The One and Only

 

 the-oneandonly

I really do think the world of you, you know. I have not met anybody like you. No don’t shake your head. I know you are modest but you should accept a compliment when it is given, heaven knows you deserve it. I have to admit I have had a few relationships, but you know, we have all been there haven’t we? I used to think I knew what love was. I used to think that the person I was with was what I wanted, the answer to my prayers and that special someone. All of that was not the case. In fact, it is quite apparent to me that they were really just practice runs to allow me to perfect my love in readiness for your arrival. I know it may seem strange but I feel like that I have always known you and moreover that somehow that I always knew we would be together. I used to tell myself in previous relationships that this was it, this was the one, but something would go wrong. I guess I was not a very good judge of characters back then. I kept picking the wrong ones. Goodness me I could tell you some tales. I have hooked up with some real fruit loops in my time. I seem to attract them. I think it is because when I want to be with someone I give my absolute all to that person. I see no point in holding back, do you? It has to be everything or it is worth nothing. I can see you nodding, I thought you would agree. You and I are on the same wave length. I can sense it. I have an aptitude for it. A sixth sense. I have to admit I have not always been blessed with it and it has taken some time to fine tune it, I guess that is why I had to go through the rollercoaster ride with some of my exs. Still, although they did not treat me well, no it is okay, you don’t need to know about all of that. I want to talk about you and me, that is far more important. Yes, they did not treat me well at all but that’s for another story I do not want to spoil tonight talking about their jealous rages and violent tempers. Thank goodness you are not like that. No it is fine you do not have to persuade me of that being the case. I know you are not like them. I can tell you are a far better person. Do you know how I know? It is in the way that you move. Yes, it is. You move with a grace I have not seen before. That tells me that you are self-assured but not in a flamboyant manner. You know who you are and you move around with a grace and a presence which brings reassurance. I will let you into a little secret. Before I spoke to you I used to watch you. Not in a stalker kind of way, more as in an interested observer kind of way. I saw how people reacted to you, with warmth and delight whenever you spoke to them and I thought to myself when I saw how their faces lit up and how their eyes widened in pleasure that you were probably the kind of person who spends more time looking after other people than you do spend looking after yourself. I am right aren’t I? It is not good trying to hide and look at the floor I can see I am right. I usually am about people. It is something of a gift but one I am now able to use to avoid the people who would hurt me and believe me there have been a few of them and instead find someone who will respect and love me in the same way that I will love and respect them.

It is all about finding that mutuality isn’t it? I bet you and I have much in common. Well, I know from our last date we share similar tastes in music and travel destinations and that just proves my point. I should imagine that if we discussed politics, although I don’t intend to tonight, there will be plenty of time to do that in the future, we would have similar views. You see that I have been able to work out, after all the mishaps and the people that have let me down, who is right for me and who I am right for. I am a straight-forward kind of fellow. I will put you on a pedestal and worship you, yes I will, because somebody like you, someone so special and caring deserves that. Oh I know you modern independent ladies are all about equality and believe me I am one hundred percent behind that but I do know that once upon a time you used to pretend to be a princess and that never leaves you. How do I know that? I have a sister you see and I saw how she played and made-up games based around being a fairy or a princess, good characters who wanted that happy ever after. I know it has never left her and so by the same token I know that someone like you, a good and decent and honest people still has that desire to be treated properly and every once in a while reminded of that fact. I can tell by your smile that you agree with me and I am glad of that because I know how well I will treat you. I have much to give to you and you deserve to be treated right. You see, I sense, like me you have been hurt in the past. I can see it in your eyes. You are hoping that nothing spoils what we have because it is showing such promise isn’t it? Yes, I thought you would agree. I can tell by the slightly guarded manner you have, but don’t be concerned, that is no bad thing given the way that some people behave, but I am not like them. You have no need to be concerned about me. I will only ever look after you and have your best interests at heart. That is why you and I have been brought together, two people who just want to love and be loved. It is not much to ask is it? That is why when I first met you I realised that you are the one.

You rise from your chair to go to the bathroom and I sit back in my chair and smile. I can say that speech backwards now and it works every time.

10 thoughts on “The One and Only

  1. I must say it is a warm wonderful feeling to have that speech, or similar, bestowed upon me by beautiful eyes and smile. The part that seems to hurt is, with agreement from NarcAffair, the same words have been used on so many others. I have this issue of wanting to be treated “special” like I’m the only one that has stirred up such desires and feelings in the man that is staring at me now. If the victim were to not change, still continue feeding beautiful fuel that the Narc found and wanted in the beginning, would he still seek out a replacement? I wonder. Does the Narc just get tired of the primary source or do they only seek replacement when the victim starts to hold back? More reading for me.

  2. Narc affair says:

    The more i read into the mind of a narcissist the more it dilutes the jealousy, insecurity and feeling that its me. This im all grateful for. Its an issue within themselves. As a codependant im just as guilty in many regards. I stay knowing a lot of this bc of fear of being alone and working on my own issues. This is why narcs and codependants fit together so well bc they share similarities.
    This so called spiel is meant to hook fuel nothing more nothing less altho narcs will take a smug pride in what they do especially greaters.
    The more i read this it sinks in that the special things hes done most likely hes used on others too bc hes had to(in his mind). Its another tactic for his codependancy and addiction.

    1. sarabella says:

      yes, they have to. He even called all this his ‘lyrics’. That no one would be with him if he didn’t butter them up with lyrics Pretty damn sad cause it was his lyrics that half worked but then set me on edge and had me asking enough questions he finally said, “why do you make this so hard and shit?” Why he asked?!?!?! His false lyrics and nothing else to fall back on (like a real friendship) cost it all.

      Sad thing? I already had been in love with him. His lyrics didn’t make me feel how I felt already. Yes, I dropped my guard, but they didn’t light the love. Quite the opposite, actually. They caused suspicion and distrust and now he is just a pathological liar and monster to me (his interpretation of how I regarded him at the end).

  3. Nat says:

    Even if your speech sounds exaggerated, believe me, every reasonable and smart person falls for it. There’s something so genuine about it, something so deep. It relies on our insecurities and anxieties so much… there is no way out of it, you can’t disguise.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Correct.

  4. You make the women sound so sweet, innocent or demure. Your words, your eyes do the tricks. Combined with good looks, charm and all that, I was helpless, I guess, and I don’t beat myself up over it since I know so many others fall for the illusion, too.

  5. So reading this can make me a little sick to my stomach. It does resonate with me for sure. What you have written is a little exaggerated and over the top, which is good because it makes the point so well! At the time, I did question his sincerity and somehow after a while, because I wanted it to be true, I convinced myself it was true. This is the part where I struggle with trusting myself and that intuitive voice inside that says run like hell and I don’t! Or at least I didn’t! I would like to think now I will make better choices for myself!! As always, well written HG!

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Thank you.

  6. ajo says:

    I do have to admit that that gave me anxiety as I imagined him giving that exact speech to her. Ugh. Onward and upward! Can he just discard her already so I can say “told you so!!”.

  7. Ali says:

    Sad that society as it is leaves us needy of love to the point of falling for that kind if speech.
    My take on it now is prove it in actions not in words and better yet let your behavior be a constant, not a pattern!
    Also most narcs rush into relationships because they do not have the patience to keep the mask of golden period for long.
    We are love starved in a cold- hearted world.

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