The Narcissistic Truths – No. 57

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11 thoughts on “The Narcissistic Truths – No. 57”

  1. Have a great weekend, Windstorm2, inspite of the family reunion! Field study, haha. πŸ™‚ *hugs*

  2. So then the opposite is also true, I was superior and this is why he had to cut me down. I just could never get why someone who was so aware of what he had done to me once before could so easily repeat it. Why? I was so shocked by the pain of it, I could never see or hear that it was cause he knew I was better than him. Though I still don’t get why others are allowed to be better and he can elevate them and praise them, but me? Forget it. Why so threatened by me.

  3. I really hate this one!
    Growing up I never understood it. Why everything I thought I did well had to be ridiculed in some way. It just seemed mean and abusive. I could never succeed.

    Once I was grown it puzzled me. I knew I was being successful. Others applauded and agreed. Why didn’t my mother and husband? Why did they always insult and pick at what I knew were accomplishments?

    Then one day I realized the truth. They weren’t upset because what I’d done wasn’t really good, they were upset because I’d done something praiseworthy that they had never done. I could hear the childish jealousy in their tone of voice and feel their lack of confidence in themselves.

    Now it just astonishes me that successful adults can be so insecure and self centered that when someone in the family does something special, they can’t just be happy for them. They have to belittle and criticize. It’s really pathetic and sad.

    1. Dear Windstorm2, I get it, you put it beautifully! I’m still listening to it as a grown woman, they will never change. All I can say is I have to smile gleefully when they do it. Their still five year olds wearing dirty diapersπŸ‘ΆπŸ‘

    2. Windstorm2….this is so true! Ive experiemced this with so many in my life. In my early 20s i worked in a seniors lodge as an aide. There was a manager and she was very narcissistic. There was a fine line you had to constantly tread of doing a good job but not “too good” of a job. If you recieved praise from the residents she would quickly come up with a reason to tell you you did something wrong. She always had to be superior and all praise had to link back to her. If you recieved compliments you would be wise to include her in the reasin why you were complimented. Looking back i was ultra naive and had no clue but i quickly learned to show her she was in charge. She scared me and i hated working around her!

    3. Windstorm2, a very good post!
      Yes, yes, and yes. That’s how my family and ex-partners are/were, too.
      The sad thing is that it really undermines your confidence and this leads to financial (and career) disadvantages, too, in the long run. Generally speaking, not you personally, you seem to be incredibly strong.

      1. Thank you, Ava 101!
        My mother in law told me once that she thought I was a strong person. This really shocked me. I’ve always thought I was weak because I’m not a confident, outgoing, “take charge” kind of person. I’m a quiet hide in the shadows, watch and think kind of person.

        But I’ve learned there are different types of strength. I think mine comes from understanding myself and my environment. That gives me a quiet strength that can get me through hard times.

        Hope you have a great weekend! I’m headed to a family reunion of my exhusband’s family. It’ll be like a field study of narcissists! I’ll be thinking of all you all and HGs teachings. I feel almost like I ought to take notes! πŸ˜„

      2. Have fun at the reunion. Almost like going to a Discovery Channel shoot for a wildlife documentary and getting to watch the predators roam in a natural habitat.

      3. 😝 like your analogy, Clarece! It’s motivating me to drag myself out of bed and head back over there! 12 hour drive in from Kansas yesterday has about done me in! I’m feeling my age today. But it’s so good to be back home for a while! 🏑 Hope you have a great weekend!

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