Red Flag

Know the signs so it does not happen again.

Know the signs so others are not ensnared.

Know the signs before it is too late.

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9 thoughts on “Red Flag

  1. K says:

    This book details in superior fashion the 50 Red Flags that are used during narcissistic seduction, how they are used and why, as well as, the reasons we choose to ignore them. Some of the warnings that I have had personal experience with are as follows: Claims of a Spiritual Connection, Over Complimentary, Gifts, Knows a Lot About You, The Phone Obsession, Grandiosity, Seems too Good to be True, Extreme Family Relationships, The Mask Carousel, Claims to Have Always Loved You From Afar, Talks Over You, Talk About Ourselves. The more knowledge that you acquire the better you will be equipped to protect yourself and your loved ones from narcissistic predation. Chapter 44. Work Issues: helped me establish that my daughter’s boyfriend was a victim narcissist; he has been successfully eradicated. I recommend that you purchase 50 Red Flags in tandem with Sitting Target: How and Why the Narcissist Chooses You.

  2. Fantastic reading. I just finished this book. Will buy Black Flag next.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      I am pleased to read that.

  3. Patricia says:

    I am reading this one currently as I am now dating again and do not want to miss any of these warning signs ever again. Where have you been all my life Mr. Tudor !?

  4. Indy says:

    Excellent book that I have by my side for when I start dating. Any other recs for dating?

    1. E. B. says:

      Hi Indy,

      Have you read “Danger – 50 Things You Should Not Do”? This one is very good too. It helps me to be aware of my own behaviour and to adjust, if necessary, when I am in contact with people I need to see regularly (narcissistic doctors and nurses, among other people). I made some mistakes several years ago and wish I had known about what *not* to do before.

      From my experience, I have noticed that many narcissists usually *test* their potential victims when they first meet them. For example, they want me to disclose *personal details* while they will not even reveal their complete names or what they qualifications are (“Call me Sister Sandra” – nurses who turned out to be unqualified and untrained women earning extra money). They want to know my *weaknesses* and usually test if I *show sympathy* when they tell me about a supposed weakness they have or something that supposedly happened to them or to a family member. *Subtle put-downs* to test my reaction are not uncommon either. One of their favourites is to test my *boundaries* and my reaction to it. Also *mirroring* when it is clear that we have absolutely nothing in common and *insincere and ridiculous praise* (flattery). One of these narcissists wants to come home again to bring me all kinds of *gifts* I have never said I needed or wanted (products her husband steals from the company he is working for!). She may be testing my moral values too. They do not seem to realize that their behaviour gets them nowhere.

      1. Indy says:

        Excellent recommendation and observations. Thank you, EB 🙂

        1. E. B. says:

          Glad it was helpful, Indy 🙂

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