Fifteen Boundary Breakers



We never respect boundaries, do not regard them as applicable to us, whether those boundaries are accepted social conventions or boundaries enshrined in law, we have little or no regard for them. These rules, procedures, conventions and laws are for the little people, not titans such as us. We go where we want, when we want and do what we want. Driven by our astonishing sense of entitlement, absent empathy and innate superiority, we smash through barriers and boundaries every day. This is a total mind set which we adopt and the examples of this are legion. Here are fifteen instance of our boundary breaking behaviours.

  1. Anything of yours is automatically ours.
  2. You are an extension of us.
  3. We make you feel guilty if you say no to us.
  4. We make you believe that you are something that you are not.
  5. We ignore and/or deny your needs.
  6. We invade your spaces.
  7. We allow your sense of self-esteem and self-worth to be eroded.
  8. We make you solely responsible for our needs.
  9. We make you say “yes” to us through a sense of obligation.
  10. We make you feel it is necessary to always please us.
  11. We treat you unequally.
  12. We fail to support you.
  13. We expect you to agree with us all of the time.
  14. We expect you to read our minds so you do what we want.
  15. We dominate your resources – time, energy, attention, socialising, money and emotions.

8 thoughts on “Fifteen Boundary Breakers

  1. “…whether those boundaries are accepted social conventions or boundaries enshrined in law, we have little or no regard for them.” HG
    Family of Sate wide Police officers, sheriff’s & Fire chiefs is my N’s fall back position. Just add nepotism and stir.
    Today we say good bye to the top Sgt of a five man force here at home, my N.’s best team player.

  2. Kim michaud says:

    I did many of the things on the list willingly that’s what scares me the most a normal person wouldn’t tolerate this I’m wondering what about me allowed me and still allows me to squander my precious energy on him it’s almost like the perfect storm of two psychosis meeting and feeding off each other each screaming at the other feed me feed me but neither one able to feed the other due to our own emptiness

  3. DebbieWolf says:

    Bang on.

    I feel totally validated by all of this article’s points.
    All familiar to a tee.

    Trouble trouble trouble when I said no.. I’m glad to say that I continued to say it because it just wasn’t on to end up being ruled to within an inch of my life. I just couldn’t cope with the smothering of me.
    I have every right to live and breathe In My Own Way just like everyone of you do too.

    Number three particularly resonates. . . making me feel guilty if I didn’t do what he wanted so I would say no ….ties in with the other point that said you always have to agree with them… if I didn’t agree with him I was treated like some kind of Criminal and got a telling off like a kid!

    This was a red rag to a bull with me and caused huge arguments. It was me with the ignited fury in this particular case lol… however I now see that it was just delicious fuel…
    HG has shown how to handle all this in a better more effective way should it ever happen.
    The things he teaches will change our lives.

    Luckily for me I have escaped.. but I am pretty much armed and weaponized if I am presented with this kind of behaviour ever again.

    I appreciate the shield.

  4. Diva says:

    15. We dominate your resources – time, energy, attention, socialising, and emotions.

    Just so you know…..You are breaking my boundaries with this blog HG……….

    But you don’t have a hope in hell regarding no 13!!!!……..Diva

  5. Merripen says:

    Another succinct, spot-on rundown of their m.o., their tasklist. In my own case, every box was ticked. It’s like there’s a playbook that each narcissist receives thru osmosis, a sort of collective unconsciousness received only by this group. The possibility of this makes me wonder what Carl Jung would have thought about it. What archetype would he have assigned someone with narcissism. It’d be an interesting rabbit hole to go down.

  6. Tiddlywink says:

    He certainly took away my time, energy, emotions, self esteem, and almost my money by trying to get my account details and pin, but thankfully i was astute enough not to give those. He lives only for himself… or should i say, for his “good and helpful guy” facade, by firstly using women for his needs and traits and their status, then squashing them if they dare to challenge “his rules”.. then its bye by and “his way or the highway”, while he grooms the next supply..oh of course all along he is getting his “good guy” fuel from his IPPS and IPSS and their families… So glad to be out of that anxiety prone, belittling nightmare…

  7. Tappan Zee says:

    A good start..

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