The Narcissistic Truths – No. 150



21 thoughts on “The Narcissistic Truths – No. 150”

      1. Thats true HG. We all want certain things out of life but whether they are fulfilling is a completely other matter. The need for fuel and the required game playing it requires to me seems empty and a lot of energy when itd be more rewarding feeling that fuel from within and being self sufficient, but thats my perspective. I know this from my own situation trying to gain validation and approval from others and still feeling left lacking. Its an endless pusuit for a narcissist.

  1. This picture depicts a world that I would find very difficult to resist… might be best that I never meet that poker playing, man of my dreams after all…….Diva

  2. So true! That is exactly how I think he sees me (and everybody else). I wouldn’t give him the complimentary title of Grand Master though 😂

  3. Brilliant choice of image as one side is clearly screwed and cannot win. Question is: which one? The only way to win the game here would be to change the rules. And so we must.

        1. the only effective strategy I can see here ( and that I have learned here) is to detect and spot before when someone ( a narcissist) is trying to draw one into this game and to avoid it. Actually three of your books have been and still are very useful to avoid entering that game: Red Flags, Black Flags and the articles : Exposed “How to Flush out the Narcissist”. Although I think it is still a little bit difficult to detect a narcissist from the upper schools: the Greater .They are more calculating. ..more difficult to detect. Any specific Red Flag for detecting them?
          Better avoiding than entering…once you enter the game…well that is another story…

          1. I see… thank you for your answer:
            “There is a slight smell of brimstone…”
            It did not sound like a serious or clear answer unless of course you mean: brimstone=sulfur=burning=fire

            “The definition of brimstone is sulfur, usually referenced when describing hell.”

            The smell of sulfur coming from the Greater’s wrath, fury, devilish nature and malice?

          2. Hi Superxena…….a very interesting question……I think you may judge of a man’s character by the persons whose affection he seeks. If you find a man seeking only the affection of those who are great, depend upon it he is ambitious and self-seeking; but when you observe that a man seeks the affection of those who can do nothing for him, but for whom he must do everything, you know that he is not seeking himself, but that pure benevolence sways his heart – Charles Haddon Spurgeon ….


          3. Hello Diva!
            I like your comment :”I think you may judge of a man’s character by the persons whose affection he seeks. ” It reminds me about an idiomatic expression we have on ( one) of my home countries:
            “You can judge a man by the company he keeps ”
            I had not heard about tCharles Haddon Spurgeon before so I googled him: an English preacher?
            I was reflecting about what you wrote. Very interesting .
            I interpret it as:
            Those who seek just the ones that can give them something for mainly selfish purposes and to serve their own aims(“self seeking”) That would describe the narcissist.
            Those who seek even the ones that can’t give them nothing because they are unselfish ,benevolent, good hearted souls without expecting nothing in return?
            I partly agree with this . Sometimes you have to be selfish even though you are at the other side of the fence( non-narcissist) . The main difference I think is perhaps on the intentions of your acts. You can still be selfish without harming ( wanting to harm )people ….

            By the way: How are the Cuban rhythms going

  4. The narcissistic relationship is incredibly surreal.
    HG are you a fan of Salvador Dali. I noticed quite a few of your blog images resemble his work?
    Do you see your self as the King of the castle, HG? Surveying your land for a fitting Queen.

    1. No necessarily of Dali himself, I do find surreal art work interesting. Indeed I am king of the castle, sat high in my Relational Tower.

      1. I do enjoy artistic Surrealism.

        The images you chose HG are always thought provoking and match the articles ingeniously.

        And what does the King predominantly see from atop his Relational Tower?
        Besides fuel lines, machinations and legacy. Peons or potential?

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