to allow such joy and happiness to be shared all around. Why shouldn’t other people be happy as well because we are? I want you. I want you more than anything I have ever wanted before I will do anything with you. I want us to be together, I want us to be one. I want us to grow old together and still be in love in sixty years as we are now. I know what we have is so special that we can achieve that.
I know I am babbling on but it is all good isn’t it? It is right to be this enthusiastic and excited and I know this is always going to be the case. That gives me so much comfort but again it is all because I know that we can rely on one another, trust one another and support one another. We are made for one another. Your hands fit mine perfectly, we coil together at night, fitting perfectly around one another. You finished my sentences and I know what you are going to say right before you say it. It is as if we have been forged from the same thing all those years ago, then separated and finally we have been put back together again in order to be happy and why not, we deserve to be happy. You make me happy and I will do the same for you. I want to tell the world how wonderful you make me feel. I want to take out advertisements in newspapers, on YouTube and on television. I want to shout if from the highest mountain and from the rooftops that I love you.
Am I infatuated? Of course you are. Who wouldn’t be so infatuated when being with someone as gloriously brilliant as me. Now, say that all again to me.
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I thought it was the narc to the victim, right up until the end. Then I saw the twist. There was a twist wasnt there HG? After reading these comments, Im not so sure!
It is to be read as you wish to interpret it Lisa, thus highlighting the differing perspectives which can arise from the same facts,
Very good HG. Very good indeed. But you already know that right? 😉
HG and Mrskmmccoy,
Is it not true that empathetic people basically operate the same way? We feel the emotions the narc doesn’t. We submit to abuse, they dish out the abuse. We are attracted to their behavior, they are attracted to ours. We are confused about love. They are confused about love. We (narc/empath) have to want to fix ourselves to end the cycle. Unless you consciously decide that you don’t mind this type of relationship. Look at some posts on this blog. There are plenty of individuals that would readily accept personal engagement with HG. Whether he would carry out a meeting and some kind of relationship is unknown. (At least to me). They are attracted to that. Then you have the conquerors, they’d want to engage a Narc knowing what they are and seeing if they could win them over to the good side and change him. Fix him. He’s broken. Ummmm maybe we need fixing and we are broken.
Meet me in the middle.
That’s a song by Jessie Ware
Asking for a hoover I think. Lol.
All fair points FTW.
How is it possible that you all speak the same language verbatim? One would think that there’s a book you read that the rest of us know nothing about! You write well HG. 🙂
Thank you very much. We speak and act in such a similar way because these are the most effective ways of achieving what we want. Accordingly, we all gravitate towards them in order to conserve energy. Of course there are variations on a theme, but there is considerable similarity. Yes it seems like we all operate a manual but you only get to see that if you join Narc Club!
Hello HG,
Those are all the things I said to my ex!!!
“My friends think I am nuts” is then what all my friends said about me. Lol
Funny how its reversed also.
Reading this, now after being with a narcissist and realizing that is what he was, makes me sadly realize how they are all alike. I remember being on this cloud when first meeting and then dating him, my God was it close to this, almost as if I wrote it myself. I cannot wait to the blog post of dating my narcissist.
Whats the difference between a loving person saying that too us and a narcissist? I guess unless You don’t see other red flags there is no difference… anyway I’m heading to Meadowhall for a coffee . Have a great day dear G.
No one has ever talked to me to this extreme. If they started to, I would run. This is smothering. My alarm bells go off.
Same for me MLA! Definitely too much. I think all of these signs HG posts also present themselves on a range or spectrum of severity. If all of them were like this, it would be so much easier for us here to side step. My ex said a few of these and I’m sure I said a few f these back. It’s the intensity. It reminds me of the intensity we saw demonstrated here too with the blogger that went off the hinges. She also showed intense infatuation of HG, idolization (extreme) and devaluation of many here in a heart beat. This was extreme presentation. Many, such as the ones you and I have encountered and I am sure others here have met too, that are more subtle and far more stealthy. I’m sure HGs game is far more refined, stealth and tailored for his prospect.
Agreed about the spectrum. But I had two dates that lead to one coming on very strong like this and smothering for about 8 months on and off. I was always cold and 1/2 the time didn’t respond because I had no interest in him whatsoever. Second literally stalked me for 18 months after literally only talking online for 3 days and 1 date. I then shut it down. My co-worker still fears he’s going to show up at our office one day looking for me. So yeah, there’s some out there that will come on this strong. Lol
True, true. I have forgotten a few of the frogs I met online a few years ago…there are some scared folk. Be careful out there in dating world, I’m scared to tip the toe in the pool yet. Stalkers scare me. Had that…ugh. Though, Now your armed!! 👍🏻😊
You also have to remember, HG is presenting this in a way where everything is highlighted all it once, because it`s a blog post.
It doesn`t necessarily mean all of that would be spewed up in one sitting. It would be delivered in a carefully planned manner over a period of time so that the intended victim wouldn`t feel smothered or freaked out.
And many wouldn`t care because there are so many out there seeking and craving this kind of love (because society has conditioned people to want exactly that – minus the nasty bits that come later) that they would drink it all down like Kool-Aid at Jonestown.
Yes it is true, those sentiments are expressed very early on, but at the same time, many victims are already ensnared and enraptured, and so they fall prey quite easily to such grandiose declarations of love and devotion.
It is a brilliant tactic that inflicts maximum damage without seeming like damage at all.
MLA – I respect that it would freak you out, absolutely. But keep in mind, you`re also armed with information and knowledge that eludes and evades many. You`ve got your wits about you. There are plenty out there who don`t.
Well put, Bloody!! ( still can’t like posts on WP or else I would’ve hit like on this )
Glad you just said that Indy. I can’t like anything either and I thought it was just me. Lol🍎
Indy, are you going through wordpress app or off search engine. Tried a restart I hope or cleared cache then cleared data then deleted app and reload it. Jus trying to help as always.
Hi Indy. Yes poor Claudia was a sad case. It was like watching a tornado in action. I hope she is oblivious because such extreme emotions must be painful.
Love, it felt like it was painful and tornado is a perfect word for it. I hope she gets help (therapy) asap.
Indy, I do too. At times her words were profound, yet other times, they were drivel. I don’t think hers was a cluster B personality disorder. Her emotions were too many and too scattered. Very sad.
Mr. Tudor, do you think she could be part of cluster B?
I think there was BPD evident but co-morbid with other conditions.
Yeah, it certainly seemed like a mix of things going on. It’s hard to know exactly what was going on given we were only privy to the words typed here. Many were weeded out (thanks to you, HG 👍🏻). We don’t know if it was a horribly morbid prank, multiple people, drugs, mixture of disorders/illnesses, etc… I just hope she or he or the get help.
Hi HG. My narc is in the beginning stage ( golden period) with his new PS. Hes one of those that doesnt plaster it all over fb. Never has been. In fact he keeps it all very private and if she posts a picture of him on her fb he makes her take it down within minutes. They have been dating for 3 months now and she moved in with him within days. I know the drill and how he plays things and i can lay my head on a block that he told her he was not on fb. He blocks the women hes seeing so they cannot find him and he will stalk their account from a fake fb hes made. Somewhere along the line the women eventually find out he is on fb and he will come up with all sorts of excuses as to why. Ie: someone must of hacked into my old account or hes just rejoined ( doesn’t explain how there are posts on there from months back). I think his reasoning for not wanting his girlfriend as a fb friend is so he can whore around and add countless half naked girls, make comments etc without his girlfriend on his back about it. So yesterday she either found out hes on fb and forced him to accept her request or hes at the stage where he added her and its time he uses fb to devalue her.
So how is this scenario going to pan out since iv noticed she is an attention seeker. She posts pictures of other womens amazing bodies claiming its her body. She has 1400 friends but no one ever comments or likes any of her posts. She posts things like ” thank you to all my fans and friends for being in my life and loving me”. No comments. No likes. 20 ppl out of 1400 wish her a happy birthday. She photoshops her selfies so much so her mother questions if its her. And so it goes on. U get the drift!! But above all shes worse than him with the adding fb friends of half naked men. Because shes like this she will be oblivious to his activities on fb and even if she is aware of the amount of women hes adding she has no room to point a finger at him.
How do u feel he will react to this? Will it suit him fine and be happy that he has a girlfriend that isn’t jealous of his activities or what?
Hello Jules, thanks for your post. It is evident that she has narcissistic traits (even though she may not be one of our kind). The way their FB accounts are so that they in effect do not know what the other is doing, is interesting. He is evidently not fully convinced she will be a good PS, since he wishes to keep her quiet, and I suspect he is finessing other prospects at the present time. She is oblivious to this. She won’t be giving him the fuel he needs because of the traits she has herself, indeed she may even be a narcissist herself and if so, neither knows what the other is or what they are. This means that ultimately both will find themselves disappointed on the fuel front (although they will not know why – they will just think the relationship isn’t working for whatever reason they conjure up) and I can see them going their separate ways in the not too distant future.
Just as a final point, you might want to consider not observing their FB behaviours for your own progress and well-being.
Thank u for ur reply. Good advice and good point about not observing their acc for my own well being. I wish i had the will power to stop wanting confirmation that he will treat them as he treated me. Im always so worried it was only me that got all this bullshit from him. It kinda makes me feel better that i see the same pattern of behavior repeated over with each new women. Hopefully ill get there oneday when i can say iv seen enough. Confirmed!!
I spilled my drink in my lap reaching for it as I was reading. So caught up in the moment. Hanging on word for word not paying attention. Enjoying the wonderful sensations once again. Then oh so cold as the ice fell into my lap, at the end.
HG always keeping me on my toes, I do wonder whats next… is it lovely messages to make my heart soar or a silent treatment to bring me low. Please tell
Thanks HG, now I must attend to this mess I made. You owe me a drink now. 😉
Not a problem, just name your poison.
Creepy! Word for word what I was told.
I think I gagged a moment. I have never fallen for such BS. With my Narc, we discussed the relationship, at least I did, in terms as if it were a business. He did love to bomb me with his gooey words I would be like OK OK now let us be serious and talk about this.
I look at relationships differently.
haha! So very true.
Funny, I actually watched my exes current supply post all of that stuff (open to the public) on “Fake-book”… Probably for her husband and I to see… and to please him! Then she got herself pregnant. Was it him or her… I really don’t know… he said she was on a birth control injection. They both are cheaters, so who knows. Makes me wonder who is the love-bomber in that relationship?? lol It was wild though, because all of the feelings I had in the beginning…she had! It was crazy to watch the same thing happen with her! Sometimes she posted things that only would make sense to me… such as, ” love is picking onions and peppers off a pizza so you can share it with someone you love” – Ridiculous!! He pretended to be allergic to them, but didn’t tell people until after you ordered something with them on it… He loved watching people scramble around to fix it to please him! He really wasn’t, he just didn’t like them. One time it worked against him, because he wanted to order a dinner in a restaurant, but after he told them he was allergic to onions and peppers, they told him he couldn’t order it- they were in the food. You should have seen his face- he looked at me, because I knew he was mad at himself, lol I think he liked her posting all of this stuff on Facebook though, his Mother actually de-fended him, because she couldn’t stand to see it, lol I was floating on air when I met him… that’s how I knew when some woman at his job was after him (or him after them)… I could actually see them float off, smiling after him… so sick!
Wow! Suddenly I have to realize there are alot of you walking around on this planet… all saying the same fluffy things… Imagine what it would be like if you all gathered together!???
That’s called a political party!
Haha! Good one HG.
It would be called #TeamTudor in Las Vegas 2017.
This is almost word for word what he said to me. Made me feel funny there for a minute. Like it WAS him that wrote this. He called us ‘Twin Flames.’ Said we’d been made, separated, rejoined. Sick.
Wailing with laughter now HG,
Stop pushing and pulling me. You resurrected my creature with previous post then with this post you love bombed yourself. The Harsh End a few minutes ago and hoovered back to Golden days. Oh yes I remember those days of hope and excitement. You say those things too….say them to me again. Im a sucker for the pain and then the pleasure. My new name should be WTF (WhatTheFrenchtoast)!!
Very good. I’m keeping an eye on you. In a good way.
Hmmmm….Intriguing.
Thats what I thought too! The way I read it. TwIsTeD !!
:/