Understanding the Fuel Matrix
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All narcissists have fuel matrices and you need to understand where you fit into that fuel matrix and how that particular matrix functions as part of protecting yourself.
This Logic Bulletin takes you through :-
1. The Fuel Matrices of all sub schools of narcissist. This includes updated and expanded information about the Upper Lesser Type A and Upper Lesser Type B Narcissists, plus the Middle Mid Range Type A and Type B Narcissists.
2. What the Fuel Matrices look like, their size, the nature of the matrices and who sits in them.
3. How the relevant narcissist of each sub school relies on the individuals in the Fuel Matrix
4. What the Virtual Fuel Matrix is and how it operates.
5. How a Long Distance Appliance fits into it the narcissist fuel matrix and how that functions.
6. Detailed descriptions of each sub-school of narcissist, their behaviours and actions to increase your understanding of the different types of narcissist. This is a comprehensive expansion which will help you understand a lot more about the way different sub schools of narcissist operate.
A fascinating and educational exploration of the fuel matrix and the interaction between you and the narcissist, this is essential to know how the narcissist behaves so you can ensure your No Contact Regime is as effective as possible. It is also advanced reading for those who feel they are well-acquainted with the narcissistic dynamic from their existing reading and consultations.
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18 thoughts on “Understanding the Fuel Matrix”
K – so your parents treated you both differently?
You have a real twin narc?!, K?
Hello ava101, yes I do. He is my twin brother and I had a front row seat to the abuse that my parents put him through. My parents were Lessers.
ohhh how interesting. He was more abused than you? You turned out empath and he narc? ?? And how horrible for you (the witnessing, the abuse, the parents). 🙁
Do you think you ever got more trust from him or more insight into his mind than other people? Did you feel your being different very early on?
I felt at the beginning that my exnarc was like a twin brother to me, but that of course was different, and the illusion and mirroring. 🙁
Yes, I did feel the difference very early. When we were really little we played together nicely, making mud pies and sand castles, but then he changed; he became very quiet, withdrawn and distant. He was replaced by something else between the ages of 6 and 9. He became very mean hitting, kicking and punching me. This sounds terrible, but he became my enemy. There was absolutely no trust between us. I was his personal punching bag and no one protected me from him.
When you wrote about your exnarc being like a twin, it makes complete sense; they are a (twisted) mirror image of you. It is one of the most sinister talents I have ever witnessed.
well, I’m sure it was terrible for you. And how sad. I can hardly imagine how it must have been for you. Extraordinarily hard to cope with.
My next older sister punched me, used needles on me, etc., too, but there was an age gap, more distance between us.
Yes, a twisted mirror image, exactly. A dark twin.
A dark twin. Very good, ava101. I like it.
Hi HG , mine is somewhere between a Mid Lesser and a Lesser Mid is that possible , he is however 100 per cent victim cadre ? Is that combination possible ? As it’s jumping levels in a way, but Upper Lesser is not quite right for him ?
Well best description would be TFUPD 🙄
Him drinking in the same bar 2 nights a week with same group is spot on
Steady job but minimum wage and no responsibility
Only getting along with a couple of people at work
Same small groups of friends since school and not many
Runs to Mummy and Sister
Has some issues with some family members
Creature of habit – rigid – OCD
I seriously doubt 2 intimate PS but could be secondary or more likely hook ups
Def has some cognitive function but low intelligence
Tries to keep fury in control
Never been violent with me but could be I think if I was very volatile
My twin is an LLN. He is extremely violent, hasn’t worked in 23 years, has a drinking problem and he would sponge off my father (money for cigarettes and beer). Dad died in 2010. He has always lived with my mother and I think they are each others fuel source? IDK? When he was young, he would call 1-900-sexmeup hotlines.
Entirely possible to be one another’s fuel sources.
I thought that was the case, HG. Thank you for clarifying. The Incredible Sulk, Expanded Narc Truths NO-4 and the Fuel Matrixes have been very helpful with identification and things are really starting to click now, and, knock-on-wood, I think indifference is around the corner.
My first narcissist boyfriend was a ULN. There was no bronze period. He behaved a like a pompous-ass-troglodyte and thought he was “all that and a bag of chips”. He used prostitutes and told me about it. I did not care; I was fine with that arrangement. I am fairly certain he is now married to a mid-range narcissist. He also used a tire iron to smash some poor taxi cab driver in the head once. He was very hostile, when we argued he would punch the wall over my shoulder or the car dashboard. This post is very accurate, as well.
Thank you K.
So, now I am curious about my first boyfriend. He was very much a lesser (physically aggressive, built like a wrestler, not bright). Now here is where he is different and i am not sure where he is within this school. He was funny(albeit crude humor), was a party guy with lots of friends, had some simple charm and drew people to him in his youth though not as much as he got older. He cheated(probably many times, though I did not know until after), that was his thing-Sex. Pretty sure he was a somatic. Not a victim type at all, no pity parties. He had a huge ego and thought he was more attractive than he really was. He bragged about sex, though rightfully(one thing he was good at). Kept a solid job, though nothing to write home about career wise.
So, where would he fit? Not smart enough to be an Upper Lesser, but has some charm and people liked him (until he got older). I think he got worse as he aged, so I hear. Middle lesser?
This stuff is starting to feel and sound like science class. Hated THAT too. Sigh….
Oh no!!!! 😱 Said as a retired science teacher!!
Dear HG, your description of the upper lesser narcissist and his fuel matrix mirrors the somatic narcissist I am involved with to perfection!!! In every detail. Your knowledge is breathtaking. Thank you!!!
Hello Urusula, you are most welcome.