Poll – What Would You Wish For Upon The Narcissist?


You have been granted one wish. This wish has to be applied to the narcissist (or narcissists if there was more than one) that you have entangled with in your life. Whether it was a romantic, social, familial, work or other ensnarement, what would you want the narcissist to experience? Do you wish them dead? Perhaps you want them to change and be genuinely remorseful for everything that they have done? Maybe you would prefer them to be placed in isolation and with no access to fuel? Go with your gut response. Do expand on why you chose this in the comment.

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You have one wish. The outcome of the wish is applied to the narcissist(s) you entangled with. What would you choose?

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285 thoughts on “Poll – What Would You Wish For Upon The Narcissist?”

  1. Branded with Narcissist to warn others – in an ideal world (because I care about genuine empaths and don’t think they deserve the lies/mask).

    The moral is, though, make your own luck. The narc is nothing to be envious or jealous of, as they can love nobody. It’s just a perpetual circle of games and fakeness. Stay in it if you want constant pointless drama, or get out and stay out.

  2. Wish the two narcs I cared for would no
    longer be narcissists. Would be good as I will continue to have contact with them but main reason is I genuinely want them to feel happiness and be content with simple things in life. Tthey never are. I can usually feel what they feel, the resentment, craving for power, control, jealousy, anger, never content and never happy, to me it’s such an awful existence. I normally block those out but for some reason I was so charmed by the greater narc that I allowed too much of him to be absorbed and sometimes those feelings became mine. so I know and I wish they could feel differently, not be narcs anymore.

  3. If narcs can’t heal and become decent human beings, then I would love to see all the “humans” in this Cluster B disorder rounded up and put on a top security island surrounded by an electrified barbed wire fence with 24-hr armed guards. They would all have to live forever with each other. And if one did happen to escape, the shore around the island would have to be populated by extremely hungry great whites. No TV, no exercise rooms, no books, no entertainment of any kind permitted, ever. All they have is each other’s evil company. I can think of tons of things I’d wish for them. I think Ali’s suggestion is brilliant.

      1. Hey, NarcAngel,
        I laughed at your comment. But I have to say that I liken narcs to cancer, the ONLY exception being cancer really doesn’t know what it’s doing. It’s just cancer. And I can’t wait for the day when cancer is eradicated. Narcs are like cancer in that they continue to grow malignantly and kill you slowly in the process. They take over every aspect of your life, leave you confused, weak, terrified and, in my case, LITERALLY fighting for my life. A counselor at the crisis center told me many, many people like me end up in crisis, she is very familiar with the disorder and that these people just simply do not care. THEY DON’T CARE. They enjoy what they do. There is no cure. And…..she said, “There is not one reason for these people to exist.” Sometimes when I read some of the comments it disturbs me because I don’t really think some people grasp fully what they are dealing with. You are dealing with 100% evil walking around in human bodies. I don’t care how they got that way. On some level I believe we all choose how we are going to be at an early age; we just don’t realize consciously that we have made a choice.
        I thought my idea was pretty tame if you look at it from my point of view. I don’t believe in the death penalty or torture or any of that. However, they should never, under any circumstances whatsoever, ever, ever, ever be allowed to live among the decent. Think of this: My story ALMOST ended in my death and my family was terrified for me. If this happened to your daughter, how would you feel about my suggestion then?
        All that said, I know you were kidding. I just felt the need to expand on my suggestion. It’s all good. 🙂
        I look at it like a scientist now. I don’t hate them. I just see them for what they are. HG’s writings really drove the point home to me. Maybe HG would agree with me; I don’t really know. I wouldn’t speak for him, but I don’t think he would take any offense — BECAUSE HE DOESN’T CARE!!! Peace out.

      2. I still can’t fully accept that they just dont care. I think they do care and all this smoke and mirrors (abuse) is all about control because they care so much that they are not worthy of anyone’s love

      3. Lisa
        I understand what you mean. I felt that way for decades myself. I mean it just doesn’t make sense that they could really not love us at all. But, unfortunately, they really don’t.

        They can enjoy our company and the life we build together, they can want to keep us and fear us leaving, they can be proud of the family we build with them and not want it to end – but they never really love us. No matter what aspect of the relationship you mean, they will just shrug, think “c’est la vie” and move on when it ends. They truly believe that – no matter what you’re talking about: kids, home, wife, lover, job – “eh, I can get a new one, maybe even better.”

        It’s so hard to believe, since we’re so different, but it’s true. I’ve personally seen too many examples to not believe it any more.

      4. Yes I suppose your right but I know my ex has suffered when his exes have finally had enough of him . Whether that’s down to lack of control or loss of attention or being rejected which they do not like , I don’t know , but it does bother them but maybe not for the same reasons it bothers us . Mine is suffering at the moment due to me not responding to hoovers but when I say suffering he’s suffering for himself without a thought of how any of this has ever affected me

    1. Thanks veritas, I think your wish is just as brilliant… they all deserve each other in eternal hell, tis only fair.

      1. Thank you, Ali. The only thing I could add to your wish is that after they heal and become empaths while they are being tortured they must have full knowledge that they were once that way and this is what they did to others. 🙂

    2. Veritas i just read your rely to narcangel. So sorry this happened to you. My situation is very tame compared to so many ive come across. It still hurts like hell but i can see where other people have suffered way worse. It puts things in perspective. It really is no laughing matter.

  4. I wish they could genuinely feel the full spectrum of emotional connection and have the wounds they placated upon others felt fully within.

    Yet more to the source I wish they couldn’t bare children so the generational pattern can cease and pain irretrievably be ended for all generations to come.

  5. I wish for them to feel the pain of betrayal alone in an isolated cabin for about a month without a phone or access to any social media.

  6. Actually, I just thought of something better: the worse thing for a narc would be similar to Dante’s inferno except that they would be alone in a room full of empaths who were deaf and interested in the opposite sex. Wouldn’t that be hell for them HG? Terrible thought 🙂

  7. HG

    Would you hazard a guess at what percentage of Empaths who are now aware they were ensnared and vow never again, actually would be ensnared again due to their ingrained traits and beliefs?

    1. Hi NarcAngel. It seems to me that there are the following scenarios

      1. Those who know they have been ensnared, vow never again, but are caught by the same narc again – I would say this would be 75%
      2. Those who know they have been ensnared, vow never again, but are caught by a different narc – I would say 50-60%
      3. Those of the above 1 or 2 who have read my material, know they have been ensnared and have either been ensnared again by the same narc or a different one – 20%

      Of course there is no empirical study and is anecdotal in nature.

      1. That’s rather ominous.
        Except #3. Thanks to you for greatly reducing our ex-narcs’ odds, HG!

      2. Interesting numbers, HG. Just my opinion, but I think the numbers are so high because people are often quick to swear “never again” but unwilling to keep up the effort and vigilance success requires. I think this is true with all kinds of things, not just narcs. May just be part of human nature.

      3. Hmmm…very interesting perspective HG:) your articles are definitely knowledgeable and empowering. But I do remember when I first started reading them how triggered I was. Knowing that this is how your kind really thinks and feels and does kind of made me feel horrible and raw all over again. At the same time I almost think of your articles like exposure type therapy. The more I read the more weaponized I felt and the lesser the emotional impact, until the emotions and anxiety pretty much disappeared.I can honestly say your insight and wisdom has cured me of whatever sick obsession I had and has helped on a wider scale as well. You are the only narcissist I will ever follow around HG:)

      4. HG
        Thank you for your reply and for expanding. I wondered if the numbers would be high despite the assertions of never again from many. Time tends to alter or diminish memories and the traits of the Empath such as forgiveness and second chances are deeply ingrained. I do think however that those percentages can be greatly reduced if one continues to read here to reinforce the memory with facts, and the experiences and support of others.

      5. HG I agree 100% with what you just wrote. The more one is educated the more that we read your books , articles and participate in your live stream question and answers the higher percentage we have of staying away from future narcs. There is no shortcut there is in my opinion no way to prevent being in snared unless we continue to become informed. I think the mistake of some people make is the read a few articles they read a couple of bags and they think their set and they think that they can prevent becoming in snared that is not the case because as you have stated and so many articles and books we as empaths will always be in danger of being in snared because we are just as attracted to the narcissist as they are to us so the only sure way to preventing that is to keep getting informed on a daily basis thank you so much for providing that instrument for all of us.
        my deepest gratitude always 🌺

      1. Ali..
        I think most of them do fear exposure but the ones who don’t are very dangerous in my opinion. The Greater I encountered did not seem to fear exposure (unless he just hid it well in order to appear convincing and counter any attempt one would make to expose him). He was clearly a Sociopath though and his abusive behaviors severely escalated once he was exposed.

        The Mid Ranger I know well shows her fear of exposure in her body language and tries the pre-emptive smear campaign which most fall for.

  8. I wish my ex narc wud no longer b a narcissist. I wish he cud feel love, empathy, joy, sadness (for others), guilt, remorse, attachment. I wish we cud live happily ever after.


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