The Narcissist’s Social Media Laws – No. 14

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12 thoughts on “The Narcissist’s Social Media Laws – No. 14”

  1. I’m Schizoid which bears a passing resemblance to your disorder except that I don’t need supply. I am enough in myself without the need for outside affirmation. I am my own world. I would deliberately ignore or bait my NPD partner and my favourite trick was to just disappear in my car for hours, sometimes days, and watch her repeatedly ring, ring, ring, text, all of it. It drove her beyond anger to a place that almost unseated her mind. Unfortunately I always came back, well, until the day I left and never returned. She secured new supply within 5 days. I secured my freedom and my “sanity”.

  2. I fail hopelessly in this department.
    With everyone.
    I was never devalued for it though.
    Why do you think my delayed responses never ignited his fury, HG?

    1. You may have been devalued but not realised. He may have had good control so you never saw the ignited fury or he directed it elsewhere rather than at you.

      1. He must have had excellent control in that area.
        But, not in other ways.
        Thank you HG.

  3. Or else in my case there were like ten messages on my phone when I came out from an hour at the gym starting out all pleasantly with longing and love, going through a phase of why the hell didn’t I answer? until it was stated blatantly in the end that he presumed me to be dead (or in the arms of another man..).

  4. At least, that is how it worked out for me – I became a pretender, like him. The reason: I didn’t want to get crushed, I didn’t want to give up, I wanted to reach him, to connect to him. It worked to some extent, but in the end I had to give up on him anyway. It still makes me sad.

  5. The conditioning is cruel, especially when you are long-distance. I became glued to my phone, to avoid him being away for hours or days when I didn’t respond within minutes. Learnt to deal with it a bit by acting like it didn’t bother me – but it did!

    This always pretending – that you are cool while you are not, that you are strong while you are in fear – this is where you start losing yourself, where you enter their world and become them, I suppose…

  6. Yet if a message I sent to you said read it doesn’t mean you read it.
    Luckily in Australia we don’t have the ability to see if a text message has been read. It’s a few years off yet.

    1. Hi Elaine

      I’m in Australia & I can tell when some of my contacts have read messages or not. I can always tell on messenger & on text it depends on their type of phone & their settings. It will tell me read & at what time.

  7. So very true! My Narc once told me I had 2 minutes to respond after message delivery. I told him that sometimes I actually ate, showered, slept, worked, etc… He generously said no more than 20 minutes or I’d never hear from him again.🙄 I complied. He also actually texted and called when I was sleeping…

  8. My narcs never been like this but i have at times. Not expecting within 10 secs tho. Hes always answered within a timely manner so when hes gone a hour or so and its been read i feel upset. I know this is ridiculous but when youve had someone who does and get used to it you notice the contrast and its bothersome. I guess thats where trust matters bc if there was trust then it wouldnt be as much of a big deal but when you dont and especially when you know youre with a narcissist you start to wonder why the change?

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