The Narcissistic Truth No.14


47 thoughts on “The Narcissistic Truth No.14

  1. If you are addicted, you go detox. How many ways can HG say it? If you want a normal relationship and are afraid of boredom, the problem is in you. Why do you need chaos to make you feel alive? What is driving your need to fix another? What is it you are trying so hard for? What does trying to please or help or fix give you? I’m not non empathetic. I’m altruistic, i am compassionate. However, there is something wrong with both sides of the coin. This is the attraction for both. I understand the awakening process. I understand HG and his process. I understand the empathic process. Now, meshing them to the proper degree is the key. You have to get the right amount of each to formulate a happy medium. It doesn’t have to be at such extremes. Even though we (narcs & empaths)feel in our element in these extremes. You have to choose to change your behavior. If you fear change, why? Is calm unfamiliar? So much work to be done on ourselves. Living in shades of gray are work. Do the work. Make the choice. Who do you want to be? Make it happen. You get to choose.

  2. Darkness Falls Again says:

    alezangriles I walked away from that world two years ago, I am incredibly bored. I have to say normals and straight empaths bore me. I can relate to both, just I walk the edge all my life, one day I will jump and learn to fly or that sudden stop is going to hurt like hell.
    Lol phoenixrising I go for something with just a little bit more to it, like plug in for a dryer I promise that sh@t hurts for hours.

  3. Darkness Falls Again says:

    Addiction is a powerful thing. For some I am not so sure if its an addiction as to being use to a certain way of life. Even for an empath that has always lived amongest narcissits anything else would be foreign to them. What would “normal” be?

    1. DFA, that is exactly what I’m terrified of!

    2. The calm of “normal” could almost seem boring when you’ve grown accustomed to living with your finger in a light socket.

  4. she says:

    As the wife of a narcissist who writes poems online behind his back, I wrote a poem similar to this addiction post about him being an addiction for me. How ironice…

  5. Indy says:

    This topic tugs my heart hard. So much loss with my dance wth addiction(in all its insidious forms). Still healing. So much I want to say, but can’t. I think music is the only thing that gets to this torment for me. Words are inadequate.

  6. B says:

    How true this is. Funny, I thought about this last night as I was on my way to pick him up from his friend’s house after a night of drinking. He is my addiction, my drug of choice. I checked myself into HG’s Rehabilitation where I stayed safe and clean from my addiction for two months. I had the very best councilor, sponsors, and support group, but like most addicts I relapsed. I was doing good, learning about my addiction, the dangers of it, and how to practice self control. That craving though, it is always there. Sure it is easy to stay clean and focused when the drug isn’t available and no where in reach, but eventually it will be back knocking at your door, staring you in the face, begging to come back in. The temptation is to strong to fight so you think “One more time. Maybe just a little to relieve the pain.” So you open the door, just this one time. “Ahh… that feels better”. His arms wrapped around me as he held me close all night. All that pain is gone now. If only I could feel this kind of high forever, but I know it won’t last. I will come down feeling even weaker than before, but will somehow find the strength to pick up the pieces once again.

  7. Snow White says:

    When others told me I was addicted, I denied it.
    When I first started researching this subject and addiction came up, I denied it too.
    When I started reading your books and this blog, it opened my eyes and I was able to see it and admit it.
    I would have never thought I was addicted to the chaos, texts, phone calls, the push and pull, sex, and all the attention.
    Now I can add addict to all the other labels on the list from being is that relationship.

  8. Forgotten says:

    for now Your marvelous work here works for as as an addicting detox my dear.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Thank you Forgotten.

      1. Forgotten says:

        thank YOU . unconsciously You help so many of us You helped ME..

  9. Starr says:

    So in a way it’s an addiction on both sides the only difference is you are addicted to multiple sources while we are only addicted to you .

    1. HG Tudor says:


  10. Love says:

    Yes and so am I

  11. Go train a black horse matey to bow for you, lol!!!!!!!!!! I have huh huh! lol and you think your special- lmao

  12. Lol oh how fun you are!~

  13. You would like to come to the party but you need extra rehearsal time right whilst at night you mull over every possible scenario that may take place but how do you feel when you are stealth shocked from a distance matey! Not too brave or manly now, hey HG? How long will you elude yourself that you have a distinct and separate mind that in it’s de-realism trumps itself and eucre’s itself out of the game, mate? Yu are no more ingenious than a penguin in your black and white suit calling out for the best suitor! You think there is no hell on earth, you gave our type a really good training ground and we thank you for that! Meanwhile, back at the ranch you are subheroes, never having enough ammo to creep up from the dark hole from which you were birthed!

  14. You think that you have it all over us! Joke mate! As you expose yourself, what’s new in that regard- You and your kind will be accountable and you will pay from the hip-pocket where your ambition and faux life trick and deceive your own hearts, the only heart that you have! You must be scared and shaking in your boots because you keep control over my posts and show your lack of maturity. What woman wants a threenager? Step up to the plate and be a man mate!

    1. He controls my posts too. πŸ˜€

    2. bloody_elemental says:

      HG “controls” every post on this forum because he created it. Your posts are not being controlled, they are being moderated. There is a difference and it is worth noting.

      Is there a reason you are being so insulting? I do not believe HG has done anything to warrant your harsh (albeit puerile) words.

      While you are sitting here whining, insulting and caterwauling at him, understand this – the numbers above indicate he’s received over 1.6 million hits. He has thousands of followers. He receives hundreds upon hundreds upon hundreds of comments and questions on the daily AND he makes an effort to respond to nearly every single one. In fact, it is rare for HG not to respond, even just to say “thank you.”

      Additionally, he has countless people emailing him every single day seeking his advice and wisdom. Add to that the email and PVT consultations. Add to that the novels he is consistently writing and publishing so people like you can get insight and advice that will no doubt help you along your journey.

      Then factor in the reality that he has a life outside this arena and (as he has told all of us before) a career.

      Perhaps think about these things before you decide to clutter up this forum with your childish insults and insolent whining about your posts being kept in moderation too long. From what I can see, you do not have much to offer in the way of intelligent conversation or insightful input anyway, so we are not missing out on much.

      A lot of good is done here. HG does a lot of good here. His readers do a lot of good here. This is a safe space where people can comment, ask questions and gain understanding (usually) without being judged too harshly. If that is why you came here, then I would encourage you to contribute and interact in a meaningful and productive way. HG has made himself available to those here so it would be unwise to squander an opportunity at deeper understanding and, quite possibly, closure and healing.

      If not, and all you want to do is waste time and space with insults and whining, please stop wasting precious time HG could be devoting to interacting with people who genuinely appreciate and respect him and the good work he is doing here.

      1. HG has explained his position to do with patience thanks, days ago. The posts between myself and others should not be bothersome if we find things in common with the narcissists we know as though the posts may be meaningless for you they may also be be educational and explain a few things for others that have lost their individual respect for those narcissists that have no regard nor respect, self-respect- Thanks for your input πŸ™‚

      2. bloody_elemental says:

        If he explained it “days ago” why are you still on about it then?

        What, pray tell, can the extremely intelligent and well-spoken people here on this blog learn from this:

        “Step up to the plate and be a man mate!”

        “Not too brave or manly now, hey HG?”

        “Go train a black horse matey to bow for you, lol!!!!!!!!!! I have huh huh! lol and you think your special- lmao”

      3. In response to “Hounded by Love” I have taken your advice to kerb my pain and deliverance so most constructively have asked a fair question to HG : Just treacherous HG I don’t get that the consequential risk was gambled with. Appreciate you speaking it how I have learned to see how you explained it but the consequences of such actions used have the most devastating and lasting impact on those of us who have lost pets and felt the agony of a beloved german shepherd for example die that harmed no one and was loved by any that met her.
        What if when you let the dog out, a car hurtled along with infants in car seats let’s say twin baby boys just six weeks of age and the driver in trying to avoid the wandering dog crashed the car into a large tree and all were killed?
        Please confirm how can we rationalise the risk that could involve deaths of innocent lives?

        Much more polite and thanks for the advice πŸ™‚

        1. HG Tudor says:

          as per earlier answer PRH and you are welcome

          1. The cruelty is disturbing to others and an unfair testing of other people to test somehow their courage or bounce-back style only to serve it out again. The dressmaker (movie) demonstrates this well. Unfortunately it depicts Australia in a negative light but their is a moral to the story.

  15. No HG you are an addict!

  16. 1jaded1 says:

    So are we.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Yup. Do you think he was cold during that video?

      1. AH OH says:

        Freezing his tush off.

      2. AH OH says:

        But he has enough hair on his chest to keep him warm…………..yuk.
        Wow, what an odd place to film this. Perhaps he would bury her there. Then she would be his.

      3. Awkwardly all over the shop and many facial affects hovering between the extreme to flattened affect.

    2. AH OH says:

      OMG! I remember sitting with my Carol M. as a very young girl, she was a teen, listening to this song.

      1. Kind of appropriate for our topic and yes, an old one that takes us back in time πŸ™‚

  17. AH OH says:

    My you look so smooth. Is this what they mean when they say “pill head”?

  18. Good one, thank u

  19. Indy says:

    I’m just drugs to you
    Still I’m jonesing like a fiend
    So line me up that dopamine

    We had to break up
    But I cant get you to feel the break
    Call this what you will
    Just don’t call it a mistake
    Call it addiction
    ~Third Eye Blind~

  20. Are you making a meme children’s book? Dr. H.G. Narcisuess?

      1. Crabby much?

          1. Okay, terse, abrupt, curt, pithy? You dont like ABBs jokes?

          2. HG Tudor says:

            I do.

          3. Not really. Empathic towards another. The other one is wordpresses mistake. Blame shifting 101.

          4. HG Tudor says:

            Ha ha very good.

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