The Narcissistic Truths – No. 175


36 thoughts on “The Narcissistic Truths – No. 175

  1. narc affair says:

    This meme really sums up how i feel after my narc contacts post disengagement. Its like the most warming hopeful moment and sigh of relief…yup very dysfunctional 🙁

  2. Sillyolperson says:

    Dear Mr Tudor,

    The calm before the storm!

    Absolutely Fabulous !

    1. Sillyolperson says:

      I wish I never replied to that first text!

      Ends up like a tornedo then tsunami!

  3. Lisa says:

    6 months no contact

  4. ANK says:

    Yep, and often before the sun had even risen. Everyday. Now the new IPPS is on the receiving end of the texts.

  5. Romi says:

    I can connect with this.

  6. 12345 says:

    I used to get text messages in the morning saying “good morning, babe…just wanted to let you know I’ll be in depositions all day today so I won’t be reachable but I adore you.” Queue the next shelf girl for the day! I believed his words at the time but now know what his words really meant. I wonder how many of those texts he’d have to send on those mornings.

  7. Restored Heart says:

    Todays’ dawn marked one year N/C from me to the Greater. Not to the degree of your book ‘No Contact’ HG, as our spheres will always cross daily, the history is too deep & I have never loved another like I did him 30 years ago.
    I know it’s supposed to feel like an achievement etc. but it doesn’t. It feels empty & not like a victory at all.
    I find it hard to feel celebration at the cost of another human being whose life was made like this at the hands of others including myself but there is no self pity there just sadness at what we do to each other.
    I am grateful for all I’ve learnt & can now see, & that he saved me, yet I can have no contact with him. I hate it & I miss him.
    Thankyou HG for providing a place to say this today as I have nowhere else.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      You are welcome RH and congratulations on achieving one year – you are seizing the power.

    2. Tappan Zee says:

      RH—that’s a letter right there. well put. congrats on the year that still feels void and stripped. well done. even if it still hurts. NC is the only way and hurts about the same or more as being with them. at least we know what to expect: misery. with out the dynamic it’s a whole other misery. one year is like a death. all the first time xmas, bday, this and that. you know, mile stones. that’s how grief works. it passes. in phases. hope this does too. for you. and for me. one day at a time. worst clichè ever. :/

  8. nevermore says:

    I literally laughed when I saw this because it reminded me of “red sky at morning, sailor take warning” if only I had known then what I have learned from you HG!

  9. Flickatina says:

    An effective unit? You are flesh and blood – not an appliance (we are the appliances 🙂 )

    I am well thanks – I miss it here but don’t feel I have much to add these days as I am not actively involved with a narc. The odd attempt at a hoover here and there…….

    I just like to say hi every now and again 🙂

    1. HG Tudor says:

      I am ‘one’ and I am effective. You are always welcome to drop by and say hello.

  10. Flickatina says:

    Hello everyone! How are you all?

    How are you HG? Busy fuel gathering? Keeping well I hope?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Hello Flickatina, I am excellent well thank you and remain an effective unit. I hope you are well.

    2. Twilight says:

      Hi Flickatina

      How have you been?

      1. Flickatina says:

        Good thanks Twilight. You?

        I’m looking forward to my holiday in Madeira soon. Although I had paid for the flights in February with an airline that went bust in October! I had to buy new flights 🙁 Hopefully I’ll get my money back though. The important thing is I am still going on holiday!

        1. Twilight says:

          Hi Flickatina

          I am great thank you!

          Holidays are wonderful, I do hope yours is exciting and relaxing.

          I am planning one going into the New Year, if that week hasn’t been taken already. I will know sometime this week.

    3. narc affair says:

      Nice to see you flickatina! Ive missed your sense of humor. Hope to see you post more 🙂

  11. Twilight says:

    IMO this is in reference to the morning texts one gets in the beginning

    1. HG Tudor says:


    2. Windstorm2 says:

      I understand that part, but why the ocean? My instinct says because oceans are scary and dangerous things that should be stayed away from even though they can be beautiful. And those morning texts are ultimately harmful too and can metaphorically drown you, despite how wonderful they seem at the time.
      But most people aren’t afraid of oceans…..but then most people would never fear morning texts either. Why did you choose an ocean, HG?

      1. HG Tudor says:

        ‘Tis the emotional sea.

        1. Windstorm2 says:

          Oh!! I was initially correct! That’s very gratifying. All too often I’m just over analyzing and over thinking things! Overthinking is an oft heard criticism- but then, it’s usually the narcs hurling it at me. Lol!

  12. thepianist20 says:

    And then the second text message arrives..

  13. HKGirl says:

    The calm before the storm?

    1. Sillyolperson says:

      Dear HKGirl,

      My apologies, I used the same words without seeing yours first!
      We think alike 😊

  14. Tappan Zee says:

    May as well be a bullet.

  15. Twilight says:

    Good morning……

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Good morning.

      1. Twilight says:

        Do you see the sun rise over the water from where you are?

        1. HG Tudor says:

          Depends where I am.

          1. Twilight says:

            Did you see the sun rise over the water this morning?

          2. HG Tudor says:

            No. I was away and operating before the sun had even considered making an appearance.

          3. Twilight says:

            Hope all is running smoothly

  16. Windstorm2 says:

    Emotional Sea?

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