The Narcissistic Truths – No. 64

I CONTROL YOUIF YOU ESCAPEI CONTROL THE WAYOTHERS SEE YOU

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17 thoughts on “The Narcissistic Truths – No. 64”

  1. I was blessed with friends who can see right through his facade. The only ones still listening to him are his family and some of them were seriously questioning what he told them. I think at some point he will stop having anyone listen to his lies.

    I know my worth now and I know “the proof is in the pudding” as they say…
    if anyone wants to fall for the lies he tells that is on them. I have proven to a lot of folks I am never going to be any of what he claims, not by trying to prove anything but simply by being myself. Those worth my time will never fall for his smear attempts.

    he has wasted a lot of time for nothing. that must really chuff him too.

  2. Thank you Lord my friends and family never really liked him.
    Thank you Lord he never really had any friends so he couldn’t even introduce me to that non-existent circle.

    And if he does any smearing campaign within his family – well that’s what he’s been doing for entire three years anyway. They could not hate me more.

  3. This is where I’m really glad we had entirely separate friends. Although I kind of wish he’d try to smear me to my friends because I could do with a good laugh.

    I’m fairly certain he smeared me to his mother but that woman is batshit crazy and I couldn’t care less what she thinks of me. The funny thing is that I know she’s a narc herself and essentially fucked her son’s life up. But I doubt he gets it.

  4. Thanks HG. Reading this made me see more clearly the situation with my sisters. I knew my mother did this but somehow I had an aha moment this morning with regards to some periods in the past.

  5. Yes, that is exactly what my narc mother does. It is painful when the narcissist does it with friends and acquintances, but it is even more painful when it is done with your own family. It was dificult for me to deal with this. I ended up giving the whole family up, I am relatively ok with it now. I have the impression they all behave like a narcissistic unit anyway, It is as if the whole family is one person with NPD.

    1. Lou,

      It is called “herd behaviour”. They are like sheep. They are cowards, who follow the leader and do not want to have an opinion of their own.

      1. Yes, EB, many just follow like sheep, controlled by the narcs in the family, totally in denial and unconsciously afraid of being treated and labelled like I have been labelled. Like in a dictatorship, the narcs in my family have made an example of me.

      2. Me too. I’m a scapegoat and have been all my life. It fuels my defiance, though. I’d much rather be a free goat than a sheep in their herd like they wanted me to be.

    2. Same with me, Lou. I basically only see my blood relatives at funerals. Like you, I’m ok with it now, but it was hell growing up.

      1. Hi Windstorm. I am not even going to funerals. And I am thinking now I am not even going to my mother’s funeral. I have the impression she is getting some thgought fuel writting her testament. I do not want to be there when they read it.

      2. Hey Lou,
        I know what you mean! I went to an Aunt’s funeral once and I swear the preacher was talking about someone else! I wondered if he even knew her at all. She was like the wicked stepmother out of Cinderella and had always made everyone I knew’s life a living hell. She wouldn’t even let her husband see his son and two granddaughters, yet the preacher still went on and on about what a loving mother she was and how she lived her whole life for her family – with the stepson and two little girls sitting right there at the funeral!

        I wrote out the music and bible readings I wanted read at my funeral once and gave them to my mother. She tore them up and told me that funerals were for the living, not the dead and if I died first she’d do what SHE wanted at my funeral. I got the last laugh there though. Being an only child, I was in charge of her funeral!! I didn’t do anything she’d have hated, but there was sure nothing making her out to be better than she was!

        It is a shame, though, when there’s no love in a family.

  6. …The smear campaign that happens after someone suceeds on escaping the narcissist..he still tries to control her by distorting the truth about her..

    1. He honestly has no idea how much soooo many people know lmao.

      It really does put a smile on my face.

      In addition to that – to have proof of everything I say in addition to the tales of crazy…

      I find it so fucking amusing that he is clueless as to what others know about him.

      Now THAT puts a smile on my face.

    2. Smear campaigns are the narcs specialty even within a family unit. They are the doers not the done to. Constantly scheming and strategizing to be several steps ahead in case things go belly up which they know is inevitable!

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